|

Creating Classrooms of Belonging: Welcoming Students Back with Intention and Care

As educators, the start of a new year brings a unique opportunity to reestablish our classrooms as spaces where every student feels safe, valued, and ready to thrive. While winter break is a time of joy, connection, and rest for some, for others, it may amplify challenges like unmet basic needs, family stress, or the loss of predictable routines. This duality reminds us of our powerful role in shaping how students experience the return to learning.

Belonging: A Universal Need 

At its core, belonging is a universal human need as vital as food and shelter. When students feel genuinely connected to their peers, teachers, and school community, they are better equipped to engage, learn, and succeed. Conversely, a lack of belonging perpetuates cycles of stress, disengagement, and worry. As we welcome students back into our classrooms, we have the opportunity to foster authentic connections that promote healing, joy, and academic growth.

Strategies to Build Belonging: Simple, Powerful, and Transformative

Creating a classroom where every student feels they belong doesn’t require a big budget, fancy curriculum, or endless resources. The magic lies in small, intentional actions rooted in empathy and care. These strategies are easy to implement and cost nothing but a shift in mindset—one that recognizes the power we hold as educators to inspire joy, foster healing, and nurture connection.

  •  Greet Students Like They’re the Best Part of Your Day: Imagine the power of hearing your name spoken with warmth and genuine enthusiasm every morning. A simple, heartfelt greeting at the door can set the tone for the entire day. Add in a smile, a high-five, or even a silly handshake if that’s your vibe. This daily ritual tells students, “You matter here. I’m glad you’re back.”

🌟Try this: “Good morning, [Name]! I’m so happy to see you today. Ready to make it a great one?”

  • “Catch” Them Doing Something Right: We all thrive on feeling appreciated, and kids are no different. Instead of focusing on what’s going wrong, make it a game to spot what’s going right—every time a student helps a peer, gives their best effort, or even manages to stay calm during a challenging moment. Let them know you see their efforts, no matter how small.

🌟Mindset Shift: Instead of thinking, “Why are they acting out?” ask yourself, “What can I praise or acknowledge right now?” or “What do I need to reteach or redirect in this moment to support growth?”.

  • Teach Through Stories That Celebrate Everyone: You don’t need expensive materials to show students the beauty of diversity and acceptance. Incorporate books, articles, and real-life examples that reflect their unique identities and broaden their horizons. When students see themselves and others celebrated in the curriculum, they feel valued and inspired. 

🌟Easy Add-On: Start your class, day, or week with a story, video, or discussion highlighting resilience, courage, or kindness from different cultures or perspectives.

  • Find the Threads That Connect You: Every student has something that lights them up—a hobby, a dream, or a quirky interest. Find those threads and weave them into your conversations. Better yet, help students discover what they have in common with one another. These shared connections can be the bridge to deeper relationships.

🌟 Quick Win: During downtime, ask, “What’s something you love doing outside of school?” Then share something about yourself—it’s a two-way street!

  • Sprinkle in Joy and Laughter: Laughter is the ultimate icebreaker and stress reliever. A silly moment, a shared joke, or a quick dance break can transform a tense day into one filled with lightness. Joy builds trust, and trust builds belonging. 

🌟 Keep it Simple: Play a quick game, share a funny story, or even let your students see your goofy side—it’s more powerful than you think.

  • Respond to Every Bid for Connection: Sometimes, connection looks like a raised hand, a whispered question, a blurt out, a loud noise, or even a quiet glance in your direction. Responding to these small gestures with care signals to students that you’re present and they matter. 

🌟 Your New Motto: “I see you. I hear you. I’m here for you.”

  • Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection: Achievement isn’t always about hitting big milestones—it’s about celebrating the journey. Recognize the small victories, whether it’s a student raising their hand for the first time, working through a tough problem, or simply showing up. 

🌟 What It Looks Like: “You stayed calm during that tricky group project—way to go! Let’s celebrate that win together.”

A Mindset That Changes Everything

None of these strategies require extra planning periods, special training, or additional funds. They require a willingness to pause, reflect, and shift how we see our students—and ourselves. It’s about remembering that every interaction is an opportunity to build connection, trust, and belonging. 

By simply leaning into what we already know is best, and doing it with a trauma-informed, resilience-focused lens, we can transform our classrooms into joyful, supportive spaces where students not only learn but thrive. 

Let’s make the rest of this school year the one where every student walks into our classrooms and feels like they’ve found their place—a place where they’re not just learners, but valued members of a community that sees them, supports them, and celebrates who they are. Together, we’ve got this!

