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Beyond the Behavior: A Trauma-Responsive Approach to Youth Substance Use 

The rising rates of substance use among youth—whether it’s vaping, alcohol, or other drugs—are an urgent and undeniable reality in our schools and communities. But what if we told you that substance use isn’t the problem? What if we looked beyond the behavior and saw it for what it truly is—a symptom of something deeper? 

As school professionals and leaders, we have a choice: we can continue to chase symptoms, reacting with punitive discipline that often reinforces harm, or we can commit to understanding why a young person turns to substances in the first place. 

At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in the power of Resilience-Focused Schools, where we recognize that behavior is communication and that every child can heal and grow when we meet their core needs. 

Addiction as a Response to Pain: What Are Students Really Telling Us? 

We often focus on what we can see—students vaping in bathrooms, smelling of smoke, or getting caught under the influence. But substance use is not about the nicotine, alcohol, or drugs themselves. It’s about the need those substances are temporarily filling. 

Young people turn to substances as a means of coping with overwhelming emotions—fear, anxiety, loneliness, stress, or trauma. When they don’t feel safe, when they lack a sense of belonging, or when life feels unpredictable, substances offer an escape. Addiction is not about seeking pleasure—it is about seeking relief. 

To make a lasting difference, we must first seek to understand rather than control. The question isn’t “How do we make them stop?” but rather “What pain is this child trying to numb?” 

The Circle of Courage: Meeting Needs Before Addressing Symptoms 

When we discipline students for substance use without addressing the why, we risk deepening their sense of disconnection and reinforcing the very emotions that led them to use in the first place. Suspension, exclusion, and shaming don’t solve the problem—they amplify it. 

Instead, we can turn to a strengths-based framework like Starr’s Circle of Courage® model, which identifies four universal needs that every young person must have met to develop resilience:

✔ Belonging – “Do I matter? Who truly sees me?” 
✔ Mastery – “Am I capable? Can I be successful in something meaningful?” 
✔ Independence – “Do I have agency and control over my life?” 
✔ Generosity – “Can I contribute? Do I have a purpose beyond myself?” 

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Substance use often signals a breakdown in one or more of these areas. If a student does not feel connected, confident, or valued, they will seek relief in whatever way is available—whether that’s vaping, drinking, or using other substances. 

Rethinking Our Response: From Punishment to Restoration 

It is easy to feel frustrated when students make harmful choices. But we must ask ourselves: Is our response helping them heal, or is it pushing them further into distress? 

Exclusionary discipline—suspension, expulsion, and zero-tolerance policies—often send the message: You are bad. You don’t belong here. And when a young person feels even more disconnected, their reliance on substances often increases, not decreases. 

Instead, we can shift our approach by: 

✔ Building Authentic Relationships – Before we can influence a student’s choices, we must first earn their trust. Young people need to know that we see them, we care, and we will not define them by their worst moments. A student who feels valued is less likely to seek validation in unhealthy ways. 

✔ Using Restorative Conversations – Rather than asking, “Why did you do this?” try “What’s going on with you?” or “What do you need right now?”. The goal is not to punish but to uncover the underlying emotions driving the behavior. 

✔ Offering Meaningful Alternatives – Instead of automatically suspending, consider interventions that rebuild connection rather than isolate. Some schools have introduced healing circles, mentorship programs, and peer accountability processes that allow students to take responsibility without being cast out. 

✔ Addressing Root Causes – This means looking beyond the incident to what is happening in the student’s life, school experience, and community. Are they struggling with mental health? Are they facing challenges at home? Are they feeling unseen and unheard? Until we address these factors, any intervention will be temporary at best. 

Beyond Discipline: Creating Pathways to Hope and Healing 

The way we choose to respond to student substance use will either open a door to healing or reinforce the very pain that fuels the behavior. We are not just educators, administrators, or school leaders—we are lifelines for students who may not have anywhere else to turn. 

This is not about ignoring consequences. It is about ensuring that the consequences we choose actually help, rather than harm. 

So, the next time you see a student struggling with substance use, pause before reacting. Instead of asking, “How do we punish this?”, ask “How do we heal this?” The answer may change everything. 

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Transforming Schools into Safe and Resilient Environments

A School Leader’s Dilemma: The Safety Crisis We Can’t Ignore 

You start your morning with the weight of the school day ahead—not just academic achievement and staffing shortages, but the increasing violence, threats, and crisis-level behaviors affecting students and staff alike. 

Your inbox is flooded with concerns: a fight that erupted in the hallway, a student caught making a threat on social media, a report of self-harm, another urgent threat assessment meeting to determine if a student is at risk of harming themselves or others. 

You take a deep breath, knowing that the old ways of responding—suspensions, security cameras, zero-tolerance policies—aren’t enough. You’ve increased supervision, refined your discipline code, and even brought in outside experts, but the problems persist. 

Deep down, you know the truth: We can’t discipline our way to a safe and supportive school. 

It’s time for a different approach—one that doesn’t just react to problems but transforms the conditions that create them. 

This is the journey toward becoming a resilience-focused school district, one that prioritizes proactive solutions over reactive discipline, and builds a culture where students feel safe, valued, and supported—before a crisis occurs. 

Beyond Security Measures: The Need for a Resilience-Focused Approach 

As school leaders, we all want the same thing: fewer fights, fewer threats, fewer incidents of harm to self or others while we focus on improving holistic student outcomes. We need real solutions that decrease violence and improve school climate, but here’s what research and experience tell us: 

✔ Students who feel disconnected are more likely to engage in risky, harmful, or violent behaviors.
✔ Fear-based discipline (suspensions, expulsions, exclusionary practices) doesn’t deter misbehavior—it often escalates it.
✔ Schools with a culture of connection, trust, and proactive support see fewer crises and higher academic success. 

That’s why leading districts across the country are shifting toward a universal, proactive model rooted in resilience—one that goes beyond just responding to safety concerns and instead creates the conditions where students feel safe, supported, and less likely to engage in harmful behaviors in the first place. 

What a Safe and Supportive School Really Looks Like 

Safety isn’t just about preventing the next crisis—it’s about building a foundation where students don’t feel the need to engage in high-risk behaviors, threaten others, or harm themselves. 

A truly safe and supportive school environment is one where: 

✔ Students feel seen, heard, and valued—reducing the need to seek attention in negative ways.
✔ Threat assessments become less frequent—because students have the tools to regulate their emotions before they escalate.
✔ Staff feel empowered and supported—knowing they have strategies to de-escalate situations and prevent harm.
✔ Fights and violent incidents decrease—because students develop a sense of connection, belonging, and responsibility to their school community. 

This transformation isn’t theoretical. Schools that commit to resilience-focused practices report real, measurable improvements, including: 

✅ Significant drops in office discipline referrals
✅ Fewer fights and physical altercations
✅ Lower suspension and expulsion rates
✅ Increased student engagement and attendance
✅ Better staff morale and retention 

The Power of a Proactive, District-Wide Approach 

Traditional school discipline often focuses on the behavior we can see—the fight in the hallway, the online threat, the refusal to follow rules. But these behaviors are symptoms, not root causes. 

A resilience-focused school asks a different set of questions: 

🔹 What is this behavior telling us about what the student needs?
🔹 How can we address the underlying factors before they escalate into harm?
🔹 What proactive systems can we put in place to build connection, trust, and self-regulation? 

The Resilient Schools Project offers a universal, multi-tiered approach that integrates: 

✔ Trauma-informed, resilience-focused training for all staff—from bus drivers to teachers to district leadership.
✔ Restorative practices that build accountability through relationships, not punishment.
✔ Sensory-enriched environments with calming spaces, movement breaks, and tools for self-regulation.
✔ A strong focus on student voice, belonging, and proactive supports to prevent crises before they happen. 

Why Traditional Punishment Isn’t Working—And What to Do Instead 

The instinct to tighten discipline policies, increase surveillance, and issue harsher consequences is understandable. When students make harmful choices, we want to send a clear message. 

But here’s what we’ve learned: 

🚫 Suspensions and expulsions don’t “fix” behavior—they often make it worse. Research shows that exclusionary discipline increases the likelihood of future misbehavior, disengagement, and even justice system involvement.
🚫 Reactive discipline doesn’t prevent the next crisis. Punishing a student after they’ve made a threat or engaged in violence doesn’t address why they felt the need to do so in the first place. 

✅ Instead, we must create school environments where students learn self-regulation, accountability, and connection—before they reach a breaking point. 

A Call to Action: The Leadership Our Schools Need 

As district leaders, we set the tone for what’s possible. 

This is not about ignoring discipline—it’s about rethinking safety as a proactive, relationship-based approach that prevents harm before it occurs. 

Every district has a starting point on this journey. Whether you’re facing increasing fights, escalating threats, or students struggling with mental health concerns, transformation begins with a commitment to something better. 

