Consequences provide an opportunity to learn and grow from our mistakes. They give us a chance to problem solve, model, teach, and practice ways to do better next time.
The most effective consequences are natural consequences – events that occur naturally. For example:
- A student doesn’t do their work – they get a bad grade,
- A student pushes someone down – they don’t want to play with them anymore,
- A student breaks a computer – now the class doesn’t have one.
We often “rescue” these young people, and “solve” their problems, not allowing natural consequences to happen. Class meetings are a good way to help students realize the true consequences of their behavior and hold them accountable. It can give them a chance to learn valuable problem solving strategies, like:
- Get help solving a problem – “How can I get my work done?”
- Repair a relationship – “How can I earn back your trust so you’ll play with me?”
- Fix a mistake they made – “I need to help pay for the computer’s repair.”
We may be able to help students work through their natural consequences. For example, if a student is not getting their work done, we can break down their assignment into smaller parts or get them a tutor. If a student keeps pushing students on the playground, we may need to help them with their social skills development. If a child breaks the computer, we may need to teach how to use it carefully.
Logical consequences do not occur naturally, we create them. As a result, they are limited by our imagination and intent. Remember, our intent must always be to HELP, not to HURT. The best logical consequences are developed WITH the student:
- “What ideas do you have about how to get your work done? Could you do it after school? During lunch/recess?”
- “What can you do to help ___ feel better now that you’ve pushed him down? Do you need to write him an apology? Eat lunch with him and me today?”
- “How can we get the computer fixed? Could you pick up the room every day to earn some money to get it fixed?”
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Reference: Partners in Empowerment, (Tate, Copas, Wasmund)