Your Turn

What strategies do you use to promote belonging in your classroom? Find us on social media and share your thoughts and experiences —we’d love to hear how you’re inspiring joy and connection in your learning spaces this year.

|

Guiding Children Through the Holiday Hustle: Strength-Based Strategies for Thriving Together

Ah, the holiday season—the jingling bells, twinkling lights, and the ever-present smell of cookies baking in the oven (or maybe burning, no judgment). For many, it’s a time of joy, family togetherness, and celebration. But let’s be honest: the holidays can also bring stress, financial strain, and the kind of family dynamics that only a sitcom writer could dream up. And for families navigating trauma or significant challenges, this time of year can feel less like a warm hug and more like an emotional minefield. 

Here’s the good news: you don’t need the perfect holiday card photo or a stress-free December (as if that exists) to create meaningful, joyous moments with your children. By focusing on a strengths-based approach, we can empower our kids—and ourselves—to thrive, even in the face of adversity. Let’s unwrap the gift of resilience, one connection at a time.

The Circle of Courage: A Compass for Connection

At Starr Commonwealth, we believe the secret ingredient to peaceful family interactions is applying the Circle of Courage philosophy. This framework emphasizes the universal needs of all children: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. These pillars remind us that every child has unique strengths, interests, and the potential to shine—even if life feels cloudy. 

When we intentionally nurture these needs, we help children feel safe, seen, and supported. Here’s a quick peek at how this philosophy can guide us: 

  • Belonging: Kids thrive when they feel part of something bigger than themselves. 
  • Mastery: Celebrate their progress, not perfection. Success can be as small as tying a shoe or as big as solving a Rubik’s Cube in record time. 
  • Independence: Foster their ability to make choices and express themselves. 
  • Generosity: Encourage acts of kindness, from helping a sibling to crafting a homemade card for a neighbor. 

This approach isn’t about “fixing kids” but recognizing their inherent strengths and meeting them where they are as we nurture what is unique and great within them—helping their little lights shine!

Connection is the Best Holiday Tradition

When the season gets overwhelming (hello, school concerts, and last-minute gift wrapping), dismissing a child’s “Look at me!” moments as interruptions is easy. But those small bids for attention are golden opportunities to connect. 

Proactive Connection or proactively responding to their bids for attention means finding ways to engage with your child before they need to ask for it… or, let’s be honest, demand it. Here are a few ideas: 

  • The 5-Minute Rule: Spend five uninterrupted minutes each day doing something your child loves—no phones, no multitasking. Just play, chat, or cuddle. 
  • “Catch Them Being Helpful”:  Notice and praise positive behaviors, even the small ones. (“Thanks for setting the table—it looks amazing!”) 
  • Humor is Magic: A well-timed joke or silly face can diffuse tension faster than any parenting book. 

Strategies for Strength and Healing

Building resilience doesn’t require grand gestures or expensive tools. Here are three simple, practical resources you can weave into your holiday survival toolkit: 

  1. One-Minute Resilience Building Interventions: These quick strategies are designed to fit into your busy day. Try simple activities like mindfulness breathing, offering a compliment, or sharing a moment of gratitude during dinner. They’re proof that big changes can start with small actions. 
  2. Mind-Body Skills – Activities for Emotional Regulation: Help your child learn to regulate their emotions by incorporating practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or even gentle yoga. These skills calm the nervous system and build emotional resilience—great for navigating the holiday chaos. 
  3. GoodTimer: This family-friendly tool uses positive reinforcement to encourage good choices. It’s a tangible way for kids to see their progress and gives parents a break from the constant “no” cycle. Bonus: it’s a fantastic stocking stuffer! 

Hint, hint: Discounts are now live for all the above resources through the holiday season!

Embracing Imperfection and Choosing Hope 

If the holidays feel more “messy and stressful” than “merry and bright,” I see you. Remember this: your worth as a parent, family member, caregiver, or loved one isn’t tied to how perfect the season looks. It’s about the love, connection, and resilience you model. 

When things go sideways (because they will), try reframing challenges as opportunities to grow together. Spilled cocoa? A chance to laugh and bond over the cleanup. Family squabble? A moment to teach conflict resolution. Every imperfection is a chance to show your child that love and connection matter more than perfection. 

The holidays are less about the picture-perfect moments and more about the small, meaningful connections we create. By embracing a strengths-based approach, leveraging tools like One-Minute Interventions, Mind-Body Skills, and GoodTimer, while focusing on Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity, you can guide your loved ones through the season with resilience, hope, and maybe even a little humor. 

This year, let’s shift the focus from doing more to being more—more present, more connected, and more intentional. In the end, it’s not about having the perfect holiday—it’s about creating a home where everyone feels safe, loved, and strong enough to face whatever comes next. 