So, what’s the next step? 

✔ Assess where your district is now. What’s working? What’s not? Are reactive measures dominating your response to student behavior?
✔ Engage your staff, students, and families. A culture shift requires buy-in from everyone. Start the conversation about what safety really looks like.
✔ Commit to proactive, resilience-focused practices. Whether through professional development, restorative approaches, or district-wide initiatives, choose to invest in prevention over punishment. 

🌟How trauma-informed and resilience-focused is your school? Find out with our Trauma-Informed Schools Questionnaire. Schedule a consultation today to dive deeper into how this tool can support your journey toward a trauma-informed, resilience-focused school!

The Future of School Safety is Resilience 

We all want to reduce violence, prevent harm, and create safer schools. 

But safe schools aren’t built through fear—they are built through trust, connection, and a commitment to resilience. As leaders, we have the power to make that commitment today.

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From Stress to Strength: Helping Youth Feel Connected

Imagine this: You’re walking alone in the woods, and suddenly, a rustling in the bushes makes your heart race. Your body stiffens. You feel a jolt of energy surge through you—your fight-or-flight system is kicking in before you even have time to think. Maybe it’s just the wind…or maybe it’s a threat. Your body doesn’t wait to find out.

Now, picture this: You’re a middle schooler, sitting in the cafeteria, scanning the room for a friendly face. You see a group of kids laughing together, but they don’t acknowledge you. Your stomach tightens. You glance at your phone, pretending to text someone—anyone. The feeling is the same: a rush of stress, a sense of danger, a need to protect yourself.

This is the same survival system at work. The body doesn’t know the difference between a physical threat and an emotional one. To your nervous system, being left out, embarrassed, ignored, or misunderstood can feel just as alarming as a wild animal in the woods.

And in today’s world—where face-to-face connection is decreasing and digital interactions are increasing—our youth are feeling more “unsafe” than ever before. Not because of actual danger, but because their stress response system is firing without the balance of social engagement to calm it down.

Stress Is the Body’s Alarm System

We tend to think of stress as something we “feel,” but really, it’s something our body does.

Stress is our body’s built-in alarm system—a natural, automatic reaction that keeps us safe. If the brain senses danger, it activates our stress response system, shifting us into one of three main modes:

1. Fight (Attack Mode)

✔ Muscles tense.
✔ Fists clench.
✔ We feel anger, frustration, or the urge to lash out.

(“Why did they say that about me? I’ll show them!”)

2. Flight (Run Away Mode)

✔ Heart races.
✔ We feel anxious, restless, or panicked.
✔ We avoid, shut down, or distract ourselves.

(“I don’t belong here. I’m just going to leave.”)

3. Freeze (Shut Down Mode)

✔ We feel stuck, numb, or powerless.
✔ Our body slows down, making us feel tired or disconnected.
✔ We zone out or retreat into ourselves.

(“What’s the point? No one notices me anyway.”)

These responses are not choices—they are automatic body reactions to stress. The problem? When stress isn’t balanced by connection, movement, and co-regulation, it builds up in the body—sometimes turning into anxiety, anger, or depression.

And this is where our social engagement system comes in.

The Missing Piece: Social Engagement is the Reset Button

Enter the polyvagal theory—a fancy name for something simple: our body’s social engagement system.

Think of it like this: The fight-flight-freeze system is the gas pedal, but our social engagement system is the brake.

When we interact with others—talking, laughing, making eye contact, feeling understood—our body automatically calms down. It tells the brain, “I’m safe. I belong.”

But here’s the issue:

Less Social Connection = More Stress Responses

✔ Kids are spending less time playing outside and more time isolated inside.
✔ They are talking less in person and more through screens.
✔ They are avoiding face-to-face problem-solving and turning instead to avoidance, withdrawal, or aggression.

And when we remove the very things that tell the brain “You’re okay”—play, conversation, shared experiences, belonging—stress reactions become louder, stronger, and harder to turn off.

This is why many youth today are feeling:
🔴 More anxious, more irritable, and more disconnected than ever before.
🔴 Less equipped to handle social conflict.
🔴 Overwhelmed by even small amounts of discomfort.

Their stress response keeps firing because they’re missing the natural reset buttons—belonging, engagement, and social connection.

The Solution: Reconnecting in a Disconnected World

So how do we help youth turn off the alarm and feel safe again?

1. Belonging: Every Child Needs a “Home Base”

🔹 Encourage face-to-face friendships—clubs, teams, or small groups where students see and hear each other daily.
🔹 Create safe spaces in schools where students know they belong—lunch buddies, mentor programs, student-led groups.
🔹 Teach relationship-building skills—how to start conversations, ask for help, and repair trust after conflict.

2. Engagement: Learning Through Doing

🔹 More hands-on, movement-based learning—let students build, create, move, and explore.
🔹 Encourage play, art, and sensory activities—youth need physical outlets to release stress.
🔹 Get students working together on shared projects—teamwork builds trust and safety.

3. Interaction: Social Skills in Real Time

🔹 Instead of sending students to isolation rooms or suspensions, use restorative conversations—help them talk it out instead of shutting down.
🔹 Teach problem-solving by coaching, not punishing—help them learn how to disagree, apologize, and move forward.
🔹 Reduce screen time in favor of real-time discussions—class meetings, group reflections, and peer mentorship.

4. Sensory-Based Interventions: The Body Remembers

🔹 Help students understand their own stress signals—”What does stress feel like in my body?”
🔹 Use sensory tools to calm the nervous system—movement breaks, calming corners, breathing exercises.
🔹 Encourage music, rhythm, and nature-based activities—these naturally regulate the brain and body.

Healing Together: An Invitation to Lead Differently

We live in a time when disconnection is easier than connection—where stress builds up without the natural human experiences needed to release it.

But here’s the good news: We can change this.

✔ By prioritizing belonging, face-to-face engagement, and shared experiences, we help youth feel safe enough to grow.
✔ By teaching social-emotional skills, we give students tools to navigate life’s challenges.
✔ By bringing back play, movement, and interaction, we restore balance to the nervous system and the school community.

The path forward isn’t complicated—it’s human connection.

And maybe, just maybe, that’s something we all need a little more of.

Let’s start today.

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5 Sensory-Based Paths to Resilience

Trauma is not just an experience stored in our memories. It is a story our bodies remember on a much deeper level.

If you’ve ever found yourself flinching at a sudden sound, feeling your heart race in an uncomfortable situation, or struggling to find words when emotions overwhelm you, you’ve experienced the way trauma and toxic stress can live in the body. Trauma is not just an event—it’s a body experience. It is stored in our muscles, in our breath, in the way our nervous system learns to anticipate danger. And just as trauma is experienced through the body, healing must also happen at a sensory level.

As we all navigate our own healing journeys and support others along their pathway to resilience, we must recognize that resilience is not just about enduring hardship—it’s about the capacity to recover, to grow, and to reconnect. Healing environments are not built solely through logic and language; they are built through experiences that restore safety, belonging, and hope. The Circle of Courage philosophy reminds us that true resilience comes when we foster Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity—protective factors that help children and adults alike rewire their nervous systems for healing and connection.

So how do we move toward healing today, in small but meaningful ways? Here are five simple, sensory-based practices that anyone—yes, even you and me—can start using right now to begin healing from trauma and toxic stress:

1. Grounding through the Senses

When we feel overwhelmed, our nervous system needs an anchor. Try this:

  • Name five things you can see.
  • Touch four objects around you.
  • Listen for three different sounds in your environment.
  • Identify two smells nearby.
  • Take one deep breath and notice how it feels in your body.

This simple exercise signals safety to the brain, helping shift us from fight-or-flight into a regulated state where healing can happen.

2. Rhythmic Movement for Nervous System Regulation

Our bodies crave rhythm—walking, rocking, drumming, or even gentle swaying can help regulate our nervous system. This is why activities like dancing, playing music, or simply tapping our feet to a steady beat can be so soothing. Movement is the language of the body, and when we engage in rhythmic activities, we tell our nervous system: You are safe. You are here.

3. The Power of Deep Pressure and Proprioception

Ever noticed how a firm hug, a weighted blanket, or squeezing a stress ball can help you feel more grounded? Deep pressure input activates our parasympathetic nervous system, creating a calming effect. Try wrapping yourself in a blanket, pressing your hands together, or gently squeezing your arms. These small actions remind the body that it is held, safe, and supported.

4. Breathwork to Reset the Nervous System

Breathing is a built-in tool for healing, yet stress often shortens and shallows our breath. A simple way to shift out of survival mode is box breathing:

  • Inhale for four seconds
  • Hold for four seconds
  • Exhale for four seconds
  • Hold for four seconds

Repeating this for even a minute can slow the heart rate, relax the muscles, and restore a sense of balance.

