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Rethinking Discipline: Building Resilience Through Restorative Practices

As educators, we’ve all had those moments when we’re at our wits’ end when a student disrupts the learning. It’s tempting to reach for the nearest behavior chart or send them to the principal’s office. After all, that’s how it’s been done for years, right? But what if there’s a better way—a way that doesn’t just stop the disruption in the moment but helps that student grow and learn in the long run?

Let’s face it: traditional discipline methods often miss the mark. Detentions, suspensions, color-coded charts, and point systems might seem like quick fixes, but they don’t address the underlying issues. Sometimes, they do more harm than good, especially for students who are already dealing with difficult situations outside of school.

So, what’s the alternative? Use a resilience-focused approach by implementing restorative practices—a kinder, more effective way to handle discipline that focuses on building connections, teaching empathy, and helping students learn from their mistakes.

Why Traditional Discipline Falls Short

Let’s think about it: when we “punish” a student for misbehaving or making a poor choice, what are we teaching them? That making mistakes leads to shame or isolation? That they’re “bad” for having a rough day? These messages don’t help our students; they make them feel worse. If we’re being honest with ourselves, that approach doesn’t work for us either when we make a mistake! And for kids who’ve experienced trauma, punitive measures can be especially damaging.

Traditional discipline often prioritizes control over care, focusing on compliance rather than understanding. We might get short-term results, but they’re only temporary, and we’re missing out on an opportunity to truly help our students grow. Plus, let’s be honest—these methods can make us feel like we’re constantly playing the role of “disciplinarian,” which isn’t why most of us became educators in the first place. How exhausting that can be!

The Power of Restorative Practices

Restorative practices turn discipline on its head. Instead of asking, “How do I punish this behavior?” we ask, “What is happening or has happened to this student?” “What universal needs are not being met?” “How do I help this student learn and grow from this experience?” It’s a subtle shift, a true mindset shift, but it makes all the difference.

Imagine this: A student disrupts class in a desperate attempt to meet their need for belonging by doing anything to make their peers laugh. Instead of reaching for the behavior chart, you take a breath, acknowledge their presence in the class, remind them of the agreed-upon norms for the class during learning time, and invite them to chat with you. During that chat (maybe before the class period ends or perhaps later that day during lunch), you ask what’s going on and listen—really listen—to their perspective. Maybe they’re feeling frustrated about something outside of school, feeling left out, or maybe they didn’t realize how their actions affected others. Together, you figure out a way to make things right.

This approach isn’t about letting kids off the hook. It’s about holding them accountable in a way that’s supportive rather than punitive. It teaches them problem-solving skills, empathy, and responsibility—skills that will serve them far beyond the classroom.

Making the Shift: Small Steps, Big Impact

Shifting from punitive discipline to a restorative approach might sound like a significant change, but it doesn’t have to happen overnight. Here are a few simple, effective strategies to get started:

  1. Get Curious About Who Your Students Are: Building strong relationships is the foundation of restorative practices. Take the time to learn about your students—their interests, challenges, and what makes them tick. Students are more likely to engage positively when they feel seen and valued.
  2. Create a Calming Space: Instead of a traditional time-out spot, designate a calm space in your classroom where students can go to regroup when they’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s a space for them to cool down and reflect, not to feel isolated or punished. This space is helpful for all students across all grade levels. Actually, it’s even great in a staff lounge for adults, too! Have fun and be creative with what to name it.
  3. Hold Restorative Circles: Restorative circles are a great way to build community and address conflicts in a supportive environment. They allow students to voice their feelings, listen to others, and work together to find solutions. And remember, they take practice!
  4. Teach Problem-Solving: Instead of handing down consequences or providing them with what you believe is the “right” thing to do, involve students in the process of figuring out how to make things right. Guide them through identifying the problem, understanding its impact, and devising a plan to repair the harm.
  5. Reflect on Your Approach: Take a moment to consider the discipline strategies you currently use. Are they genuinely helping your students learn and grow? If not, don’t be afraid to make changes. We’re all learning and evolving as educators, and trying something new is okay.

A New Way Forward

Rethinking discipline isn’t about letting go of structure or accountability—it’s about creating an environment where every student feels safe, supported, and capable of making better choices. By embracing restorative practices, we’re not just managing behavior; we’re nurturing resilience and building a stronger school community.

So, let’s take a step back from those old-school discipline methods and try something different. Our students deserve a chance to learn from their mistakes without feeling ashamed or excluded. And we, as educators, deserve the satisfaction of knowing that we’re genuinely helping our students grow into the best versions of themselves.

With a little patience, compassion, and a willingness to rethink how we approach discipline, we can create schools that aren’t just places of learning but spaces of healing and growth. Let’s make it happen—one conversation, one connection, and one restorative practice at a time.

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Transforming PBIS with the Circle of Courage

Close your eyes for just a moment and picture this: a school where every staff and student steps into a world of warmth and possibility, feeling truly seen and ready to thrive—this is the magic that happens when we weave Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) with a trauma-informed approach. As educators and educational leaders, our role is pivotal in fostering resilience, connection, and strength. With this vision in mind, let’s explore how we can enhance PBIS to align more with the Circle of Courage philosophy, thus embracing a trauma-informed lens.

The Circle of Courage: A Beacon of Hope

At the heart of this approach is the Circle of Courage, a framework rooted in every child’s four universal needs: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. This philosophy provides a rich tapestry on which we can weave the principles of PBIS, transforming our schools into sanctuaries of support and growth.

PBIS and Trauma-Informed Care: A Natural Harmony

Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) already incorporates elements that resonate with trauma-informed practices. PBIS emphasizes creating a safe and predictable environment, which aligns seamlessly with the need for Belonging. By establishing clear expectations and consistent routines, PBIS nurtures a sense of safety, a cornerstone for all children, especially any child who has faced trauma.

Furthermore, PBIS’s focus on teaching and reinforcing positive behaviors dovetails with the Circle of Courage’s emphasis on Mastery. When we teach students the skills they need to succeed, we’re not just imparting knowledge but fostering resilience and confidence.

Strategies to Enhance PBIS with a Trauma-Informed Lens

While PBIS is inherently supportive, there are several strategies we can adopt to make it even more aligned with the Circle of Courage, thus enhancing its trauma-informed nature:

1. Cultivate a Deep Sense of Belonging

The cornerstone of a trauma-informed PBIS approach is creating an environment where every student feels genuinely welcomed and valued. This means going beyond superficial gestures and embedding belonging into the fabric of daily interactions. Celebrate individual and collective achievements, create inclusive spaces where every voice is heard, and engage families as partners in this journey.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Consider implementing “Belonging Circles,” where students and staff share stories and celebrate one another’s contributions. These moments not only build relationships but also reinforce that every member of the school community has a unique place and purpose.

2. Foster Mastery through Strengths-Based Feedback

Trauma-informed PBIS should focus on recognizing and building upon each student’s strengths. Implement a feedback system that highlights what students are doing well and provides opportunities for them to demonstrate their talents. Rather than merely correcting misbehavior, offer constructive guidance that empowers students to grow and achieve mastery in various areas.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: In practice, this could look like using “Strengths Spotlights,” where teachers regularly acknowledge and showcase student strengths in the classroom. This not only boosts individual confidence but also reinforces the notion that everyone has valuable contributions to make. (Hint: staff can also do this to acknowledge one another!)

3. Encourage Independence with Compassion

Independence is a vital component of the Circle of Courage, but it must be approached with sensitivity, particularly for students who have experienced trauma. Provide opportunities for students to make choices and take responsibility in a supportive environment. Empower them to set personal goals and reflect on their progress, while offering a safety net of support and encouragement.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Implement “Choice Boards” in your classroom where students can select activities or projects that align with their interests and strengths. This approach fosters a sense of agency and self-direction while maintaining a supportive framework.