And if all else fails, remember this: cookies can be re-baked, but memories—however imperfect—last a lifetime. 

 Happy holidays to you and yours!

|

6 Strategies to Empower Families in Trauma-Informed Care

Trauma-informed education reminds us of a fundamental truth: resilience is not built in isolation. When schools and families join forces, we cultivate a nurturing environment where children can truly thrive, even after experiencing hardship. Our classrooms may provide safe havens, but the full power of trauma-informed education blossoms when we engage families in the journey. Here’s a look at how educators can partner with caregivers to create a seamless, supportive bridge between school and home—and some creative strategies to get everyone on board.

1. Start with Strengths, End with Hope – The ‘Resilience Sandwich’

Picture this: you’re meeting with a caregiver about a child’s needs. The conversation begins, and it’s easy to fall into the “problems and fixes” loop. Sound familiar? Instead, try framing the talk like a resilience sandwich—open and close the discussion with a focus on the child’s strengths. By recognizing what’s working, you create a hopeful tone that acknowledges the child’s potential. When you conclude with hope, caregivers walk away feeling empowered rather than overwhelmed.

Bridge Builder: The Resilience Sandwich Approach

  • Open with Strengths: Share positive qualities and resilient traits you’ve noticed in the child.
  • Identify Growth Areas with Empathy: Discuss challenges in the middle, focusing on understanding, not judgment.
  • Close with a Plan for Hope: Outline a collaborative approach that encourages families to see themselves as crucial members of the support team.

2. Empathy as a Superpower – Embracing ‘Active Listening’

Active listening may seem like a buzzword, but it’s an absolute superpower in trauma-informed education. When caregivers share their experiences, resist the urge to jump in with solutions. Instead, listen fully, nodding to show you’re with them in that moment. Empathy builds a bridge of trust and gives caregivers the space to share insights only they know.

Bridge Builder: Empathy Ears

  • Pause and Reflect: After a caregiver shares, take a breath before responding. This shows you’re fully considering their words.
  • Ask, Don’t Assume: Sometimes, the most helpful question is, “Can you tell me more about that?” Remember, stay curious!
  • Validate, Validate, Validate: A simple “I can see why that would be challenging” goes a long way in creating mutual respect.

3. Empower the Expert – Make Caregivers Partners, Not Spectators

Parents and caregivers often feel like they’re being brought in as spectators rather than collaborators to their child’s experiences, especially at school. A simple shift in language can change that. Ask for their insights instead of telling them what needs to be done. Caregivers know their children better than anyone, and inviting their expertise can turn a potentially difficult conversation into a productive partnership.

Bridge Builder: The Co-Pilot Mindset

  • Invite Their Expertise: Ask questions like, “What works best for you at home?” or “How do you think we could help him/her feel more comfortable?”
  • Celebrate Contributions: If a parent shares a successful strategy, acknowledge it. This builds confidence and reinforces their role in the support plan.
  • Adapt as Needed: Some families may hesitate to engage; patience and flexibility here can make all the difference.

4. Rising Above Resistance – A Curious and Compassionate Approach

Resistance from caregivers can arise for countless reasons: denial, overwhelm, or even fear. Instead of viewing resistance as an obstacle, approach it as a signal. Behind every form of resistance is a story or worry—take time to understand the “why” behind it.

Bridge Builder: Curiosity vs. Judgment

  • Remain Patient and Curious: If a caregiver seems defensive, ask open-ended questions, such as, “What feels most important for us to address together?”
  • Reframe with Positivity: Keep redirecting the conversation to the child’s growth and well-being, highlighting what is great about their child. There is always an opportunity to reframe what is misinterpreted as an “undesired behavior” as a child’s secret superpower with just a simple mindset shift.
  • Normalize Resistance: Try saying things like, “It’s okay to feel unsure. Many families feel the same way, and that’s perfectly normal.”

5. The Power of Predictability – Aligning School and Home Support

Kids who experience trauma often crave predictability. By aligning support at school and home, we can provide them with a consistent, reassuring structure. This means working with caregivers to share behavior support plans, update each other on changes, use one common language or key phrases, and check in about any shifts in the child’s behavior or progress.

Bridge Builder: The Predictability Partnership

  • Create Shared Goals: Together with caregivers, decide on a few simple, shared goals for home and school. These might be about routines, behavioral expectations, or rewards.
  • Encourage Regular Updates: Suggest brief check-ins, even if just through a quick email or note.
  • Celebrate Wins Together: Small victories are big steps for children coping with trauma. Celebrate them with caregivers to build a sense of shared success.