5. Engaging in Safe, Nurturing Connection

The vagus nerve, which plays a key role in our ability to feel calm and connected, is activated through social engagement. Simple, joyful interactions—laughter, eye contact, kind words, or even petting an animal—can rewire the brain to associate connection with safety. When we reach out to others, we build a bridge between trauma and healing.

Healing as a Journey, Not a Destination

Healing does not happen overnight, and it does not happen alone. It happens in moments of intentional connection, safety, and regulation. By engaging in these simple sensory practices, we create new experiences for our nervous system, ones that tell us: You are safe. You are strong. You are capable of healing.

For those working with youth who have experienced trauma, remember that healing environments begin with us. When we care for our own nervous system, we create a ripple effect of calm, safety, and resilience for the children in our lives. The work we do today lays the foundation for a future where all can thrive.

So today, take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the ground. And know that healing—yours, mine, ours—begins right here, in the body, one moment at a time.

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Beyond Buzzwords: Building a Resilient School Culture That Lasts

Let’s be real: there is no magical program, curriculum, or one-size-fits-all approach that will transform a school into a trauma-responsive, resilience-focused environment overnight. True transformation doesn’t come in a pre-packaged box. Instead, it happens through intentional shifts in mindset, culture, and daily practices at every level of the school system. 

For public school district administrators navigating the ever-growing demands of school leadership, the question isn’t whether trauma impacts learning, but rather how to create a system that effectively responds to it—without overwhelming staff, draining resources, or burning out educators along the way. 

The answer? A commitment to sustainable, systemic change that fosters resilience for both students and staff. It’s not about adding one more thing to educators’ plates—it’s about changing the plate entirely. 

Mindset First, Strategy Second 

Before launching into new initiatives, schools must begin with a mindset shift. Trauma-responsive, resilience-focused schools don’t just do trauma-informed practices; they are trauma-informed at their core. This means: 

  • Moving away from punitive, compliance-driven discipline toward restorative, relationship-based approaches. 
  • Shifting from “What’s wrong with this student?” to “What happened to this student?” by consistently applying a curious mindset to every situation. 
  • Understanding resilience isn’t about “toughening kids up,” but equipping them with the supportive relationships and skills they need to thrive. 

When school and district leaders embody these perspectives, they lay the groundwork for staff to do the same. This is where sustainable transformation begins—not in a single training or workshop, but in the daily interactions and policies that shape school culture. 

From Awareness to Action: Creating Lasting Change 

Once the mindset shift is underway, the next step is embedding resilience-focused practices into the fabric of the school system. Here are key strategies to consider: 

1. Assess Where You Are (and Be Honest About It) 

Understanding your current culture is crucial. The Trauma-Informed Schools Questionnaire (TISQ) is an excellent tool to consider using to evaluate your district’s readiness and identify the next steps in the journey. This assessment helps schools move beyond good intentions to concrete, measurable action. 

2. Equip and Support Staff (Because They’re Carrying a Lot) 

Staff buy-in is essential but won’t happen through one-off professional development sessions. Educators need ongoing training, coaching, and—most importantly—time to practice and implement new strategies. District leaders should invest in professional learning that is embedded into educators’ daily work rather than treated as an extra requirement. 

3. Rethink Discipline (Because It’s Not Working) 

Suspensions, detentions, and zero-tolerance policies often do more harm than good, disproportionately affecting marginalized students and reinforcing cycles of trauma. Instead, schools should implement restorative practices, relationship-centered discipline, and student-led problem-solving approaches that promote accountability and growth rather than shame and exclusion at every level, starting at a Tier 1 universal approach. 

4. Build Support Networks (Because No One Can Do This Alone) 

A trauma-responsive culture doesn’t rely solely on teachers or counselors but requires a whole-school approach. Schools should establish intentional interdisciplinary teams that meet regularly, ensuring that a diverse group of educators, administrators, and support staff are driving the work forward. This could be a new time, or an adjustment to the function and roles of a current team that already exists. Additionally, engaging families and community partners strengthens the web of support for students and staff alike. 

Why This Matters Now More Than Ever 

The stakes couldn’t be higher. In the wake of a global pandemic, social unrest, and a youth mental health crisis, schools are ground zero for addressing the emotional and psychological needs of students. Districts that invest in trauma-responsive and resilience-focused cultures are not only supporting their students but also ensuring that their educators feel valued, equipped, and capable of sustaining this work for the long haul. 

The good news? Change is possible. Schools that have implemented resilience-focused models at the system and policy level are seeing measurable improvements in student behavior, staff morale, and academic engagement. They’re proof that when trauma-informed, resilience-focused adults work within trauma-informed, resilience-focused systems, children thrive. 

The work ahead is challenging, but the potential for transformation is limitless. If you’re ready to take the next step, start by evaluating where your district stands with the TISQ, and let’s begin the journey toward a stronger, more resilient future—together.

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Helping Young People Navigate Intense Fear and Anxiety: A Strengths-Based, Trauma-Informed Approach

Fear and anxiety are natural, adaptive responses designed to keep us safe. However, when fear becomes overwhelming or persistent, it can disrupt a young person’s ability to learn, connect, and thrive. With rising levels of anxiety among youth, caregivers, educators, and mental health professionals must be equipped with practical, evidence-based strategies to support them. Rather than focusing solely on reducing anxiety, we must help young people build self-awareness, resilience, and self-regulation skills that will serve them throughout their lives.

The Science of Fear and Anxiety

When a young person experiences fear or anxiety, their nervous system shifts into a heightened state of arousal—often referred to as “fight, flight, or freeze.” This reaction is orchestrated by the amygdala, the brain’s alarm system, which triggers stress hormones to prepare the body to respond to perceived threats. While this response is helpful in truly dangerous situations, chronic activation can lead to difficulties in emotional regulation, concentration, and relationships.

Research shows that chronic stress and trauma can lead to an overactive amygdala and an underactive prefrontal cortex, the area responsible for reasoning and impulse control (McLaughlin et al., 2015). The good news? Neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to change and adapt—means that with the right support, young people can develop strategies to calm their nervous systems, regain a sense of control, and build resilience.

Mind-Body Skills for Self-Regulation

Mind-body skills offer young people the opportunity to practice recognizing their physiological responses to stress and learn techniques to regulate them. These evidence-based strategies help shift the nervous system from a state of hyperarousal to one of safety and connection.

1. Breathwork: The Power of Breath

One of the simplest and most effective ways to calm the nervous system is through intentional breathing. Techniques like diaphragmatic breathing (deep belly breathing) and box breathing (inhaling for four counts, holding for four, exhaling for four, and holding again for four) can help reset the body’s stress response and promote a sense of safety. Studies have found that slow, deep breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system, reducing anxiety and increasing emotional regulation (Zaccaro et al., 2018).

2. Mindfulness and Meditation: Awareness as a Superpower

Mindfulness teaches young people to observe their thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judgment. Even a simple practice of noticing five things in the room or engaging in a short guided meditation can help a child shift from a reactive state to a reflective one. Research supports mindfulness as an effective tool for reducing anxiety, improving concentration, and enhancing emotional resilience (Zenner et al., 2014).

Sensory Interventions: Engaging the Body to Calm the Mind

Children process stress through their bodies, making sensory-based strategies essential for self-regulation. Sensory interventions help engage the nervous system in a way that supports emotional balance.

3. Grounding Techniques: Finding Safety in the Present

Grounding exercises help young people shift their focus from anxious thoughts to their immediate surroundings. One effective method is the “5-4-3-2-1” technique: naming five things they see, four things they touch, three things they hear, two things they smell, and one thing they taste. This engages multiple senses, bringing the brain back to the present moment.

4. Weighted and Deep Pressure Tools: The Power of Touch

Deep pressure stimulation, such as weighted blankets, compression vests, or even firm hugs, can activate the parasympathetic nervous system and promote relaxation. Studies suggest that deep pressure input can significantly reduce physiological symptoms of anxiety (Grandin, 1992).

5. Movement-Based Regulation: Releasing Stress Through Action

For some young people, movement is the most effective way to regulate their nervous system. Activities like yoga, dance, walking, or even jumping jacks can help discharge built-up stress and restore a sense of balance. Research has shown that physical activity reduces anxiety and boosts mood-regulating neurotransmitters (Mikkelsen et al., 2017).

Building Emotional Literacy and Self-Awareness

Beyond immediate regulation strategies, young people need tools to recognize and express their emotions in healthy ways. Encouraging emotional literacy helps them articulate their fears and seek support before reaching a crisis point.

6. Feelings Check-Ins and Journaling

Regular check-ins where young people name their emotions and identify where they feel them in their bodies can increase self-awareness. Journaling provides another powerful outlet for processing thoughts and feelings. Research shows that expressive writing can help reduce anxiety and improve overall emotional well-being (Smyth & Pennebaker, 2008).