4. Promote Generosity through Community Building

Generosity, the final element of the Circle of Courage, can be deeply interwoven with PBIS by creating opportunities for students to engage in acts of kindness and service. Encourage collaborative projects, peer mentoring, and community service initiatives that allow students to give back and make a positive impact.

→ Inspiration to Ignite: Organize “Generosity Days” where students participate in acts of kindness within the school or the broader community. These experiences not only build empathy but also reinforce the value of contributing to the well-being of others.

5. Creating a Culture of Resilience

By enhancing PBIS with a trauma-informed lens, we’re not just improving a system but nurturing a culture of resilience, strength, and hope. Every interaction, every strategy, and every practice becomes a stepping stone towards building a more supportive and empowering environment for our students.

As educators and leaders, let us embrace this journey with open hearts and unwavering commitment. Let us infuse our PBIS practices with the warmth of compassion, the clarity of purpose, and the strength of resilience. Together, we can create a thriving educational ecosystem where every student feels they truly belong, can master their challenges, and are empowered to make a difference.

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Designing Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Creating Safe and Supportive Learning Environments

Picture this: you walk into a classroom that feels like a warm hug, where every corner whispers, “You belong here.” The walls aren’t just covered with posters but with reminders that every child is seen, heard, and supported. This is the heart of a trauma-informed classroom—a space where students learn, heal, and grow. Let’s dive into how you can create such a sanctuary, starting with practical tips on classroom layout, sensory considerations, and fostering a sense of safety and predictability.

Classroom Layout: A Space for Every Emotion

Think of your classroom layout as a roadmap to emotional safety. Every inch of your space can either invite calm or stir chaos. Start by creating distinct areas that serve different purposes. A cozy corner with soft pillows and dim lighting can become a retreat for students who need a break from the hustle and bustle—a place to self-regulate without feeling singled out. Add a few fidget tools and sensory objects for those who need a bit more to manage their emotions.

Consider arranging desks in clusters to promote collaboration, but also ensure there’s space for solo work. This arrangement offers flexibility, acknowledging that some students thrive in groups while others need solitude to focus. Don’t underestimate the power of natural light and plants, either. They’re not just for aesthetics; they help reduce stress and boost mood, making your classroom feel like a breath of fresh air—literally!

Sensory Considerations: Less is More (Except When It Isn’t)

When it comes to sensory inputs, classrooms can be a double-edged sword. Bright colors and bustling bulletin boards can be exciting but can also overwhelm students sensitive to sensory stimuli. Opt for a color palette that soothes—think soft blues, greens, and neutral tones. Consider using sound-absorbing materials like rugs or curtains to muffle the often chaotic classroom noise from the buzz of engaging learning taking place.

But sensory considerations aren’t just about reducing stimuli; sometimes, it’s about providing the ‘right’ kind. Incorporate sensory-friendly tools like weighted blankets, noise-canceling headphones, or stress balls. Have a variety of options available so students can choose what works best for them as they continue to learn more about their own sensory needs. These minor adjustments can make a world of difference for a student trying to navigate both the lesson and their sensory world.

Safety and Predictability: The Pillars of Trust

Predictability isn’t just a preference in a trauma-informed classroom—it’s a lifeline. For students who have experienced trauma or toxic stress, unpredictability can trigger anxiety, making it difficult for them to focus on learning as their minds are consumed with the wonderings of ‘what ifs’ that could happen. Remember, stressed brains can’t learn! Establishing routines and clear expectations helps create a sense of safety. A visual schedule that outlines the day’s activities can be a game-changer for these students. They’ll know what’s coming next, and that little bit of knowledge can be incredibly reassuring while simultaneously developing a strong sense of independence and autonomy.

Consistency in your responses is equally important. Students should know what to expect from you, whether they’re having a great day or a challenging one. When they trust that you’ll be fair and steady, even when things get tough, they’ll feel safe enough to take risks and make mistakes—a crucial part of learning. Co-creating agreed-upon classroom norms and implementing them with fidelity is a proactive, universal support for all students!

Ready-to-Use Ideas for the First Day of School: Simple, Affordable, and Effective

Starting the school year with a trauma-informed mindset doesn’t have to be costly or time-consuming. Here are some easy-to-implement ideas that will set the tone for a safe and supportive learning environment from day one:

These small, affordable steps can make a big difference in how your classroom feels from the first day. They’re simple to implement but incredibly powerful in creating a trauma-informed environment where all students feel safe, supported, and ready to learn.

Create a Welcome Board: Set up a simple bulletin board at the entrance of your classroom with a “Welcome” message and space for students to add their names or a small picture of something they love. This immediately tells students that they belong in this space.

Personalize Desk Tags: Instead of pre-made name tags, provide materials for students to decorate their own. Let them choose colors, add drawings, or write a word that describes them. This simple activity gives students a sense of ownership over their space.

Establish a Calm Down Corner: Designate a small area of your classroom as a “Calm Down Corner.” Stock it with soft pillows, a few sensory toys like stress balls, and a visual aid with calming techniques. You can easily create this space using items from a dollar store or even things you already have at home.

Daily Check-In Station: Set up a check-in station where students can indicate how they feel as they enter the classroom. Use something as simple as colored sticky notes or an emoji chart. This will give you a quick snapshot of your students’ emotional states and help them feel acknowledged.

Classroom Agreement Poster: On the first day, collaborate with your students to create a classroom agreement. Instead of a list of rules, ask them what they need to feel safe and supported. Write down their ideas on a large poster and have everyone sign it. This empowers students to take part in creating a positive classroom culture.

Sensory-Friendly Classroom Decorations: Use soft colors and limit clutter to keep decorations simple and sensory-friendly. If you’re on a budget, you can create calming wall displays using materials like construction paper or fabric remnants. Consider making a “quiet wall” with little to no decoration to give students a visual break.

Routine Reminders: On the first day, introduce simple visual cues that remind students of the classroom routine. Use hand signals, visual schedules, or chimes to signal transitions. These cues can be made with items like a bell or printed cards—affordable but powerful tools for creating predictability.

Introduce a Class Plant: Bring a tiny plant into the classroom and introduce it as the “class plant” everyone will take care of. This is an inexpensive way to add some green to your space and foster a sense of community and shared responsibility.

Gratitude Jar: Start a classroom gratitude jar. Provide slips of paper where students can write something they’re thankful for each day. At the end of the week, take a moment to read a few aloud. This simple practice encourages positivity and reflection, setting a warm tone for the year.

Mindful Moment to Start the Day: Begin each day with a short, guided, mindful moment. Start with a deep breathing exercise or a brief stretch. These exercises require no materials and just a few minutes of your time, and they set a calm, focused tone for the rest of the day.

Universal Support for All Students: Resilience at the Core

Here’s the beauty of a trauma-informed approach: it benefits every student, not just those who’ve experienced trauma. By designing a classroom that prioritizes emotional safety, you’re fostering resilience in all your students. You’re teaching them that it’s okay to ask for help, to take breaks, and to care for themselves and others.

As you transform your classroom, remember this: you’re not just rearranging desks and picking out paint colors. You’re building a community—a place where students feel safe enough to be themselves and brave enough to learn. And that, dear educators, is the true magic of teaching. So, roll up your sleeves, grab that staple gun, and turn your classroom into the safe haven every student deserves. Your students are ready to thrive; they just need the right environment to bloom. And who better to create it than you?