6. Turn Every Moment into a Motivational Moment

At the end of each interaction, leave caregivers with a hopeful reminder. Whether it’s a shared smile over a child’s progress or a kind word of encouragement, these final words can make all the difference.

Bridge Builder: High-Five Farewells

  • End on an Upbeat Note: Remind caregivers that, together, they’re making a positive impact on their child’s life. Provide optimistic closure, looking forward to the next opportunity to connect.
  • Highlight the Potential: Share a specific strength or growth you’ve noticed in the child.
  • Reiterate Partnership: Reinforce that both of you are on the same team, working together to nurture resilience and healing. Empathize and express gratitude for their time, dedication, and support!

Engaging families in trauma-informed education isn’t just beneficial—it’s essential. When we extend a hand to caregivers, we’re inviting them into a shared mission: to support, uplift, and heal. By embracing empathy, active listening, and a spirit of collaboration, we can create safe spaces where every child is given the gift of resilience. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it—one conversation, one small step, one resilience sandwich at a time.

Want to learn more? Check out this Coach Mini Lesson from our Certified Trauma & Resilience Coach course.

|

How to Recharge Kids After Trauma

Have you ever left your phone charger at home on a busy day, and your phone’s battery starts flashing red? You’re doing everything you can to keep it alive—lowering the brightness, closing apps, turning off notifications—because, let’s face it, once it dies, you feel disconnected from the world. Now imagine if that feeling of running on empty didn’t go away, no matter what you did. That’s a bit like what’s happening to kids who’ve experienced trauma—except it’s their bodies and minds that are running on low, stuck in survival mode.

Kids who’ve been through trauma live with their internal “battery” constantly drained, and their nervous system is working overtime. But here’s the good news: just like you can find a charger and bring your phone back to life, we can help kids recharge and reset. Science tells us that healing is not only possible, but with the right support, kids can bounce back and even grow stronger. Let’s break down how stress affects the nervous system and, most importantly, how we can help these kids thrive.

Stress and the Nervous System: Running on Empty

When a child experiences something scary or upsetting—like witnessing violence, dealing with abuse, or going through a major loss—their body reacts as if it’s in danger. Think of it like their alarm system going off. In small doses, stress is totally normal. It’s what gets us moving when we’re in trouble, kind of like how you sprint to the car when you realize you left your coffee on the roof (oops!).

But for kids who’ve been through trauma, their alarm system gets stuck on “high alert.” Their body is always ready to fight, flee, or freeze—just like when you’re about to hit reply-all on an email by mistake. The problem is, when their nervous system is stuck in this mode, it’s like running with the engine revving at full speed all the time. It wears them down, making it harder for them to focus, learn, or just relax.

What Happens When Stress Takes Over?

The brain is pretty amazing, but it’s also very sensitive to stress—especially when kids are young and still developing. Chronic stress (the kind that sticks around) can mess with brain development, affecting things like memory, attention, and self-control. You might notice these kids have trouble sitting still, seem easily frustrated, or are quick to react to even small problems.

It’s not that they’re being difficult on purpose. Their brain and body are just trying to keep them safe, even if there’s no actual danger in the moment. The stress they’ve experienced has left them feeling like they always need to be on guard. So that tantrum over a forgotten pencil? It’s less about the pencil and more about their nervous system saying, “Uh-oh, something’s wrong! We need to act now!”

But Here’s the Good News: The Brain Can Heal

Here’s the hopeful part: the brain is like Play-Doh—it’s flexible and can be reshaped. Even though trauma can cause damage, the brain can heal, especially when kids are surrounded by safe, caring adults. This is where you come in.

When kids have at least one reliable adult in their life who is calm, patient, and understanding, it’s like plugging their phone back into the charger. You help their nervous system calm down, allowing their brain to switch from “survival mode” to “learning mode.” In other words, you help them realize the world isn’t always as scary as their brain is telling them.

How You Can Help: Practical Tips to Support Kids

You don’t need to be a superhero (though you probably already are to these kids) to help them heal. There are some simple things you can do that make a huge difference:

  • Create a safe, predictable environment: Kids who’ve experienced trauma need to know what’s coming next. It’s like going to your favorite restaurant—you know what to expect, and that makes you feel comfortable. Routines and clear rules help kids feel safe, which gives their nervous system a break.
  • Help them calm down (without saying “calm down”): Ever had someone tell you to calm down when you’re really stressed? Yeah, it doesn’t work. Instead, show them how to calm their bodies through breathing exercises or even silly things like stretching like a cat or shaking out the “wiggles.” Sometimes moving their bodies is what helps the brain settle down.
  • Focus on their strengths: We all like to feel good at something. Instead of focusing on the challenges they’re having, look for what they’re good at. Maybe they’re super creative, really great at helping others, or a whiz with numbers. Build them up with their strengths, and it helps their confidence grow, which also helps their brain heal.
  • Build relationships, not rules: Sure, kids need rules, but even more, they need connection. When they know you’re on their side, they’ll feel safer and more open to learning. Spend time listening to them and showing you care, even when things get tough. That bond is like a safety net for their nervous system.
  • Practice patience (and lots of it): Healing takes time, and kids will have good days and bad days. Sometimes it’ll feel like you’re taking one step forward and two steps back, but every moment of kindness and understanding helps. Even when you think they aren’t noticing, they are.

Why Resilience is Possible (and Likely)

Now, let’s talk about resilience. You know that feeling when your favorite plant that you thought was dead suddenly sprouts new leaves? That’s resilience—life finding a way to bounce back, even after hardship. Kids are the same way. They have an incredible ability to heal, grow, and thrive, especially when surrounded by love and support.

Scientists have found that resilience isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s something that can be built over time through positive relationships and experiences. So even though kids may start with some tough breaks, with the right support, they can grow stronger than ever before.

You Are Their Charger

You’re not just another adult in their life—you’re their charger, the person who helps them recharge when they’re running on empty. By being there for them, providing structure, and showing them love and patience, you’re helping their nervous system heal. You’re showing them that they don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode—that there’s a whole world of possibility ahead of them.

So, whether you’re a parent, teacher, or mentor, know that the work you’re doing is powerful. Every small act of kindness, every moment of patience, is like a drop in the bucket of resilience. Kids may not always show it right away, but they’re soaking up every bit of support you give them.

The Bottom Line

Stress can wreak havoc on a child’s nervous system, but with the right support, kids can heal. You don’t need to be perfect—just present. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a listening ear. And in time, you’ll see these kids begin to bloom, growing stronger and more resilient than ever before. Your role in their lives is nothing short of transformative.

So, keep showing up, keep believing in their ability to heal, and remember: resilience is real, and you’re a big part of making it happen.

|

Rethinking Discipline: Building Resilience Through Restorative Practices

As educators, we’ve all had those moments when we’re at our wits’ end when a student disrupts the learning. It’s tempting to reach for the nearest behavior chart or send them to the principal’s office. After all, that’s how it’s been done for years, right? But what if there’s a better way—a way that doesn’t just stop the disruption in the moment but helps that student grow and learn in the long run?

Let’s face it: traditional discipline methods often miss the mark. Detentions, suspensions, color-coded charts, and point systems might seem like quick fixes, but they don’t address the underlying issues. Sometimes, they do more harm than good, especially for students who are already dealing with difficult situations outside of school.

So, what’s the alternative? Use a resilience-focused approach by implementing restorative practices—a kinder, more effective way to handle discipline that focuses on building connections, teaching empathy, and helping students learn from their mistakes.

Why Traditional Discipline Falls Short

Let’s think about it: when we “punish” a student for misbehaving or making a poor choice, what are we teaching them? That making mistakes leads to shame or isolation? That they’re “bad” for having a rough day? These messages don’t help our students; they make them feel worse. If we’re being honest with ourselves, that approach doesn’t work for us either when we make a mistake! And for kids who’ve experienced trauma, punitive measures can be especially damaging.

Traditional discipline often prioritizes control over care, focusing on compliance rather than understanding. We might get short-term results, but they’re only temporary, and we’re missing out on an opportunity to truly help our students grow. Plus, let’s be honest—these methods can make us feel like we’re constantly playing the role of “disciplinarian,” which isn’t why most of us became educators in the first place. How exhausting that can be!

The Power of Restorative Practices

Restorative practices turn discipline on its head. Instead of asking, “How do I punish this behavior?” we ask, “What is happening or has happened to this student?” “What universal needs are not being met?” “How do I help this student learn and grow from this experience?” It’s a subtle shift, a true mindset shift, but it makes all the difference.

Imagine this: A student disrupts class in a desperate attempt to meet their need for belonging by doing anything to make their peers laugh. Instead of reaching for the behavior chart, you take a breath, acknowledge their presence in the class, remind them of the agreed-upon norms for the class during learning time, and invite them to chat with you. During that chat (maybe before the class period ends or perhaps later that day during lunch), you ask what’s going on and listen—really listen—to their perspective. Maybe they’re feeling frustrated about something outside of school, feeling left out, or maybe they didn’t realize how their actions affected others. Together, you figure out a way to make things right.