7. Co-Regulation: The Role of Safe, Supportive Relationships

Before children can effectively regulate their own emotions, they need to experience co-regulation—having a trusted adult help them navigate intense feelings. Simple gestures like validating their experiences, using a calm tone, and modeling self-regulation can provide a foundation for young people to internalize these skills over time.

Moving from Fear to Empowerment

When we help young people understand that anxiety is not a flaw but rather a message from their nervous system, we empower them to take control of their emotional well-being. By integrating mind-body skills, sensory interventions, and emotional literacy into their daily lives, they can develop lifelong tools to navigate fear and uncertainty with confidence.

Supporting young people through anxiety requires patience, curiosity, and a belief in their innate capacity for resilience. When we approach them with warmth and understanding, we create a space where they can not only manage their fears but thrive despite them. As caregivers, educators, and professionals, we have the opportunity to be the calm presence that helps them build the skills they need—not just to cope but to flourish.

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The Heart of Change: Turning Resistance Into Opportunity

Resistance Is Not the Enemy—It’s Part of the Journey 

Change is rarely easy, and when it comes to reimagining how we support students, families, and colleagues through a trauma-informed lens, resistance is inevitable. But resistance is not a wall blocking progress—it’s a door waiting to be opened. It is the quiet voice of those who have seen initiatives come and go, who have given their all to systems that have often given little back. It is the understandable hesitation of those who have been told to do more with less, who carry their own unspoken burdens, and who wonder if this “new approach” will truly make a difference. 

The truth is, the path to a trauma-informed culture is not paved with perfect buy-in from the start. It’s built in the messy, vulnerable, and deeply human spaces of change. And it is precisely in those spaces where real transformation takes root. 

Understanding Resistance as a Signal, Not a Barrier 

In Implementation Science, we learn that change happens in stages—awareness, exploration, preparation, and eventually, full implementation. But too often, leaders mistake resistance as refusal rather than what it truly is: a critical part of the learning process. Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change Model reminds us that people move through readiness at different speeds, influenced by personal experiences, professional demands, and the culture they work within. 

Some will jump in with both feet, eager to reshape the way they engage with students and peers. Others will hesitate, needing proof that this is not just another passing trend, but a shift that will be supported, reinforced, and sustained. And some may push back, not because they reject the idea of trauma-informed care, but because they are protecting themselves from yet another promise that might not hold. 

But here’s the beauty of change—there is no singular right way to navigate it. Every perspective, every moment of doubt, every cautious step forward is part of the larger journey. Our role as leaders is not to dictate a perfect path but to model curiosity, to hold space for truth, and to remind one another that this work is something we do with each other, not to each other. When we embrace change with open minds and a willingness to listen, we create a culture where transformation is not just possible—it is inevitable. 

Leading with Trust, Not Force 

Systemic change is not about demanding compliance—it is about building belief. We cannot lecture or mandate our way into cultural transformation. Change happens in relationships, not in directives. The foundation of a trauma-informed workplace is the same as the foundation of trauma-informed practice itself: safety, trust, choice, collaboration, and empowerment. These are not just words on a framework—they are the very essence of how we must lead change. 

Instead of asking, “Why are they resisting?” we must ask, “What do they need to feel safe enough to engage?” Instead of frustration, we must meet hesitancy with curiosity. Instead of pushing harder, we must pause and listen. Trust is built when people feel seen, heard, and valued. 

The Power of Small, Meaningful Shifts 

Change does not begin with grand gestures. It begins with moments—moments where a teacher tries something different in their classroom, where a school leader models vulnerability, where a staff meeting shifts from business-as-usual to a space of true connection. Small shifts lead to cultural change, and cultural change leads to transformation. 

Implementation Science teaches us that sustainable change requires ongoing support, adaptability, and shared leadership. It is not a one-time training, a checklist, or a policy—it is a living, breathing movement that must be nurtured over time. It is why Starr Commonwealth’s approach to trauma-informed care is not about quick fixes, but about building capacity, deepening understanding, and reinforcing change through continuous learning and reflection. 

A Call to Lead with Heart and Courage 

If we are serious about becoming trauma-informed communities, then we must also be serious about how we lead. We must recognize that resistance is not an obstacle, but an opportunity. We must be patient in the process, acknowledging that trust is earned, not assumed. We must be unwavering in our commitment to equity, belonging, and authenticity, understanding that trauma-informed care is not just about how we support others—it is about how we show up for one another. 

This is the work of transformation. It is slow. It is nonlinear. It requires courage, humility, and an unshakable belief in the possibility of something better. But make no mistake—it is possible. And it is happening. Every conversation, every shift, every effort to center humanity in our work brings us closer to the future we envision. 

So, to the leaders, the educators, the changemakers—hold steady. Your work matters. Your presence matters. And together, we are not just implementing change; we are building a movement that will last. 

Join the Movement 

At Starr Commonwealth, we are committed to walking alongside leaders in this journey, providing the resources, training, and support needed to make trauma-informed care more than just an initiative—but a way of being. Because when we invest in the well-being of our educators and organizations, we invest in the future of every child and community we serve. 

Learn more about Starr Commonwealth’s trauma-informed resources at www.starr.org and take the next step in building a resilient, connected, and empowered culture of care. 

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Empowering Youth to Seek Mental Health Support with Confidence

Let’s Talk About It—Because Mental Health Matters

Let’s be real: Even with all the conversations around mental health, there’s still a heavy weight of stigma that keeps many young people from reaching out for help. That weight can be especially heavy in communities where mental health is misunderstood, in families where struggles are seen as a personal weakness, or in schools where asking for support might feel like waving a red flag.

But here’s the truth: Mental health is just as important as physical health. Research tells us that getting support early can be life-changing, leading to better academic performance, stronger relationships, and greater overall well-being. So, how do we create a world where kids and teens feel safe asking for the help they deserve?

By shifting the narrative. By making mental health conversations normal. By ensuring every young person—no matter their background—knows that getting help is not a sign of weakness but a powerful step toward resilience.

Why Do Young People Hold Back from Seeking Help?

Before we talk solutions, we have to understand what’s getting in the way. Here are some big reasons why kids and teens hesitate to seek support:

1. Fear of Being Judged

Nobody wants to be labeled as “too sensitive” or “weak.” Many young people worry that opening up about their struggles will lead to whispers, side-eyes, or even outright dismissal.

2. Cultural & Systemic Barriers

For many marginalized communities—BIPOC, LGBTQ+ youth, or those in lower-income families—there’s a deep-rooted mistrust of the mental health system. When young people don’t see therapists who look like them or understand their experiences, they might assume no one will get it or the space is not safe for them to access.

3. Hard-to-Reach Services

Let’s be honest: Accessing mental health support isn’t always easy. Whether it’s the cost, transportation issues, or long waitlists, too many young people and their families don’t have a clear pathway to the help they need.

4. Misconceptions About Mental Health

Mental health is often misunderstood, even by adults. Some people still think struggling with anxiety or depression is just “being dramatic” or something a person should be able to snap out of. That kind of thinking keeps young people silent.

How We Can Change the Narrative: Practical Ways to Reduce Stigma

Let’s get into action mode! Here’s what families, educators, and youth professionals can do to make mental health support feel safe, normal, and accessible.

1. Talk About Mental Health Like It’s No Big Deal

If we want kids to feel comfortable talking about their mental health, we need to make it a regular part of conversation—just like talking about a cold or a sports injury.

💡 Try this: Instead of asking, “Are you okay?” try, “Our feelings matter just as much as our physical health. How are you really feeling?”

2. Flip the Script: Use Strength-Based Language

Instead of making it seem like mental health support is only for those in crisis, let’s talk about it as something that helps young people thrive and grow.

💡 Try this: Instead of saying, “You need therapy,” try, “Talking to someone can be a great way to build new skills and handle stress like a pro.”

3. Create Spaces Where ALL Youth Feel Seen & Heard

Safe spaces aren’t just about cozy seating and soft lighting—they’re about making sure kids feel understood and valued. That means:

  • Representation matters! Schools and organizations should work toward hiring diverse mental health professionals.
  • Privacy is key. Youth should know that getting help won’t lead to embarrassment or unwanted disclosure.
  • Affirmation goes a long way. Using person-first language, honoring cultural backgrounds, and acknowledging real-life struggles all help build trust and foster a sense of belonging.

4. Start Early: Mental Health Education in Schools & Beyond

Why wait until high school to start talking about mental health? By weaving mental wellness topics into school curriculums from an early age, we can normalize the conversation and give kids the tools they need before challenges arise.

5. Share Real Stories of Strength & Growth

People connect through stories. When kids hear about others—especially role models—who have benefited from mental health support, it helps them see it as a normal and powerful choice.

💡 Idea: Feature personal stories in school newsletters, community events, or social media posts.