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Five Ways to Create Trauma-Sensitive Spaces for Young Learners

Hello, amazing educators! Are you ready to create a classroom that feels like a warm hug? As early childhood teachers, you hold the magic wand that can transform a child’s world. Embracing the philosophy of Starr Commonwealth’s 10 Steps to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School, let’s explore practical, fun, and inspiring ways to make your learning space a haven of safety, love, and growth.

1. Establish Trust and Cultivate Compassionate Relationships

Think of your classroom as a cozy nest where trust and compassion grow. Greet each little one with a cheerful “Good morning!” and a smile. Use visual schedules to help kids know what to expect next—this can be as simple as a picture board showing snack time, storytime, and playtime. Consistency is key!

Become the friendly detective who uncovers each child’s unique story. Show genuine interest in their lives—remembering their pet’s name can make you a superhero in their eyes.

🌟Spark of Inspiration: Start each day with a circle time where everyone shares something they’re excited about. Keep a “Getting to Know You” notebook where you jot down fun facts about each child. Refer to it often to personalize your interactions.

2. Understand Trauma and Create a Positive Physical Environment

Knowledge is your superpower! Learn about trauma’s effects on a child’s brain and body so you can spot the signs and respond with empathy rather than frustration. Having a curious mindset about what each little learner has experienced or is currently experiencing empowers you to be open and responsive rather than reactive when difficulties arise.

Your classroom should be as inviting as a favorite storybook to support every developing mind. Your thoughtful design choices, such as soft lighting, cozy reading nooks with bean bags, and sensory-friendly corners with calming tools like stress balls and noise-canceling headphones, have a profound impact. This atmosphere promotes safety and healing, which allows the imagination to explore for every child, thanks to your influence!

🌟Spark of Inspiration: Continue investing in your learning journey about trauma and resilience. Share what you learn with your colleagues over a fun lunch-and-learn session. Transform a corner into a “Calm Down Cove” with soft pillows, stuffed animals, and a basket of sensory toys for kids to retreat when they need a break.

3. Implement Caring Discipline and Promote Emotional Literacy

Ditch the time-outs and bring in the “time-ins.” Focus on understanding why a child acts out rather than punishing the behavior. Let’s make this the year where we default to natural and logical consequences to help meet the needs of our children. Equip your little learners with the communication skills they need to express their big feelings. Use emotion cards, storytelling, and role-playing to teach them about different emotions.

🌟Spark of Inspiration: When a child is upset, have a “Peaceful Place” where they can sit and talk about their emotions with you. Play a game where kids pick a card with a face showing an emotion and then act it out. This makes learning about feelings fun and interactive while promoting play.

4. Foster Social Connections and Empower Student Voice

Foster a classroom community where everyone feels like they belong. Encourage teamwork and buddy systems to help kids build friendships and support each other. Let your kiddos be the captains of their little ships. Give them choices throughout the day to help them feel in control and valued.

🌟Spark of Inspiration: Pair up kids for a “Buddy Reading” session where they take turns reading to each other. Allow students to choose their morning activity from a few options like coloring, building blocks, or quiet reading time. This small choice can make a big difference in their engagement.

5. Integrate Mindfulness and Collaborate with Families

Introduce mindfulness as a magical tool for self-regulation. Simple practices like deep breathing and intentional, guided movements can help kids manage stress and stay calm. Build a bridge between home and school. Keep open lines of communication with caregivers and involve them in classroom activities and decisions. Send home resources families can engage in together to promote a healing environment at home, too!

🌟Spark of Inspiration:Start the day with a short “Mindful Moment”—have the kids close their eyes, take deep breaths, and listen to calming music for a few minutes. Host a monthly “Family Fun Night” where parents and children can participate in arts and crafts or storytelling activities. Activities like this strengthen the school community and reinforce the support network for the children.

An Invitation to Transform Lives

Dear educators, you are the heart and soul of your classrooms. By prioritizing trauma-sensitive practices, which involve understanding the impact of trauma on children’s lives and adjusting your approach to meet their needs, you are meeting your students’ universal needs and empowering them to overcome challenges and reach their full potential. Let’s embark on this journey together, fostering environments where every child feels seen, heard, and cherished. Your dedication to creating trauma-sensitive environments will leave a lasting impact, shaping the future one child at a time. Thank you for your commitment, passion, and unwavering belief in the power of education to transform lives.

So, roll up your sleeves, put on your biggest smile, and make every classroom a beacon of hope and healing. Together, we can create a world where every child flourishes, no matter their starting point. Let’s sprinkle some magic in our classrooms and watch our students soar!

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Nurturing Resilience Through Play in Early Childhood

“Children need the freedom and time to play. Play is
not a luxury. Play is a necessity.”

Kay Redfield Jamison

Imagine a garden where every child is a budding flower, each needing care and attention to blossom fully. Throughout the early childhood journey, we often find ourselves navigating the delicate task of fostering resilience in our young learners. Resilience, that crucial capacity to bounce back from adversity, is a cornerstone for a fulfilling life with universal hope, boundless love, and limitless success. The magic ingredient to fostering this resilience? Play.

The Power of Play: More Than Just Fun

Play is often dismissed as a frivolous activity, merely a break from the “real” learning. However, research paints a different picture. By shifting our mindset, we can recognize that play is a fundamental way for children to explore themselves and the world around them. Deprived of play, children risk losing their imagination and autonomy. Through play, the seeds of critical social, emotional, and cognitive skills are planted, ready to be nurtured throughout their lives.

The Trauma-Informed Lens

A trauma-informed approach recognizes that many children come to us with invisible backpacks filled with stress, anxiety, and adverse experiences impacting their growth and development. One of the most powerful protective factors for fostering resilience and promoting healing is the presence of at least one caring adult who loves them irrationally and unconditionally. Wow, that’s powerful! By creating safe, nurturing, and playful environments, we can help children unpack these burdens, fostering a sense of security and belonging. This foundation, supported by a trusted, loving relationship, is vital for resilience.

Building Authentic Relationships

At the heart of resilience lies the power of authentic relationships. As we all do, even the youngest children need to feel seen, heard, and valued. This sense of belonging and connection is the foundation of resilience. Here are some practical strategies to foster these relationships with our little ones:

  • Be Present and Attentive: Show genuine interest in each child’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Active listening and eye contact go a long way in making a child feel valued.
  • Create Consistent Routines: Predictability provides a sense of security. Consistent routines help children feel safe and understand what to expect, reducing anxiety and increasing confidence.
  • Celebrate Individual Strengths: Each child is unique. Celebrate their strengths and achievements, no matter how small. This builds self-esteem and a positive self-concept.

Empowering Autonomy Through Play

Empowering children to make choices and take control of their play fosters independence and self-confidence. Here’s how to start:

  • Offer Choices Whenever Possible: Provide a variety of play activities and let children choose what interests them. This autonomy in decision-making boosts their confidence and sense of control.
  • Encourage Problem-Solving: Allow children to encounter challenges during play and observe them finding solutions, simply offering support through guided facilitation rather than intervening. This builds critical thinking and resilience.
  • Promote Risk-Taking in a Safe Environment: Encourage children to take calculated risks in play. This could be trying a new activity or exploring new roles in pretend play. Ensuring a safe environment allows them to experiment and learn from failures without fear.