This approach isn’t about letting kids off the hook. It’s about holding them accountable in a way that’s supportive rather than punitive. It teaches them problem-solving skills, empathy, and responsibility—skills that will serve them far beyond the classroom.

Making the Shift: Small Steps, Big Impact

Shifting from punitive discipline to a restorative approach might sound like a significant change, but it doesn’t have to happen overnight. Here are a few simple, effective strategies to get started:

  1. Get Curious About Who Your Students Are: Building strong relationships is the foundation of restorative practices. Take the time to learn about your students—their interests, challenges, and what makes them tick. Students are more likely to engage positively when they feel seen and valued.
  2. Create a Calming Space: Instead of a traditional time-out spot, designate a calm space in your classroom where students can go to regroup when they’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s a space for them to cool down and reflect, not to feel isolated or punished. This space is helpful for all students across all grade levels. Actually, it’s even great in a staff lounge for adults, too! Have fun and be creative with what to name it.
  3. Hold Restorative Circles: Restorative circles are a great way to build community and address conflicts in a supportive environment. They allow students to voice their feelings, listen to others, and work together to find solutions. And remember, they take practice!
  4. Teach Problem-Solving: Instead of handing down consequences or providing them with what you believe is the “right” thing to do, involve students in the process of figuring out how to make things right. Guide them through identifying the problem, understanding its impact, and devising a plan to repair the harm.
  5. Reflect on Your Approach: Take a moment to consider the discipline strategies you currently use. Are they genuinely helping your students learn and grow? If not, don’t be afraid to make changes. We’re all learning and evolving as educators, and trying something new is okay.

A New Way Forward

Rethinking discipline isn’t about letting go of structure or accountability—it’s about creating an environment where every student feels safe, supported, and capable of making better choices. By embracing restorative practices, we’re not just managing behavior; we’re nurturing resilience and building a stronger school community.

So, let’s take a step back from those old-school discipline methods and try something different. Our students deserve a chance to learn from their mistakes without feeling ashamed or excluded. And we, as educators, deserve the satisfaction of knowing that we’re genuinely helping our students grow into the best versions of themselves.

With a little patience, compassion, and a willingness to rethink how we approach discipline, we can create schools that aren’t just places of learning but spaces of healing and growth. Let’s make it happen—one conversation, one connection, and one restorative practice at a time.

|

Transforming PBIS with the Circle of Courage

Close your eyes for just a moment and picture this: a school where every staff and student steps into a world of warmth and possibility, feeling truly seen and ready to thrive—this is the magic that happens when we weave Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) with a trauma-informed approach. As educators and educational leaders, our role is pivotal in fostering resilience, connection, and strength. With this vision in mind, let’s explore how we can enhance PBIS to align more with the Circle of Courage philosophy, thus embracing a trauma-informed lens.

The Circle of Courage: A Beacon of Hope

At the heart of this approach is the Circle of Courage, a framework rooted in every child’s four universal needs: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. This philosophy provides a rich tapestry on which we can weave the principles of PBIS, transforming our schools into sanctuaries of support and growth.

PBIS and Trauma-Informed Care: A Natural Harmony

Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) already incorporates elements that resonate with trauma-informed practices. PBIS emphasizes creating a safe and predictable environment, which aligns seamlessly with the need for Belonging. By establishing clear expectations and consistent routines, PBIS nurtures a sense of safety, a cornerstone for all children, especially any child who has faced trauma.

Furthermore, PBIS’s focus on teaching and reinforcing positive behaviors dovetails with the Circle of Courage’s emphasis on Mastery. When we teach students the skills they need to succeed, we’re not just imparting knowledge but fostering resilience and confidence.

Strategies to Enhance PBIS with a Trauma-Informed Lens

While PBIS is inherently supportive, there are several strategies we can adopt to make it even more aligned with the Circle of Courage, thus enhancing its trauma-informed nature:

1. Cultivate a Deep Sense of Belonging

The cornerstone of a trauma-informed PBIS approach is creating an environment where every student feels genuinely welcomed and valued. This means going beyond superficial gestures and embedding belonging into the fabric of daily interactions. Celebrate individual and collective achievements, create inclusive spaces where every voice is heard, and engage families as partners in this journey.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Consider implementing “Belonging Circles,” where students and staff share stories and celebrate one another’s contributions. These moments not only build relationships but also reinforce that every member of the school community has a unique place and purpose.