6. Make Help Easy to Access

  • Schools and community centers should offer on-site counseling or teletherapy options.
  • Teachers and youth leaders can be trained in Mental Health First Aid to recognize early signs of struggle.
  • Anonymous check-in options can be a game-changer for students who aren’t ready to ask for help face-to-face.

7. Get Families Involved

Parents and caregivers are key in shaping how young people think about mental health. That means helping families:

  • Attend mental health workshops.
  • Practice open, judgment-free conversations at home.
  • Seek professional guidance if they’re unsure how to support a struggling child.

The Future: A World Where Mental Health Support is Normalized

The bottom line? Change won’t happen overnight. But every conversation, every act of support, and every open-minded approach helps move the needle toward a world where youth feel safe asking for help.

Imagine a future where mental health support is as routine as a doctor’s visit. Where no child feels ashamed for needing a listening ear. Where mental well-being is celebrated, not stigmatized.

That future starts with us. With the way we talk, the spaces we create, and the support we give.

So let’s get loud about mental health. Let’s make sure every young person knows they are seen, they are valued, and they are never alone.

Resources to Share with Youth & Families

If you or someone you know is struggling, these resources are a great place to start:

Together, we can create a world where every young person feels safe and supported on their mental health journey. 💙

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Creating Classrooms of Belonging: Welcoming Students Back with Intention and Care

As educators, the start of a new year brings a unique opportunity to reestablish our classrooms as spaces where every student feels safe, valued, and ready to thrive. While winter break is a time of joy, connection, and rest for some, for others, it may amplify challenges like unmet basic needs, family stress, or the loss of predictable routines. This duality reminds us of our powerful role in shaping how students experience the return to learning.

Belonging: A Universal Need 

At its core, belonging is a universal human need as vital as food and shelter. When students feel genuinely connected to their peers, teachers, and school community, they are better equipped to engage, learn, and succeed. Conversely, a lack of belonging perpetuates cycles of stress, disengagement, and worry. As we welcome students back into our classrooms, we have the opportunity to foster authentic connections that promote healing, joy, and academic growth.

Strategies to Build Belonging: Simple, Powerful, and Transformative

Creating a classroom where every student feels they belong doesn’t require a big budget, fancy curriculum, or endless resources. The magic lies in small, intentional actions rooted in empathy and care. These strategies are easy to implement and cost nothing but a shift in mindset—one that recognizes the power we hold as educators to inspire joy, foster healing, and nurture connection.

  •  Greet Students Like They’re the Best Part of Your Day: Imagine the power of hearing your name spoken with warmth and genuine enthusiasm every morning. A simple, heartfelt greeting at the door can set the tone for the entire day. Add in a smile, a high-five, or even a silly handshake if that’s your vibe. This daily ritual tells students, “You matter here. I’m glad you’re back.”

🌟Try this: “Good morning, [Name]! I’m so happy to see you today. Ready to make it a great one?”

  • “Catch” Them Doing Something Right: We all thrive on feeling appreciated, and kids are no different. Instead of focusing on what’s going wrong, make it a game to spot what’s going right—every time a student helps a peer, gives their best effort, or even manages to stay calm during a challenging moment. Let them know you see their efforts, no matter how small.

🌟Mindset Shift: Instead of thinking, “Why are they acting out?” ask yourself, “What can I praise or acknowledge right now?” or “What do I need to reteach or redirect in this moment to support growth?”.

  • Teach Through Stories That Celebrate Everyone: You don’t need expensive materials to show students the beauty of diversity and acceptance. Incorporate books, articles, and real-life examples that reflect their unique identities and broaden their horizons. When students see themselves and others celebrated in the curriculum, they feel valued and inspired. 

🌟Easy Add-On: Start your class, day, or week with a story, video, or discussion highlighting resilience, courage, or kindness from different cultures or perspectives.

  • Find the Threads That Connect You: Every student has something that lights them up—a hobby, a dream, or a quirky interest. Find those threads and weave them into your conversations. Better yet, help students discover what they have in common with one another. These shared connections can be the bridge to deeper relationships.

🌟 Quick Win: During downtime, ask, “What’s something you love doing outside of school?” Then share something about yourself—it’s a two-way street!

  • Sprinkle in Joy and Laughter: Laughter is the ultimate icebreaker and stress reliever. A silly moment, a shared joke, or a quick dance break can transform a tense day into one filled with lightness. Joy builds trust, and trust builds belonging. 

🌟 Keep it Simple: Play a quick game, share a funny story, or even let your students see your goofy side—it’s more powerful than you think.

  • Respond to Every Bid for Connection: Sometimes, connection looks like a raised hand, a whispered question, a blurt out, a loud noise, or even a quiet glance in your direction. Responding to these small gestures with care signals to students that you’re present and they matter. 

🌟 Your New Motto: “I see you. I hear you. I’m here for you.”

  • Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection: Achievement isn’t always about hitting big milestones—it’s about celebrating the journey. Recognize the small victories, whether it’s a student raising their hand for the first time, working through a tough problem, or simply showing up. 

🌟 What It Looks Like: “You stayed calm during that tricky group project—way to go! Let’s celebrate that win together.”

A Mindset That Changes Everything

None of these strategies require extra planning periods, special training, or additional funds. They require a willingness to pause, reflect, and shift how we see our students—and ourselves. It’s about remembering that every interaction is an opportunity to build connection, trust, and belonging. 

By simply leaning into what we already know is best, and doing it with a trauma-informed, resilience-focused lens, we can transform our classrooms into joyful, supportive spaces where students not only learn but thrive. 

Let’s make the rest of this school year the one where every student walks into our classrooms and feels like they’ve found their place—a place where they’re not just learners, but valued members of a community that sees them, supports them, and celebrates who they are. Together, we’ve got this!

Your Turn

What strategies do you use to promote belonging in your classroom? Find us on social media and share your thoughts and experiences —we’d love to hear how you’re inspiring joy and connection in your learning spaces this year.

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Put Yourself on the List: Prioritize Your Well-Being This Holiday Season

The holidays are a whirlwind of joy, connection, and celebration, but let’s be honest—they can also be exhausting. The demands pile up: professional obligations, family commitments, social events, gift-giving, and travel plans. Even the most resilient among us can be stretched thin, operating at full capacity while navigating seasonal stressors. In times like these, authentic self-care isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. 

Self-care isn’t about indulgence or simply “relaxing” when you have time. The science of resilience shows us that caring for our minds and bodies proactively and reactively allows us not just to survive challenges, but thrive through them. It’s about recognizing your needs, honoring them, and filling your cup so that you can pour into others without depleting yourself. 

The Science of Resilience and Self-Care 

Resilience is often misunderstood as a personality trait some people have and others don’t. But research tells us that resilience is a dynamic process—something we can cultivate and strengthen over time. Our nervous system, which helps us process stress and remain balanced, depends on consistent care to remain healthy. 

When we experience stress, our brain and body release cortisol, adrenaline, and other stress hormones to help us cope. In small doses, this response is useful. But our nervous system can become overwhelmed when stress becomes constant—especially during the busy holiday season. This is where intentional, whole-body self-care steps in. 

Whole-body self-care acknowledges that our mental and physical well-being are interconnected. By engaging in practices that restore balance to both, we can boost our capacity to handle stress, recover more quickly from setbacks, and stay grounded amid chaos. 

The good news? Authentic self-care doesn’t need to be complicated or time-consuming. Here are some practical, strengths-based strategies to help you prioritize your needs this season: 

Give Yourself Permission to Prioritize YOU 

During the holiday hustle, it’s easy to get caught up in giving to others and forget that you, too, are worthy of care. Authentic self-care isn’t selfish—it’s a commitment to your well-being. When you care for your mind and body, you’re building the resilience you need to navigate life’s challenges and show up for the people who matter most.

This season, gift yourself the grace to rest, reset, and restore. You deserve it. 

*If journaling is “your thing,” our Practicing Resilience Journal is a great resource to gift yourself!

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Guiding Children Through the Holiday Hustle: Strength-Based Strategies for Thriving Together

Ah, the holiday season—the jingling bells, twinkling lights, and the ever-present smell of cookies baking in the oven (or maybe burning, no judgment). For many, it’s a time of joy, family togetherness, and celebration. But let’s be honest: the holidays can also bring stress, financial strain, and the kind of family dynamics that only a sitcom writer could dream up. And for families navigating trauma or significant challenges, this time of year can feel less like a warm hug and more like an emotional minefield. 

Here’s the good news: you don’t need the perfect holiday card photo or a stress-free December (as if that exists) to create meaningful, joyous moments with your children. By focusing on a strengths-based approach, we can empower our kids—and ourselves—to thrive, even in the face of adversity. Let’s unwrap the gift of resilience, one connection at a time.