Creating environments where every child feels included, capable, and joyful is crucial for fostering resilience because these environments help children develop a strong sense of self-worth and belonging. When children feel accepted and valued, they are more likely to take risks, persevere through challenges, and recover from setbacks. Here are a few ideas to incorporate into your child’s experiences to nurture resilience through play:

  • Sensory Exploration Stations: Create sensory bins or exploration stations with materials like rice, beans, fabric scraps, or natural objects (smooth stones, pinecones). Allow children to explore textures, colors, and shapes freely. This encourages sensory development and fosters a sense of curiosity and discovery.
  • Practical Life Activities: Introduce simple, age-appropriate tasks such as pouring water from a small pitcher into a cup, transferring objects between containers, or sorting shapes or colors. These activities promote fine motor skills, concentration, and independence.
  • Nature Walks and Outdoor Exploration: Take children on nature walks where they can explore natural surroundings, touch leaves, feel different textures, and observe insects or birds. Spending time outdoors supports sensory development, physical activity, and a connection to the natural world.
  • Music and Movement Activities: Engage children in music and movement activities such as singing songs with hand movements, dancing to music, or playing simple instruments like shakers or bells. Music and movement support language development, coordination, and emotional expression.
  • Quiet Reading and Storytelling:
    Create a cozy reading corner with age-appropriate books and soft cushions or rugs. Read aloud to children, using expressive voices and gestures. Storytelling helps develop language skills, imagination, and a sense of comfort and security.

These sensory-based activities are designed to be child-led, promoting independence, exploration, and learning through hands-on experiences while having fun! Incorporating trauma-informed practices involves creating a safe and supportive environment where children feel secure and valued, allowing them to explore and learn at their own pace.

Embracing the Journey

As early childhood professionals, we teach, guide, support, and inspire. Embrace the journey with a playful heart, and watch your young learners grow into resilient, confident, and joyful individuals. Remember, the seeds of resilience are planted in the rich soil of play, nurtured by genuine connections, and cultivated through empowering experiences.

In the words of Fred Rogers, “Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is the work of childhood.” Let’s embrace this philosophy and create a world where every child has the opportunity to thrive. Happy playing!

Ready to make a significant impact on young lives? Equip yourself with the essential skills to support and heal early childhood trauma. Enroll in Starr Commonwealth’s Trauma-Informed Certification for Early Childhood today and be the catalyst for change in your community. Learn more at https://starr.org/trauma-certification-early-childhood/.

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Five Ways to Foster Resilience

As professionals dedicated to working with youth, we are entrusted with a profound responsibility and a unique privilege: to shape and influence the lives of the young people we encounter. The most critical protective factor for increasing a child’s resilience is ensuring they believe they have at least one adult who loves them irrationally and unconditionally. This can be achieved by authentically connecting with children in a way that feels natural to them.

Every interaction with a child is an opportunity to foster resilience, build trust, and nurture a sense of belonging. Through the Circle of Courage principles and a trauma-informed approach, we can ensure that every child feels loved, valued, and cared for, exactly as they are and who they hope to be.

The Circle of Courage: A Foundation for Resilience

The Circle of Courage outlines four essential components that contribute to a child’s sense of belonging and overall well-being: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. Integrating these principles into our daily interactions creates an environment where children can thrive, even in adversity.

1. Belonging: Cultivating Connections and Community

The cornerstone of resilience is a strong sense of belonging. Children need to feel that they are part of a community that values and accepts them. As professionals, we can foster this by:

  • Proactively Responding to Bids for Attention: Children often fulfill their need for attention through their behavior, whether it’s positive or negative. By recognizing and responding to these bids in real-time, we affirm their worth and show them that they are seen and heard. A smile, a kind word, or a moment of undivided attention can make a world of difference.
  • Creating Inclusive Environments: Ensure that every child feels welcomed and included. Celebrate diversity and make a conscious effort to understand each child’s unique background and experiences. This helps build a community where every child feels they belong.

2. Mastery: Encouraging Growth and Achievement

Children need opportunities to learn, grow, and achieve. When we help them build skills and celebrate their successes, we empower them to take on new challenges confidently.

  • Setting Achievable Goals: Work alongside children to set realistic and attainable goals. Celebrate their progress, no matter how small, and provide positive reinforcement to encourage continued effort and persistence.
  • Offering Support and Resources: Provide the tools and resources children need to succeed. This might include tutoring, mentorship, or access to extracurricular activities that align with their interests and talents.

3. Independence: Empowering Self-Agency and Choice

Children need to feel that they have control over their lives and the ability to make choices. By fostering independence, we help them develop a sense of responsibility and self-efficacy.

  • Encouraging Decision-Making: Involve children in decisions that affect them. This can be as simple as allowing them to choose their activities or as significant as involving them in developing their own support plans.
  • Respecting Individuality: Recognize and honor each child’s unique strengths, interests, and needs. Encourage them to explore their passions and support them in pursuing their own paths.

4. Generosity: Instilling a Sense of Purpose and Connection

Helping children understand the value of giving back and contributing to their community fosters a sense of purpose and connection.

  • Modeling Generosity: Show children what it means to be generous through your own actions. Volunteer together, engage in community service or random acts of kindness, and discuss the importance of helping others.
  • Creating Opportunities for Contribution: Provide children with opportunities to contribute to their community through small acts of kindness or larger community projects. This helps them see their potential to make a positive impact.

Joyful Engagement: The Heart of Trauma-Informed Care

A resilience-focused approach requires us to meet each child with empathy, patience, and joy. By embracing every interaction as an opportunity to uplift and support, we can transform the lives of the children we serve. Here are some practical ways to infuse joy and care into our daily interactions:

  • Be Present: Give children your full attention. Listen actively and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.
  • Celebrate Uniqueness: Acknowledge and celebrate what makes each child unique. Encourage them to express themselves and validate their experiences.
  • Foster Positive Relationships: Build strong, trusting relationships with the children you work with. Show them that they can rely on you for support and guidance.
  • Maintain a Positive Outlook: Approach challenges with a positive attitude and a problem-solving mindset. Be the calm that helps children see obstacles as opportunities for growth and learning.
  • Authentic Connection: Make every effort to connect with each child in a manner that resonates with them. Understand their language, their interests, and their needs. Show them that your care and love are unwavering and unconditional.

By incorporating these practices into our work, we can create environments where children feel safe, valued, and empowered. Every interaction is a chance to build resilience, and by embracing this opportunity, we can make a lasting impact on the lives of the young people we serve. Let’s commit to making every moment count, nurturing resilience, and ensuring every child knows they are loved and cared for exactly as they are.

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How to Decrease Trauma Symptoms and Reactions of Anxiety

Healing from Within

We know that trauma is a profound and often distressing experience that can profoundly impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. The journey from trauma to healing is intricate, involving a complex interplay between the mind and body. Recognizing this connection is vital to fostering effective healing and recovery.

Understanding Trauma and Its Symptoms

Trauma can stem from a single overwhelming event or a series of adverse experiences such as accidents, natural disasters, violence, or sustained abuse. The symptoms of trauma can vary but often include:

  • Intrusive memories: Recurrent, involuntary memories or flashbacks of the traumatic event.
  • Avoidance: Steering clear of reminders of the trauma, whether people, places, or activities.
  • Negative changes in thinking and mood: Persistent feelings of hopelessness, guilt, or detachment from others.
  • Alterations in arousal and reactivity: Hypervigilance, exaggerated startle response, and difficulty sleeping.

These symptoms illustrate how trauma is not just a psychological experience but a profound bodily one. The body’s stress response is activated during trauma. Without proper resolution, this state of high alert can persist, contributing to ongoing anxiety and distress.

Anxiety as a Reaction to Trauma

Anxiety is a common reaction to trauma, manifesting as a heightened sense of fear, worry, and unease. This reaction is your body’s way of staying on guard against potential threats. When this state of heightened alertness becomes chronic, it can lead to ongoing difficulties.