2. Foster Mastery through Strengths-Based Feedback

Trauma-informed PBIS should focus on recognizing and building upon each student’s strengths. Implement a feedback system that highlights what students are doing well and provides opportunities for them to demonstrate their talents. Rather than merely correcting misbehavior, offer constructive guidance that empowers students to grow and achieve mastery in various areas.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: In practice, this could look like using “Strengths Spotlights,” where teachers regularly acknowledge and showcase student strengths in the classroom. This not only boosts individual confidence but also reinforces the notion that everyone has valuable contributions to make. (Hint: staff can also do this to acknowledge one another!)

3. Encourage Independence with Compassion

Independence is a vital component of the Circle of Courage, but it must be approached with sensitivity, particularly for students who have experienced trauma. Provide opportunities for students to make choices and take responsibility in a supportive environment. Empower them to set personal goals and reflect on their progress, while offering a safety net of support and encouragement.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Implement “Choice Boards” in your classroom where students can select activities or projects that align with their interests and strengths. This approach fosters a sense of agency and self-direction while maintaining a supportive framework.

4. Promote Generosity through Community Building

Generosity, the final element of the Circle of Courage, can be deeply interwoven with PBIS by creating opportunities for students to engage in acts of kindness and service. Encourage collaborative projects, peer mentoring, and community service initiatives that allow students to give back and make a positive impact.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Organize “Generosity Days” where students participate in acts of kindness within the school or the broader community. These experiences not only build empathy but also reinforce the value of contributing to the well-being of others.

5. Creating a Culture of Resilience

By enhancing PBIS with a trauma-informed lens, we’re not just improving a system but nurturing a culture of resilience, strength, and hope. Every interaction, every strategy, and every practice becomes a stepping stone towards building a more supportive and empowering environment for our students.

As educators and leaders, let us embrace this journey with open hearts and unwavering commitment. Let us infuse our PBIS practices with the warmth of compassion, the clarity of purpose, and the strength of resilience. Together, we can create a thriving educational ecosystem where every student feels they truly belong, can master their challenges, and are empowered to make a difference.

|

Designing Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Creating Safe and Supportive Learning Environments

Picture this: you walk into a classroom that feels like a warm hug, where every corner whispers, “You belong here.” The walls aren’t just covered with posters but with reminders that every child is seen, heard, and supported. This is the heart of a trauma-informed classroom—a space where students learn, heal, and grow. Let’s dive into how you can create such a sanctuary, starting with practical tips on classroom layout, sensory considerations, and fostering a sense of safety and predictability.

Classroom Layout: A Space for Every Emotion

Think of your classroom layout as a roadmap to emotional safety. Every inch of your space can either invite calm or stir chaos. Start by creating distinct areas that serve different purposes. A cozy corner with soft pillows and dim lighting can become a retreat for students who need a break from the hustle and bustle—a place to self-regulate without feeling singled out. Add a few fidget tools and sensory objects for those who need a bit more to manage their emotions.

Consider arranging desks in clusters to promote collaboration, but also ensure there’s space for solo work. This arrangement offers flexibility, acknowledging that some students thrive in groups while others need solitude to focus. Don’t underestimate the power of natural light and plants, either. They’re not just for aesthetics; they help reduce stress and boost mood, making your classroom feel like a breath of fresh air—literally!

Sensory Considerations: Less is More (Except When It Isn’t)

When it comes to sensory inputs, classrooms can be a double-edged sword. Bright colors and bustling bulletin boards can be exciting but can also overwhelm students sensitive to sensory stimuli. Opt for a color palette that soothes—think soft blues, greens, and neutral tones. Consider using sound-absorbing materials like rugs or curtains to muffle the often chaotic classroom noise from the buzz of engaging learning taking place.

But sensory considerations aren’t just about reducing stimuli; sometimes, it’s about providing the ‘right’ kind. Incorporate sensory-friendly tools like weighted blankets, noise-canceling headphones, or stress balls. Have a variety of options available so students can choose what works best for them as they continue to learn more about their own sensory needs. These minor adjustments can make a world of difference for a student trying to navigate both the lesson and their sensory world.

Safety and Predictability: The Pillars of Trust

Predictability isn’t just a preference in a trauma-informed classroom—it’s a lifeline. For students who have experienced trauma or toxic stress, unpredictability can trigger anxiety, making it difficult for them to focus on learning as their minds are consumed with the wonderings of ‘what ifs’ that could happen. Remember, stressed brains can’t learn! Establishing routines and clear expectations helps create a sense of safety. A visual schedule that outlines the day’s activities can be a game-changer for these students. They’ll know what’s coming next, and that little bit of knowledge can be incredibly reassuring while simultaneously developing a strong sense of independence and autonomy.