The Circle of Courage: A Compass for Connection

At Starr Commonwealth, we believe the secret ingredient to peaceful family interactions is applying the Circle of Courage philosophy. This framework emphasizes the universal needs of all children: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. These pillars remind us that every child has unique strengths, interests, and the potential to shine—even if life feels cloudy. 

When we intentionally nurture these needs, we help children feel safe, seen, and supported. Here’s a quick peek at how this philosophy can guide us: 

  • Belonging: Kids thrive when they feel part of something bigger than themselves. 
  • Mastery: Celebrate their progress, not perfection. Success can be as small as tying a shoe or as big as solving a Rubik’s Cube in record time. 
  • Independence: Foster their ability to make choices and express themselves. 
  • Generosity: Encourage acts of kindness, from helping a sibling to crafting a homemade card for a neighbor. 

This approach isn’t about “fixing kids” but recognizing their inherent strengths and meeting them where they are as we nurture what is unique and great within them—helping their little lights shine!

Connection is the Best Holiday Tradition

When the season gets overwhelming (hello, school concerts, and last-minute gift wrapping), dismissing a child’s “Look at me!” moments as interruptions is easy. But those small bids for attention are golden opportunities to connect. 

Proactive Connection or proactively responding to their bids for attention means finding ways to engage with your child before they need to ask for it… or, let’s be honest, demand it. Here are a few ideas: 

  • The 5-Minute Rule: Spend five uninterrupted minutes each day doing something your child loves—no phones, no multitasking. Just play, chat, or cuddle. 
  • “Catch Them Being Helpful”:  Notice and praise positive behaviors, even the small ones. (“Thanks for setting the table—it looks amazing!”) 
  • Humor is Magic: A well-timed joke or silly face can diffuse tension faster than any parenting book. 

Strategies for Strength and Healing

Building resilience doesn’t require grand gestures or expensive tools. Here are three simple, practical resources you can weave into your holiday survival toolkit: 

  1. One-Minute Resilience Building Interventions: These quick strategies are designed to fit into your busy day. Try simple activities like mindfulness breathing, offering a compliment, or sharing a moment of gratitude during dinner. They’re proof that big changes can start with small actions. 
  2. Mind-Body Skills – Activities for Emotional Regulation: Help your child learn to regulate their emotions by incorporating practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or even gentle yoga. These skills calm the nervous system and build emotional resilience—great for navigating the holiday chaos. 
  3. GoodTimer: This family-friendly tool uses positive reinforcement to encourage good choices. It’s a tangible way for kids to see their progress and gives parents a break from the constant “no” cycle. Bonus: it’s a fantastic stocking stuffer! 

Hint, hint: Discounts are now live for all the above resources through the holiday season!

Embracing Imperfection and Choosing Hope 

If the holidays feel more “messy and stressful” than “merry and bright,” I see you. Remember this: your worth as a parent, family member, caregiver, or loved one isn’t tied to how perfect the season looks. It’s about the love, connection, and resilience you model. 

When things go sideways (because they will), try reframing challenges as opportunities to grow together. Spilled cocoa? A chance to laugh and bond over the cleanup. Family squabble? A moment to teach conflict resolution. Every imperfection is a chance to show your child that love and connection matter more than perfection. 

The holidays are less about the picture-perfect moments and more about the small, meaningful connections we create. By embracing a strengths-based approach, leveraging tools like One-Minute Interventions, Mind-Body Skills, and GoodTimer, while focusing on Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity, you can guide your loved ones through the season with resilience, hope, and maybe even a little humor. 

This year, let’s shift the focus from doing more to being more—more present, more connected, and more intentional. In the end, it’s not about having the perfect holiday—it’s about creating a home where everyone feels safe, loved, and strong enough to face whatever comes next. 

And if all else fails, remember this: cookies can be re-baked, but memories—however imperfect—last a lifetime. 

 Happy holidays to you and yours!

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Positive Parenting Made Easy: Turn Challenges into Wins with Goodtimer This Holiday Season

At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in empowering families, teachers, and caregivers to create positive, nurturing environments for children. That’s why we’re thrilled to partner with Plus Up, the brilliant minds behind Goodtimer—an innovative tool designed to strengthen resilience by teaching self-regulation, fostering healthy habits, and empowering children to make positive choices.

And here’s the best part: This holiday season, as a valued member of Starr’s community, you can bring the magic of Goodtimer home with an exclusive offer—up to 40% off!

Here’s how Goodtimer can help your child develop resilience and transform challenges into growth opportunities.

What Is Goodtimer?

Goodtimer 2, the latest version of this 9-time award-winning educational platform, is designed to help kids (ages 2+) build healthy habits through positive reinforcement, tangible incentives, and family participation.

The device uses a token economy system paired with a glowing visual tracker. When children follow agreed-upon rules, Goodtimer lights up segment by segment, reinforcing their progress and resilience. If rules are broken, flipping the Goodtimer pauses the process, signaling a chance to reflect and reset.

With the Goodtimer mobile app, parents can monitor progress, customize settings, and access tailored resources to guide their child through challenges.

How Does Goodtimer Work?

1. Set Clear, Achievable Goals

Goodtimer empowers kids by involving them in creating simple, kid-friendly house rules using the app or included children’s book. These rules set clear expectations, giving children the confidence to work toward achievable goals while reinforcing their sense of agency. A handy rules sticker offers a clear, visual reminder for little ones.

2. Celebrate Success and Learn from Mistakes

As children follow the rules, Goodtimer lights up glowing segments and rewards them with tokens once all 12 segments are activated. Tokens can be redeemed for family-chosen rewards like a movie night or a favorite activity.

When mistakes happen, flipping the Goodtimer pauses progress without punishment. This creates a safe space to reflect, learn, and bounce back stronger.

3. Tackle Missteps Positively

When rules are broken, simply flip Goodtimer upside down to pause the glow. This gentle signal encourages reflection and opens the door for a supportive conversation about better choices and social emotional learning. The app provides tailored tips, helping everyone refocus and move forward.

Why Families Love Goodtimer

Goodtimer doesn’t just encourage good behavior—it builds life skills that prepare children for success. Here’s why it works:

  • Strengthens Emotional Resilience: Kids learn to self-regulate, recover from mistakes, and approach challenges with a growth mindset.
  • Reinforces Positive Actions: Goodtimer focuses on celebrating success, building confidence and self-esteem with every good choice. Recognizing good behavior is one of the most effective motivators for kids.
  • Engages the Whole Family: By turning goal-setting and rewards into a collaborative process, Goodtimer fosters a strong family connection.
  • Customizable for Individual Needs: Parents can adapt Goodtimer to fit their child’s unique personality and developmental stage, offering actionable guidance when needed, making it a thoughtful partner for families.

Add Goodtimer to Your Parenting Toolbox This Holiday

This is your opportunity to make positive parenting even easier—and save while you’re at it! During the holiday sale, Goodtimer is available for up to 40% off.

Visit www.gogoodtimer.com to learn more and grab yours at this unbeatable price.

With Goodtimer and its new app by your side, you can turn challenging moments into opportunities to teach, connect, and grow. Let’s make great choices together! 💙

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6 Strategies to Empower Families in Trauma-Informed Care

Trauma-informed education reminds us of a fundamental truth: resilience is not built in isolation. When schools and families join forces, we cultivate a nurturing environment where children can truly thrive, even after experiencing hardship. Our classrooms may provide safe havens, but the full power of trauma-informed education blossoms when we engage families in the journey. Here’s a look at how educators can partner with caregivers to create a seamless, supportive bridge between school and home—and some creative strategies to get everyone on board.

1. Start with Strengths, End with Hope – The ‘Resilience Sandwich’

Picture this: you’re meeting with a caregiver about a child’s needs. The conversation begins, and it’s easy to fall into the “problems and fixes” loop. Sound familiar? Instead, try framing the talk like a resilience sandwich—open and close the discussion with a focus on the child’s strengths. By recognizing what’s working, you create a hopeful tone that acknowledges the child’s potential. When you conclude with hope, caregivers walk away feeling empowered rather than overwhelmed.

Bridge Builder: The Resilience Sandwich Approach

  • Open with Strengths: Share positive qualities and resilient traits you’ve noticed in the child.
  • Identify Growth Areas with Empathy: Discuss challenges in the middle, focusing on understanding, not judgment.
  • Close with a Plan for Hope: Outline a collaborative approach that encourages families to see themselves as crucial members of the support team.

2. Empathy as a Superpower – Embracing ‘Active Listening’

Active listening may seem like a buzzword, but it’s an absolute superpower in trauma-informed education. When caregivers share their experiences, resist the urge to jump in with solutions. Instead, listen fully, nodding to show you’re with them in that moment. Empathy builds a bridge of trust and gives caregivers the space to share insights only they know.