From a resilience-focused perspective, anxiety can be seen as both a challenge and an opportunity. While it signals underlying distress, it also indicates that your body and mind are communicating about unprocessed trauma. Because we can not manage what we are unaware of, understanding and addressing these signals our bodies attempt to communicate is crucial for healing.

The Mind-Body Connection in Healing

The path to healing from trauma and its associated anxiety involves recognizing and nurturing the mind-body connection. Trauma is stored not just in our memories but also in our bodies. Therefore, effective healing practices must address both aspects. Here are some strategies to consider on your healing journey:

  1. Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become aware of your bodily sensations and thoughts and connect to them without judgment. By cultivating a sense of present-moment awareness, you can begin to process and release stored trauma.
  2. Breathwork: Conscious breathing exercises can regulate the nervous system, reducing symptoms of anxiety and helping you feel more grounded and centered during moments of dysregulation.
  3. Restoring Resilience: Building resilience involves developing skills to manage stress and bounce back from adversity. This includes fostering social connections, practicing self-care, creating a positive outlook, and seeking support as needed.

Healing Anxiety Reactions Through Sensory Interventions

Treating anxiety rooted in trauma through sensory interventions offers a powerful approach to healing and restoring resilience. Sensory interventions engage the body’s senses to process and release trauma, calming the nervous system and reducing anxiety. Techniques such as:

  • Aromatherapy: Using calming scents like lavender to evoke a sense of peace.
  • Grounding Exercises: Engaging in tactile sensations, such as holding a comforting object, to help you reconnect with your body and the present moment.
  • Structured Sensory Interventions: Activities like art or music interaction allow for the expression and processing of trauma in non-verbal ways, facilitating emotional release and recovery.

By incorporating these sensory interventions, you can gradually re-establish a sense of safety and resilience. Reconnecting your mind and body transforms anxiety into a pathway for healing. Building resilience is more than just coping with stress; it’s about thriving in the face of adversity. By integrating practices that honor the mind-body connection, you can develop greater emotional and physical resilience. This holistic approach not only addresses the symptoms of trauma and anxiety but also empowers you to reclaim your sense of well-being and purpose.

Ready to enhance your skills in trauma-informed care? Become a Certified Trauma and Resilience Specialist to deepen your understanding of trauma’s impact on children and gain practical tools for effective support. Our certification equips professionals like social workers, therapists, healthcare providers, and others working with children to broaden their expertise in trauma-informed practices.

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Understanding Stress: Empowering Resilience through Mindfulness

Throughout the beautiful journey of the human experience, stress emerges as a multifaceted phenomenon, weaving its threads through the fabric of our lives in various forms. From the everyday pressures of work and relationships to the deeper, more enduring effects of things like adverse childhood experiences, stress manifests in different ways, each with its own unique impact on our mental and physical health.

It’s crucial to recognize the diversity of stress and its effects as we navigate our journey toward resilience. Everyday stressors, such as traffic jams or looming deadlines, can trigger our body’s natural fight-or-flight response, leading to temporary feelings of tension and anxiety. These stressors can often be helpful for us to leverage our body’s natural hormone and chemical response to overcome the obstacle in front of us with gusto. On the other hand, toxic stress, often stemming from prolonged exposure to adverse experiences, often stemming from childhood, can have profound and lasting effects on our overall wellbeing.

However, amidst the complexities of stress, we possess a powerful tool: autonomy. We have the power to choose how we respond to stress, whether it’s by feeling overwhelmed and defeated or by proactively implementing strategies to mitigate its effects.

Mindfulness serves as a beacon of empowerment in this regard. By cultivating awareness, compassion, and presence, we can navigate the ebb and flow of stress with grace and resilience. Rather than feeling helpless in the face of life’s challenges, we can reclaim agency over our mental and emotional wellbeing.

Research has shown that mindfulness practices can significantly reduce the adverse effects of stress on our mental and physical health. By integrating simple daily practices into our lives, we can take a proactive approach to mental wellness, mitigating the impact of stress before it takes its toll.

So, what can we do to cultivate mindfulness in our daily lives? Here are some practical strategies to get started:

  • Mindful Breathing: Take a few moments each day to focus on your breath, allowing it to ground you in the present moment. Notice the sensations of each inhale and exhale, and let them anchor you in a sense of calm and centeredness. With each inhale, acknowledge the sensations your body is experiencing and validate your feelings. With each exhale, give your body permission to release it and find an inner calmness.
  • Body Scan Meditation: Set aside time to scan your body from head to toe, tuning in to any areas of tension or discomfort. With each breath, invite relaxation to flow into those areas, releasing stress and promoting a sense of ease.
  • Mindful Movement: Engage in gentle movement practices such as yoga, walking, or stretching, paying attention to the sensations in your body as you move. Let each movement be a meditation in motion, connecting mind, body, and breath.
  • Gratitude Practice: Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, no matter how small. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can shift your perspective and foster a sense of joy and contentment, even in the face of adversity.
  • Mindful Eating: Slow down and savor each bite of your meals, paying attention to the flavors, textures, and sensations as you eat. Eating mindfully not only enhances your enjoyment of food but also promotes digestive health and overall well-being.

By embracing mindfulness as a proactive approach to mental wellness, we can navigate life’s challenges with resilience and strength. Let us empower ourselves to take control of our well-being, one mindful moment at a time.

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Prioritizing Mental Wellness in Education: A Trauma-Informed Approach to Empower Teachers and Students

As we embrace Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s crucial to reflect on the invaluable role educators play in shaping the emotional and social well-being of our communities. Now more than ever, the importance of prioritizing mental wellness in schools cannot be overstated. At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in the power of a trauma-informed approach to education, one that champions the social and emotional well-being of every individual within the school community.

Educators are the unsung heroes who impart knowledge and provide a nurturing environment where students can thrive emotionally and academically. However, to effectively support our students, we must first support our educators. They are the heartbeat of our schools, and their well-being is paramount to creating safe and supportive learning environments.

Incorporating trauma-informed practices into schools is not just about understanding the impact trauma has on one’s ability to learn; it’s about fostering a culture of empathy, understanding, and resilience. It’s about recognizing that every individual brings their own unique experiences to the classroom and creating a safe space where they feel valued and heard; a space where every individual feels like they belong simply by showing up as their most authentic selves.

So, how can we empower educators to prioritize mental wellness for themselves and their students? It starts with embracing a strengths-based approach—one that celebrates the resilience and potential within each person. Here are five effective strategies educators can implement today to prioritize student mental wellness in their learning environments from a trauma-informed approach:

  1. Create a Safe and Supportive Environment: Foster a sense of safety and belonging in the classroom by establishing clear expectations for behavior and providing consistent routines that are co-created between the teacher and students in the room. Create physical spaces that feel welcoming and comfortable, and encourage open communication where students feel safe to express their thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment.
  2. Practice Mindfulness and Self-Regulation: Incorporate mindfulness exercises and self-regulation techniques into daily routines to help students manage stress and regulate their emotions. Teach breathing exercises, guided meditation, or simple yoga poses to help students develop awareness of their thoughts and feelings, promoting emotional regulation and resilience.

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  1. Promote Positive Relationships: Build positive relationships with students based on trust, respect, and empathy. Take the time to get to know each student individually, show genuine interest in their well-being, and provide opportunities for meaningful connection. Recognize and celebrate their individual strengths and accomplishments daily, fostering a sense of belonging and worthiness.
  2. Teach Coping Skills: Equip students with practical coping skills to manage adversity and navigate challenging situations. Teach problem-solving strategies, effective communication skills, and stress management techniques to empower students to respond adaptively to stressors and build resilience. Encourage self-reflection and goal-setting to promote personal growth and development.
  3. Provide Access to Support Services: Ensure students have access to appropriate support services and resources to address their mental health needs. Collaborate with school counselors, social workers, and other mental health professionals to provide interventions and support tailored to individual student needs. Offer psychoeducation to students and families about mental health and available resources, reducing stigma and promoting help-seeking behavior.