Consistency in your responses is equally important. Students should know what to expect from you, whether they’re having a great day or a challenging one. When they trust that you’ll be fair and steady, even when things get tough, they’ll feel safe enough to take risks and make mistakes—a crucial part of learning. Co-creating agreed-upon classroom norms and implementing them with fidelity is a proactive, universal support for all students!

Ready-to-Use Ideas for the First Day of School: Simple, Affordable, and Effective

Starting the school year with a trauma-informed mindset doesn’t have to be costly or time-consuming. Here are some easy-to-implement ideas that will set the tone for a safe and supportive learning environment from day one:

These small, affordable steps can make a big difference in how your classroom feels from the first day. They’re simple to implement but incredibly powerful in creating a trauma-informed environment where all students feel safe, supported, and ready to learn.

Create a Welcome Board: Set up a simple bulletin board at the entrance of your classroom with a “Welcome” message and space for students to add their names or a small picture of something they love. This immediately tells students that they belong in this space.

Personalize Desk Tags: Instead of pre-made name tags, provide materials for students to decorate their own. Let them choose colors, add drawings, or write a word that describes them. This simple activity gives students a sense of ownership over their space.

Establish a Calm Down Corner: Designate a small area of your classroom as a “Calm Down Corner.” Stock it with soft pillows, a few sensory toys like stress balls, and a visual aid with calming techniques. You can easily create this space using items from a dollar store or even things you already have at home.

Daily Check-In Station: Set up a check-in station where students can indicate how they feel as they enter the classroom. Use something as simple as colored sticky notes or an emoji chart. This will give you a quick snapshot of your students’ emotional states and help them feel acknowledged.

Classroom Agreement Poster: On the first day, collaborate with your students to create a classroom agreement. Instead of a list of rules, ask them what they need to feel safe and supported. Write down their ideas on a large poster and have everyone sign it. This empowers students to take part in creating a positive classroom culture.

Sensory-Friendly Classroom Decorations: Use soft colors and limit clutter to keep decorations simple and sensory-friendly. If you’re on a budget, you can create calming wall displays using materials like construction paper or fabric remnants. Consider making a “quiet wall” with little to no decoration to give students a visual break.

Routine Reminders: On the first day, introduce simple visual cues that remind students of the classroom routine. Use hand signals, visual schedules, or chimes to signal transitions. These cues can be made with items like a bell or printed cards—affordable but powerful tools for creating predictability.

Introduce a Class Plant: Bring a tiny plant into the classroom and introduce it as the “class plant” everyone will take care of. This is an inexpensive way to add some green to your space and foster a sense of community and shared responsibility.

Gratitude Jar: Start a classroom gratitude jar. Provide slips of paper where students can write something they’re thankful for each day. At the end of the week, take a moment to read a few aloud. This simple practice encourages positivity and reflection, setting a warm tone for the year.

Mindful Moment to Start the Day: Begin each day with a short, guided, mindful moment. Start with a deep breathing exercise or a brief stretch. These exercises require no materials and just a few minutes of your time, and they set a calm, focused tone for the rest of the day.

Universal Support for All Students: Resilience at the Core

Here’s the beauty of a trauma-informed approach: it benefits every student, not just those who’ve experienced trauma. By designing a classroom that prioritizes emotional safety, you’re fostering resilience in all your students. You’re teaching them that it’s okay to ask for help, to take breaks, and to care for themselves and others.

As you transform your classroom, remember this: you’re not just rearranging desks and picking out paint colors. You’re building a community—a place where students feel safe enough to be themselves and brave enough to learn. And that, dear educators, is the true magic of teaching. So, roll up your sleeves, grab that staple gun, and turn your classroom into the safe haven every student deserves. Your students are ready to thrive; they just need the right environment to bloom. And who better to create it than you?

|

How can you Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient Classroom or School?

Step 1:  Focus on Student Resilience

What is student resilience?

Student Resilience is the ability to achieve positive outcomes—mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually despite adversity.

To focus on student resilience, start by creating a set core of values and beliefs about the children you serve.  The Circle of Courage is a model of positive youth development based on the universal principle to be emotionally healthy, all youth need a sense of belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity.

Circle of Courage


What does this look like in a school?

Belonging at school is when every student believes they are valued, seen, heard, and cared for.

Mastery at school is when every student believes they can achieve despite their challenges.

Independence at school is when every student believes they have the power to make decisions that will impact their own lives.

Generosity at school is when every student believes they have a purpose for their lives that can positively contribute to the world.

Click here for a resilience activity to help connect more with your students.

Looking to learn more about how to do this in your classroom or across your building for all students? Reach out to Starr Commonwealth today for a personalized consultation about our training and consulting services to help ensure every child learns in an environment where they can flourish!