Bridge Builder: Empathy Ears

  • Pause and Reflect: After a caregiver shares, take a breath before responding. This shows you’re fully considering their words.
  • Ask, Don’t Assume: Sometimes, the most helpful question is, “Can you tell me more about that?” Remember, stay curious!
  • Validate, Validate, Validate: A simple “I can see why that would be challenging” goes a long way in creating mutual respect.

3. Empower the Expert – Make Caregivers Partners, Not Spectators

Parents and caregivers often feel like they’re being brought in as spectators rather than collaborators to their child’s experiences, especially at school. A simple shift in language can change that. Ask for their insights instead of telling them what needs to be done. Caregivers know their children better than anyone, and inviting their expertise can turn a potentially difficult conversation into a productive partnership.

Bridge Builder: The Co-Pilot Mindset

  • Invite Their Expertise: Ask questions like, “What works best for you at home?” or “How do you think we could help him/her feel more comfortable?”
  • Celebrate Contributions: If a parent shares a successful strategy, acknowledge it. This builds confidence and reinforces their role in the support plan.
  • Adapt as Needed: Some families may hesitate to engage; patience and flexibility here can make all the difference.

4. Rising Above Resistance – A Curious and Compassionate Approach

Resistance from caregivers can arise for countless reasons: denial, overwhelm, or even fear. Instead of viewing resistance as an obstacle, approach it as a signal. Behind every form of resistance is a story or worry—take time to understand the “why” behind it.

Bridge Builder: Curiosity vs. Judgment

  • Remain Patient and Curious: If a caregiver seems defensive, ask open-ended questions, such as, “What feels most important for us to address together?”
  • Reframe with Positivity: Keep redirecting the conversation to the child’s growth and well-being, highlighting what is great about their child. There is always an opportunity to reframe what is misinterpreted as an “undesired behavior” as a child’s secret superpower with just a simple mindset shift.
  • Normalize Resistance: Try saying things like, “It’s okay to feel unsure. Many families feel the same way, and that’s perfectly normal.”

5. The Power of Predictability – Aligning School and Home Support

Kids who experience trauma often crave predictability. By aligning support at school and home, we can provide them with a consistent, reassuring structure. This means working with caregivers to share behavior support plans, update each other on changes, use one common language or key phrases, and check in about any shifts in the child’s behavior or progress.

Bridge Builder: The Predictability Partnership

  • Create Shared Goals: Together with caregivers, decide on a few simple, shared goals for home and school. These might be about routines, behavioral expectations, or rewards.
  • Encourage Regular Updates: Suggest brief check-ins, even if just through a quick email or note.
  • Celebrate Wins Together: Small victories are big steps for children coping with trauma. Celebrate them with caregivers to build a sense of shared success.

6. Turn Every Moment into a Motivational Moment

At the end of each interaction, leave caregivers with a hopeful reminder. Whether it’s a shared smile over a child’s progress or a kind word of encouragement, these final words can make all the difference.

Bridge Builder: High-Five Farewells

  • End on an Upbeat Note: Remind caregivers that, together, they’re making a positive impact on their child’s life. Provide optimistic closure, looking forward to the next opportunity to connect.
  • Highlight the Potential: Share a specific strength or growth you’ve noticed in the child.
  • Reiterate Partnership: Reinforce that both of you are on the same team, working together to nurture resilience and healing. Empathize and express gratitude for their time, dedication, and support!

Engaging families in trauma-informed education isn’t just beneficial—it’s essential. When we extend a hand to caregivers, we’re inviting them into a shared mission: to support, uplift, and heal. By embracing empathy, active listening, and a spirit of collaboration, we can create safe spaces where every child is given the gift of resilience. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it—one conversation, one small step, one resilience sandwich at a time.

Want to learn more? Check out this Coach Mini Lesson from our Certified Trauma & Resilience Coach course.

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Introducing Our Redesigned Store Streamlined Certifications: Access Everything in One Place

We’re excited to announce the launch of our redesigned store and learning platform! After listening to your feedback and identifying ways to improve, we’ve made key changes that will streamline your experience and make it easier to access everything you need—all in one place.

What’s New?

Our goal was to create a platform that enhances the user experience while addressing the challenges of navigating multiple systems. Here’s what you can expect:

One Account for Everything—No more juggling multiple logins across multiple sites! The new platform now allows you to access all your courses, resources, certifications, videos, and StarrPASS membership content using one account. Whether logging in to continue a course or exploring additional resources, everything is now available at store.starr.org.

Streamlined Navigation—We’ve redesigned the platform to provide a more intuitive, user-friendly interface. With a clearer structure, finding the resources you need—whether course materials, certification information, or other learning tools—is easier than ever.

Seamless Access—The platform’s redesign ensures a smoother experience and offers an improved user experience for navigating courses and learning materials. You’ll find it easier to move between lessons, access supplementary resources, and track your progress— with fewer clicks and more intuitive navigation. We aim to save you time and make your learning journey as straightforward as possible.

Simplified Certification Packages—As part of our platform update, we’ve streamlined our certification offerings. Previously, we offered silver, gold, and platinum packages of our trauma specialist certifications. These have now been combined into one simple certification package for each audience (education, early childhood, and clinical), including the course, certification, digital badge, and digital and printed resources. This new, comprehensive package ensures you have everything you need in one place, making the certification process clearer and easier to navigate.

Why These Changes?

You spoke, and we listened. We know how frustrating it is to manage multiple logins across different platforms and face challenges when accessing content quickly. We’ve worked hard to address these pain points and provide a more integrated and cohesive experience. The upgrade is all about making the learning process more efficient, saving you time, and giving you quicker access to the information that matters most to you.

What Do You Need to Do?

If you’re ready to explore the upgraded platform, here’s what you need to know:

1. Reset Your Password: As part of this upgrade, you will need to reset your password to gain access to the redesigned platform. Click here to reset your password.

2. Explore the New Platform: We encourage you to reset your password and then explore the content at store.starr.org. Once you have made a new purchase, feel free to navigate around, test the features, and let us know how the system works for you.

3. Looking for Your Old Content? If you need to access content from the previous platforms, don’t worry—you can still visit learn.starr.org or watch.starr.org for continued access to your materials. Please note that access to these platforms will be available until December 31, 2024.

4. Additional Questions about Changes? We have developed a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) page in our new store. Click here to access frequently asked questions.

5. We Want Your Feedback! Your input helped shape these upgrades, and we’re still listening! We’d love to hear your thoughts as you explore the new platform. If you have any suggestions or encounter any issues, please contact us at info@starr.org.

Thank you for your patience and support as we continue to improve your experience. We’re confident these changes will make learning and accessing content easier, faster, and more efficient. As we transition to the redesigned platform, we’re committed to providing a smooth and seamless experience. However, if you notice anything missing or encounter any errors, please bear with us as we refine and improve the system. Your understanding and patience are greatly appreciated, and we encourage you to contact our support team at info@starr.org if you need any assistance or have any feedback.

Head over to store.starr.org and start exploring the new platform today!

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Transform Learning with Social-Emotional Skills

Courageous Choices: Empowering Students

Courageous Choices is a comprehensive social-emotional learning (SEL) program that equips students with essential skills in emotional awareness, self-regulation, and resilience. Available in versions for K-5 and early childhood (Pre-K), the program addresses the critical need to build self-awareness and foster lifelong self-regulation strategies. This updated edition continues to offer CASEL-aligned tools for teaching social, emotional, and behavioral skills, grounded in trauma-informed and resilience-focused principles. Through Courageous Choices, students learn to manage emotions, improve behavior, and apply these skills in all areas of life, both in and outside school.

What’s Included?
Courageous Choices offers a rich suite of materials to support SEL in classrooms and behavioral health settings, designed for skill development, practice, and reinforcement.

  • Guidebook: Printed and digital guidebooks per grade level
  • Calming Corners Visuals: Tools for a self-regulation space in each classroom
  • Google Slide Lessons: Ten digital lessons to introduce each SEL skill
  • Posters: Display materials to support continuous skill reinforcement in the classroom
  • Student Worksheets: Exercises for practicing and reviewing each skill
  • Parent/Caregiver Strategies: Tools to encourage skill reinforcement at home

What Sets Courageous Choices Apart?
Courageous Choices is a flexible and impactful SEL program with unique benefits for teachers and students:

  • Seamless Integration: Complements any SEL curriculum, enhancing existing programs with minimal disruption.
  • Real-World Application: Provides students with actionable skills to manage stress, regulate emotions, and build resilience.
  • Trauma-Informed and Resilience-Focused: Built on trauma-informed principles, helping students develop resilience to face challenges.
  • Flexible Implementation: Suitable for both school and behavioral health settings, adapting to diverse learning environments.
  • Lifelong Skills: Prepares students to apply social and emotional skills across settings for lasting personal growth.

Bring Courageous Choices to Your School or Organization
Empower your students with tools for social, emotional, and behavioral success—in school and beyond. Purchase Courageous Choices or contact us to see how it can meet your unique needs.