As we navigate the complexities of education, let us remember the profound impact that a trauma-informed approach can have on the well-being of our students and educators alike. Let us celebrate the resilience and strength within each member of our school community, and let us continue to prioritize mental wellness as we shape the future together.

This Mental Health Awareness Month, let us recommit ourselves to creating schools where every individual feels seen, heard, and valued. Together, we can build a brighter, more resilient future for our students and educators alike.

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Cultivating Resilience: A Blueprint for Educators

In the bustling corridors of our schools, amidst the laughter and the learning, there exists a silent yet powerful force: resilience. The inner strength that propels our students forward, even in the face of adversity. As educators, we have the privilege and the responsibility to nurture this resilience, to foster environments where every child can thrive. Today, let’s explore how we can put this into action within our learning environments.

Step 1: Embrace Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) Skills

  • Integrate SEL into your curriculum: Infuse lessons with opportunities for students to explore and develop their emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and relationship-building skills.
  • Model SEL in action: Be intentional about demonstrating empathy, active listening, and conflict resolution in your interactions with students and colleagues.
  • Provide SEL resources: Equip students with tools and resources—such as mindfulness exercises, emotion regulation strategies, and problem-solving techniques—to navigate challenges and build resilience.

Step 2: Foster a Sense of Belonging and Inclusion

  • Create a welcoming environment: Set the tone for inclusivity by decorating your classroom with diverse representations and affirming messages that celebrate the uniqueness of each student. Remember to greet each student by name upon their arrival to set an immediate warm tone each day!
  • Promote student voice and agency: Empower students to contribute their ideas, opinions, and perspectives to classroom discussions and decision-making processes.
  • Establish supportive relationships: Cultivate trusting relationships with your students by showing genuine interest in their well-being, offering encouragement and praise, and providing opportunities for one-on-one check-ins.

Step 3: Provide Access to Mental Health Support Resources

  • Offer counseling services: Partner with school counselors or mental health professionals to provide confidential support and resources for students experiencing emotional distress or mental health challenges as needed.
  • Implement mindfulness practices: Integrate mindfulness activities, such as deep breathing exercises, guided movement, or calming music into your daily routine to help students manage stress and enhance their well-being.
  • Collaborate with community organizations: Forge partnerships with local mental health agencies, nonprofit organizations, or youth centers to expand access to mental health services and support networks for students and families while reducing the stigma of accessing these types of supports.

Step 4: Reflect, Adapt, and Grow

  • Regularly assess student needs: Use informal check-ins, surveys, or classroom circle discussions to gather student feedback about their social-emotional well-being and identify areas for growth.
  • Reflect on your practices: Take time to reflect on your teaching strategies, classroom management techniques, and interactions with students to identify opportunities for improvement and refine your approach.
  • Stay informed and connected: Stay up to date on the latest research, best practices, and professional development opportunities related to trauma-informed care, restorative practices, and student well-being. Remember to be curious and apply a strengths-based mindset throughout your daily routines to help put your learning into practice.

By following these steps, we can create learning environments that foster academic achievement and nurture every student’s resilience and well-being. Let’s embark on this journey of cultivating resilience, one lesson, one interaction, and one heart at a time.

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Cultivating Belonging: Navigating Exclusion with Restorative and Resilience-Focused Approach to Discipline

Hello, fellow educators and guardians of compassionate learning! Today, we embark on a transformative journey towards redefining disciplinary practices through the lens of restorative justice and resilience-focused mindset. Prepare to be inspired as we delve into a realm where exclusion, as a last resort in response to behavior, is reframed as an opportunity for connection, growth, and healing.

At Starr Commonwealth, we recognize the profound impact of trauma on young minds and the urgency of cultivating safe, nurturing environments within our educational spaces. It’s time to bid farewell to punitive measures that fracture relationships and breed resentment and, instead, embrace a mindset centered on restoration and reconnection.

Imagine this scenario: a student grappling with challenges beyond their control acts out in a way that disrupts the classroom environment. This might trigger an immediate exclusion in traditional settings, perpetuating a cycle of disengagement and isolation. But what if we paused, took a collective breath, and approached the situation with empathy and understanding?

Enter restorative discipline—a proactive and holistic approach rooted in the principles of healing and accountability. It begins with nurturing a culture of belonging and empowerment, where every voice is valued, and every behavior is viewed as an opportunity for growth.

Before exclusion becomes the default response, let’s explore the power of staying connected. This means reaching out to the student and their family, not with judgment or blame, but with genuine curiosity and support. It means engaging in restorative conversations that foster empathy, reflection, and mutual understanding.

In addition to maintaining connection, consider implementing restorative circles within your classroom or school community. These circles provide a structured space for dialogue, allowing participants to share their perspectives, express their feelings, and work collaboratively toward resolution. By embracing restorative circles, you create a sense of collective responsibility and empower students to become active participants in their own growth and development. This, in turn, serves as a proactive and universal approach to prevent behaviors that are hurtful to the learning environment!

Furthermore, let’s not overlook the critical role of reintegration meetings. Within the system of education, we understand that sometimes exclusionary practices are deemed necessary, especially in ensuring the maintenance of a safe learning environment for both staff and students. As such, when removing a student from their learning environment is deemed necessary, the need for a reintegration meeting upon their return to school is critical! These gatherings bring together all parties involved in the incident that took place, creating a sacred space for healing and reconciliation. Here, relationships are reaffirmed, harm is acknowledged, and plans for moving forward are collaboratively devised. This is where the real work of accountability, learning from mistakes, and learning empathy takes place.

But the journey doesn’t end there. Restorative discipline isn’t just a reactive measure; it’s a way of life. By adopting the Circle of Courage philosophy, we equip ourselves with a framework that honors the innate resilience and potential of every student. Start with universal approaches that promote belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity. And for those in need of additional support, offer targeted interventions that address underlying needs and teach essential skills while we simultaneously work to fulfill any unmet needs that exist.

So, dear educators, let us embark on this transformative journey together. Let us reclaim discipline as an act of love, healing, and empowerment. As we navigate the challenges ahead, let us remember the profound impact we have on shaping the hearts and minds of the next generation.

Together, we can create a world where every child feels seen, heard, and valued. Let’s make it happen, one restorative connection at a time.

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Sparking Joy: Transformative Time-In Strategies for Resilience-Focused Learning Spaces

In the vibrant realm of shaping young minds, where every moment holds the potential for transformation, we often encounter challenges that disrupt the journey of growth and learning. However, amidst these moments lies an opportunity to transform behaviors and lives. At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in the power of joy, resilience, and trauma-informed care to create safe and supportive classrooms where every student can thrive. Join us on a journey to explore practical time-in strategies designed to nurture resilience, foster connection, and empower both you and your students.

Embracing Time-In Strategies

As trauma-responsive educators, we firmly believe in the stark contrast between time-in strategies, which nurture a student’s sense of belonging and resilience, and exclusionary practices that jeopardize their connection to the school community. By embracing time-in approaches, we prioritize building supportive relationships and fostering a culture where every student feels valued, respected, and empowered to thrive.

Time-in strategies offer a beacon of hope, guiding us toward meaningful connections and transformative moments in the classroom. Instead of resorting to punitive measures, time-in strategies invite students into a space of reflection, growth, and restoration.

Practical and Proactive Strategies

  1. Mindful Moments: Begin each day with a mindful moment, inviting students to center themselves through deep breathing or gentle stretches. These mindful moments can include no movement, small movements, or large movements depending on what the student’s body needs to achieve regulation. This sets a positive tone for the day and cultivates emotional regulation skills.
  2. Emotion Check-Ins: Create a safe space for students to express their emotions through check-in circles or journaling exercises. Encourage active listening and validation of each other’s experiences, fostering empathy and a sense of belonging.
  3. Calm Corners: Designate a cozy corner in the classroom equipped with calming activities such as coloring books, sensory bottles, or soft pillows. This provides students with a refuge to self-regulate and recharge during moments of distress.
  4. Strength-Based Affirmations: Integrate strength-based affirmations into daily routines, acknowledging each student’s unique talents and contributions. Celebrate their resilience and growth, fostering a culture of positivity and self-empowerment.
  5. Restorative Circles: Engage in restorative circles to address conflicts or challenges within the classroom community. Facilitate open dialogue, active listening, and collaborative problem-solving, promoting accountability and reconciliation.

Responding to ‘Disruptive’ Behavior

When faced with behaviors that are disruptive to the learning environment, it’s essential to approach them with empathy and a trauma-informed lens. First and foremost, we must always remember to maintain our curious mindset, being inquisitive about what the child is attempting to communicate to us. What need has not been met for that child that they are seeking to get met in the best way they know how? Instead of reacting impulsively, consider the underlying needs or triggers behind the behavior. Here are some strategies to respond effectively:

  • Stay Calm: Maintain a calm demeanor and avoid escalating the situation. Take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts before responding.
  • Validate Feelings: Acknowledge the student’s emotions and validate their experiences. Let them know you’re here to support and help them navigate through challenges.
  • Offer Choices: Provide the student with options to regain control and autonomy. Offer alternative activities or ways to address their needs within the classroom environment.
  • Reconnect: Focus on rebuilding the connection with the student through positive interactions and reaffirmation of their strengths. Emphasize that mistakes are opportunities for growth and learning.

Embrace the Journey

As you embark on implementing these time-in strategies, remember that change takes time and patience. Embrace the process with an open heart, knowing that each small step you take has the potential to make a profound difference in the lives of your students.

Trust in the resilience of your students and yourself. Together, let’s create classrooms where joy, compassion, and learning flourish hand in hand. Let’s cultivate a culture of connection and empowerment, one time-in strategy at a time.

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Resilience I Spy

Finding the Circle of Courage in Action

Start the New Year with a focus on resilience by teaching your students about the Circle of Courage. Then, challenge them to eye-spy the resilience model’s components in action. 

Circle of Courage: A Model of Resilience

This resilience model is easy to teach students of all ages.

“We all have four universal needs. When these needs are met, we feel our best. But we will not feel our best if even one of the four universal needs is unmet. When even one is missing, we might feel sad, frustrated, worried, or angry. Let me tell you about the four universal needs. 

The first one is Belonging – we feel good when we feel like we belong. This can be at school with friends or at home with our families. We feel connected to other people when we feel a sense of belonging. 

The next universal need is Mastery. We feel good when we can accomplish and are good at something – this can be like solving a math problem, learning a new skill while playing a sport, or drawing a picture that makes us proud. 

Independence is the third universal need. This need is met when we control our emotions and behavior. This doesn’t mean we don’t get upset – it just means if we get upset, we know what to do to help ourselves feel better, so we don’t lose our temper or misbehave. 

The last universal need is generosity. We get this need met when we feel helpful and valuable to others. 

To review, we all need to feel like we belong or are connected to others, are good at something, can stay in control of our emotions and behavior even when we are upset, and feel like we are valuable to other people.“

Offer your students an I Spy Challenge

As a fun way to start the new year, I am challenging you to a game of eye-spy. In this game, I want you to try to notice your classmates and me when we are getting any one or more of our universal needs met or helping another person obtain one of their needs.  

Whenever you notice the Circle of Courage in action, you can raise your hand and say, “Eye-Spy”. Then, you can tell us what you saw. For example, when a classmate greets another student when they enter the room by saying, hello, they are making that person feel like they belong. If a student helps another student learn how to solve a tricky math problem, they demonstrate mastery. When a student asks for a break instead of yelling or getting angry, they are showing us independence. And, lastly, if I ask a student to bring something down to the office for me, they are being generous. 

Ask students to give you more examples. You can add the examples to a whiteboard, so they are easy for students to reference. Then, start the challenge. You might want to have one or two students keep track of how many universal needs in action are spotted by using a tally for each.  You can play along too. Set a goal for the class for a total number of universal needs spotted during the day. Reinforce the importance of all students getting their universal needs met to feel their best. When all students are aware of others and strive to help meet their needs, the overall classroom culture and climate will improve. 

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Calming Corners: How to Implement in your Classroom

In the bustling world of education, where students and teachers are constantly navigating through a whirlwind of learning activities, introducing a calming corner can be an effective solution for many student needs. As reported in Starr’s Resilient Schools Project whitepaper, this is paramount to learning. While trying to individualize the instruction and social emotional supports for every student, the universal approach to creating a safe space for all students to learn is easily overlooked, but is truly the essential component of a resilience focused classroom.  

The Importance of Calming Corners

The modern classroom is a dynamic space filled with diverse personalities, learning styles, and energy levels. While excitement and engagement are integral to the learning process, moments of stress, anxiety, or overstimulation can also arise; having a dedicated space where students an retreat to find peace and regain their calmness is essential. This is where ‘Calming Corners’ come into play, not just as a physical space but as a transformative approach to classroom management and student well-being. ‘Calming Corners’ serve as dedicated spaces where students can take a moment away from the day’s demands, offering a retreat to regain composure and recenter their thoughts and emotions. 

The Benefits of Calming Corners

Children process a vast amount of sensory information daily. For some, this can be overwhelming, leading to sensory overload and emotional outbursts. Calming Corners provides a sensory-friendly area that helps students filter out the chaos and focus on regaining their emotional balance. The sensory benefits are countless but include: 

  • Visual Calm: Soft lighting and muted colors can reduce visual stimulation.  
  • Auditory Relief: Quiet spaces or the use of headphones can dampen the overwhelming noise of a busy classroom.  
  • Tactile Engagement: Access to stress balls or soft textures can offer comfort and grounding.  
  • Mindfulness Activities: ‘Time-in’ time is a great opportunity for students to do some breathing or movement to return to the center.  
  • Proprioceptive Input: Cozy furniture or weighted blankets can provide pressure that is calming to many children.  

Designing an Effective Calming Corner

Creating the perfect calming corner for your classroom doesn’t require a large budget or an expansive space. One of the best starting points to planning out a Calming Corner for your students is to include them in the process! Consider adding questions about what helps them feel peaceful, what type of objects help them focus, what colors make them feel calm, etc., during your next Circle Meeting. This involvement fosters a sense of ownership and ensures that the space resonates with the unique needs of the class. Here are some additional ideas and tools to help get you started:  

  • Selecting the Right Location: Choose a quiet, low-traffic area within the classroom. Ideally, the calming corner should be easily accessible but not in the midst of the main learning space. 
  • Creating a Cozy & Private Atmosphere: Use soft cushions, blankets of different weights and texture, and rugs to make the space inviting. Consider incorporating elements of nature, such as plants or nature-themed artwork, to evoke a sense of tranquility. Using bookshelves or room dividers is helpful to provide a sense of seclusion without complete isolation.  
  • Incorporating Sensory Tools – Provide a variety of sensory tools that support the students’ sensory systems.  
    • Visual: lava lamps, liquid timers, or calming jars  
    • Tactile: such as stress balls, fidget spinners, playdough or textured items.  
    • Auditory: headphones with calming music or nature sounds or noise canceling head phones 
    • Olfactory: a diffuser with calming scents such as lavender, peppermint candies to smell or eat, essential oil-infused rice bins or pillows 
    • These tools can engage different senses and help students channel excess energy or tension. 
  • Encourage Emotional Literacy – Introduce mindfulness activities, such as guided breathing exercises, calming music, or feelings charts. These visuals help children to identify and articulate their emotions while also providing them with step-by-step guides of how to practice these new skills. All of these resources can aid in relaxation and promote mindfulness. 
  • Personalization and Student Involvement – Incorporate art supplies to encourage expression through drawing or coloring, offering books about feelings can offer both comfort and learning. 
  • Maintain the Space – Keeping the area tidy and inviting on a regular basis will ensure it stays organized, warm, and inviting. Regularly rotating out the tools and resources will help to maintain the student’s interest. 

Calming Corners are more than just a space; they are a testament to the evolving understanding of children’s emotional needs in an educational setting. In the ever-evolving education landscape, incorporating calming corners represents a thoughtful and proactive approach to student well-being. By acknowledging the diverse emotional needs of students and providing them with a dedicated space to navigate their feelings, educators can create a more holistic and supportive learning environment. As the saying goes, stressed brains can’t learn, and in the calm corners of our classrooms, students can find the balance needed to thrive academically and emotionally. 

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How to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School | Foster Connections

Foster Connections

Students who feel connected to their school are also more likely to have better academic achievement, better school attendance, and stay in school longer.
 

How can you connect to your students?

One of the best ways to connect with your students is having classroom meetings. These meetings not only allows you to connect with students, but also allows the students to connect with each other and build community within the classroom.
 
How can you implement a classroom meeting?
 
Step 1: Form a shape (circle, square). Teacher and students discuss, decide, and practice:

  • Floor or chairs
  • Where, how do you get there?
  • Who do you sit by?
  • What does it look like?
  • What does it sound like?
Step 2: Introduce a talking piece. This talking piece helps regulate communication between students. Whoever has this piece is allowed to talk. Talking pieces may be a toy, a stick, a stone, or another small object.

Step 3: Practice using various topics to create proactive classroom meetings:

  • Get to Know You and Greetings
  • Who Am I
  • Compliments and Appreciations
Below is a video of education professionals like yourself explaining the topics they talk about at their classroom meetings:
 

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For more implementation on how to foster connections in the classroom, check out Starr’s 
10 Steps to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School!

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How can you Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient Classroom or School?

Step 1:  Focus on Student Resilience

What is student resilience?

Student Resilience is the ability to achieve positive outcomes—mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually despite adversity.

To focus on student resilience, start by creating a set core of values and beliefs about the children you serve.  The Circle of Courage is a model of positive youth development based on the universal principle to be emotionally healthy, all youth need a sense of belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity.

Circle of Courage


What does this look like in a school?

Belonging at school is when every student believes they are valued, seen, heard, and cared for.

Mastery at school is when every student believes they can achieve despite their challenges.

Independence at school is when every student believes they have the power to make decisions that will impact their own lives.

Generosity at school is when every student believes they have a purpose for their lives that can positively contribute to the world.

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Looking to learn more about how to do this in your classroom or across your building for all students? Reach out to Starr Commonwealth today for a personalized consultation about our training and consulting services to help ensure every child learns in an environment where they can flourish!

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The Helper’s Charge to Recharge: Doing and Becoming Our Best

Recently a teenage client asked me a question that threw me, unexpectedly. (Over the years, I’ve amassed a considerable anthology of examples on what makes them famous for this gift, so it’s not an easy thing to do these days!)

I attended an engaging group session on characteristics of community and racial trauma, after which the group’s therapist allotted time for a “Q and A” between her adolescent clients and me, their guest. One member asked me, “How do you deal with trauma?”

I started to summarize the vast nature of trauma, and the equally vast approaches to treating it – then asked him for an example of the type of trauma he was referring to. He repeated his question, “No – how do you deal with trauma?”

“How do I?” I asked, taken aback.

“Yes,” he replied. “You hear about other people’s trauma every day, so how do you deal with it?”

I was struck by the sophistication of his question, especially when I realized what he was really asking. He wasn’t asking me about my trauma, or how I’m impacted by other people’s trauma. He was asking me about my resilience! I paused to evaluate why I felt so caught off guard, and was reminded: As helpers, this is something we don’t discuss often enough.

I started listing some of my self-care practices: yoga, meditation, playing in an ensemble, spending time with loved ones and reflective consulting with supervisors. (Heads nodded as they recognized some of these as the very techniques they’re encouraged to adopt.) I summed up by echoing their therapist’s message on the universal requirement for dealing with trauma: “Just like you, I don’t do it alone.”

[Re]charging toward resilience.   

The helper bears significant weight in leading this complicated, and often painful, journey with clients. Sensory-based interventions assist us with helping clients access, activate, integrate and heal their body, mind and spirit – and the therapeutic relationship navigates this path, as we work to know our client’s trauma as they know it. The interventions offered through Starr Commonwealth (Zero to Three: Trauma Interventions, SITCAP®, Mind Body Skills, Expressive Arts Therapy, etc.) provide the tools to treat the psychophysiology of child trauma with activities that are:

  • relationship-based and experiential
  • adaptive to myriad stages of child development
  • inherently designed to foster empathic attunement within the therapeutic relationship

The attunement we establish with the client can put us closer in touch with our own vulnerability, as we become proximate to theirs – while also providing the opportunity to connect with our own resiliency, as we help them build theirs. In doing so, we charge toward the horizon of resiliency, as our clients reclaim their power from a place of wholeness.

What charges the charge?

We know that self-care is essential to maintaining health and wellness, and defending against the perils of secondary traumatic stress and vicarious trauma. Part of maintaining personal well-being includes solitary space to reflect. Whether on our yoga mat, steeped in a hot bath, sprawled on the masseuse’s table, napping, walking, running or cycling to achieve that meditative hum in perpetual motion, physical care is essential to a healthy mind, body and spirit. But how much of our self care are we doing alone?

A barrage of solitary self-care routines do not make a complete self-care practice.

Without relationship, connection and support in spaces where reflective processing occurs, our self-care practices leave us… alone. Staying healthy, staving off symptoms of secondary traumatic stress and avoiding compassion fatigue are all critical aims, of course. But, the act of being reflective within a relationship is critical, whether through individual or group supervision/consultation. Our dear friend, Dr. Jeree Pawl, PhD, offers us a wise navigational compass toward the parallel process, in The Platinum Rule:

“Do unto others as you would have others do unto others.”

We draw upon on the tenets of Polyvagal and Attachment Theories to provide sensory-based, integrated approaches to healing the individual and interpersonal wounds of trauma. We engage the fields of the brain and nervous systems to help our clients heal and achieve resiliency – and how we restore our own depleted systems informs our capacity to do so. As helpers, it’s our charge to sustain and advance this capacity. We require a space where we’re held with what we hold, seen with what we see, and can be shown what has not yet been revealed while reflecting on our own. Maintaining a reflective practice in a relationship helps elevate our ability to hold that crucial space for clients through the parallel process. Thinking about self-care as a means of advancing our efficacy as helpers prompts us to consider it as a key to simultaneously putting ourselves and our clients first. When we take better care of us, we take better care of them.

Pawl, J. H., & St John, M. (1998). How You Are Is as Important as What You Do… in Making a Positive Difference for Infants, Toddlers and Their Families. Zero to Three, 734 15th Street, NW, Suite 1000, Washington, DC 20005-1013