    Have questions? Contact our experts to learn more about how Courageous Choices can benefit your students.

    Take the first step toward building a resilient, emotionally aware learning environment!

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    Building Sustainable Mindset Shifts Together: A Journey to Trauma-Informed Resilience

    If you’re working with youth today, you know firsthand how complex it is to meet their needs, especially for those who carry profound experiences of trauma.  Many of us entered this field because we believe in the potential of every young person. Yet the realities of trauma, adversity, and instability often make it challenging to help each child reach their fullest. At Starr, we understand these challenges deeply, and it’s led us to develop resources to support you in this work for over 100 years—to help foster the safety, resilience, and compassion that children and youth need to thrive.

    Shifting to a trauma-informed, resilience-focused approach is a journey that goes beyond policies and daily practices. It’s a mindset shift that takes root slowly and grows with each new experience and insight. Embracing this approach can mean rethinking not just how we interact with children but how we support each other as professionals. It’s a change that is as much about empowering teams as it is about helping children. We’re here to walk this path with you, offering resources that aim to make this journey sustainable and impactful for both children and the adults who guide them.

    Building Internal Capacity: Empowering Each Team Member

    At the heart of any lasting change is a strong, empowered team. We know that when every team member has a foundation of shared understanding and practical tools, they can better support each other and the children they serve. That’s why our certification programs are designed to support capacity-building in ways that fit the needs of various professional settings, from K-12 education to clinical and early childhood environments.

    For K-12 educators, our Trauma and Resilience in Education Certification offers specific, actionable steps that educators can use in their classrooms and school communities. The learning process and resources help answer not just “why” trauma-informed practices matter but “how” to create an environment where students feel safe and supported. We’ve found that as educators integrate these practices, they support students and build a resilient, cohesive team that feels equipped for the challenges of this work.

    In clinical settings, the Certified Trauma and Resilience Specialist in Clinical Settings provides clinicians with a range of trauma-sensitive interventions tailored for those working directly with children experiencing trauma. We’ve included sensory-based tools and strategies to address trauma symptoms like anxiety and aggression, along with resources for ongoing self-care. This certification is about more than just gaining new techniques; it’s about building the resilience of clinicians themselves, fostering a sense of confidence and support in each session.

    For early childhood professionals, our Trauma-Informed Early Childhood Certification focuses on the unique needs of young children. This process offers guidance on creating predictable, nurturing routines, and trauma-sensitive interactions so that children feel safe and connected, especially during this foundational stage of their development. Our hope is that these resources provide early childhood teams with a framework they can integrate into their daily work so that even the youngest children experience security, stability, and care.

    Caring for Ourselves as We Support Each Other

    We understand that supporting children who have experienced trauma is deeply rewarding but also emotionally demanding work. As professionals, it’s easy to put the needs of others before our own, but trauma-informed work must include taking care of ourselves and each other. Each certification program integrates self-care resources and reflective tools, such as the Circle of Courage Self-Assessment, allowing teams to check in with their own well-being. These resources are reminders that being trauma-informed is as much about supporting adults as it is about supporting children. When each team member feels valued and equipped to take on challenges, they can show up wholeheartedly for their colleagues and the children they serve.

    Walking This Path Together

    For us, supporting trauma-informed, resilience-focused work is about more than training; it’s about being a part of a larger journey to create safe, supportive environments where every person—children and adults alike—can heal, grow, and thrive. Whether you’re just beginning this shift or building on what you already know, we’re here as a partner, offering our hand as you continue your journey. If you’re exploring ways to bring a trauma-informed, resilience-focused approach to your team, we welcome you to take a look at our certification options. Each one is crafted to be a steady companion, offering practical support, reflective resources, and a community that understands the meaningful work you’re doing.

    Together, let’s create spaces where every interaction with a child is a chance to build trust, foster resilience, and instill hope. We’re here for every step of this journey, helping to make lasting change, one interaction at a time.

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    How to Recharge Kids After Trauma

    Have you ever left your phone charger at home on a busy day, and your phone’s battery starts flashing red? You’re doing everything you can to keep it alive—lowering the brightness, closing apps, turning off notifications—because, let’s face it, once it dies, you feel disconnected from the world. Now imagine if that feeling of running on empty didn’t go away, no matter what you did. That’s a bit like what’s happening to kids who’ve experienced trauma—except it’s their bodies and minds that are running on low, stuck in survival mode.

    Kids who’ve been through trauma live with their internal “battery” constantly drained, and their nervous system is working overtime. But here’s the good news: just like you can find a charger and bring your phone back to life, we can help kids recharge and reset. Science tells us that healing is not only possible, but with the right support, kids can bounce back and even grow stronger. Let’s break down how stress affects the nervous system and, most importantly, how we can help these kids thrive.

    Stress and the Nervous System: Running on Empty

    When a child experiences something scary or upsetting—like witnessing violence, dealing with abuse, or going through a major loss—their body reacts as if it’s in danger. Think of it like their alarm system going off. In small doses, stress is totally normal. It’s what gets us moving when we’re in trouble, kind of like how you sprint to the car when you realize you left your coffee on the roof (oops!).

    But for kids who’ve been through trauma, their alarm system gets stuck on “high alert.” Their body is always ready to fight, flee, or freeze—just like when you’re about to hit reply-all on an email by mistake. The problem is, when their nervous system is stuck in this mode, it’s like running with the engine revving at full speed all the time. It wears them down, making it harder for them to focus, learn, or just relax.

    What Happens When Stress Takes Over?

    The brain is pretty amazing, but it’s also very sensitive to stress—especially when kids are young and still developing. Chronic stress (the kind that sticks around) can mess with brain development, affecting things like memory, attention, and self-control. You might notice these kids have trouble sitting still, seem easily frustrated, or are quick to react to even small problems.

    It’s not that they’re being difficult on purpose. Their brain and body are just trying to keep them safe, even if there’s no actual danger in the moment. The stress they’ve experienced has left them feeling like they always need to be on guard. So that tantrum over a forgotten pencil? It’s less about the pencil and more about their nervous system saying, “Uh-oh, something’s wrong! We need to act now!”

    But Here’s the Good News: The Brain Can Heal

    Here’s the hopeful part: the brain is like Play-Doh—it’s flexible and can be reshaped. Even though trauma can cause damage, the brain can heal, especially when kids are surrounded by safe, caring adults. This is where you come in.

    When kids have at least one reliable adult in their life who is calm, patient, and understanding, it’s like plugging their phone back into the charger. You help their nervous system calm down, allowing their brain to switch from “survival mode” to “learning mode.” In other words, you help them realize the world isn’t always as scary as their brain is telling them.

    How You Can Help: Practical Tips to Support Kids

    You don’t need to be a superhero (though you probably already are to these kids) to help them heal. There are some simple things you can do that make a huge difference:

    • Create a safe, predictable environment: Kids who’ve experienced trauma need to know what’s coming next. It’s like going to your favorite restaurant—you know what to expect, and that makes you feel comfortable. Routines and clear rules help kids feel safe, which gives their nervous system a break.
    • Help them calm down (without saying “calm down”): Ever had someone tell you to calm down when you’re really stressed? Yeah, it doesn’t work. Instead, show them how to calm their bodies through breathing exercises or even silly things like stretching like a cat or shaking out the “wiggles.” Sometimes moving their bodies is what helps the brain settle down.
    • Focus on their strengths: We all like to feel good at something. Instead of focusing on the challenges they’re having, look for what they’re good at. Maybe they’re super creative, really great at helping others, or a whiz with numbers. Build them up with their strengths, and it helps their confidence grow, which also helps their brain heal.
    • Build relationships, not rules: Sure, kids need rules, but even more, they need connection. When they know you’re on their side, they’ll feel safer and more open to learning. Spend time listening to them and showing you care, even when things get tough. That bond is like a safety net for their nervous system.
    • Practice patience (and lots of it): Healing takes time, and kids will have good days and bad days. Sometimes it’ll feel like you’re taking one step forward and two steps back, but every moment of kindness and understanding helps. Even when you think they aren’t noticing, they are.

    Why Resilience is Possible (and Likely)

    Now, let’s talk about resilience. You know that feeling when your favorite plant that you thought was dead suddenly sprouts new leaves? That’s resilience—life finding a way to bounce back, even after hardship. Kids are the same way. They have an incredible ability to heal, grow, and thrive, especially when surrounded by love and support.

    Scientists have found that resilience isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s something that can be built over time through positive relationships and experiences. So even though kids may start with some tough breaks, with the right support, they can grow stronger than ever before.

    You Are Their Charger

    You’re not just another adult in their life—you’re their charger, the person who helps them recharge when they’re running on empty. By being there for them, providing structure, and showing them love and patience, you’re helping their nervous system heal. You’re showing them that they don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode—that there’s a whole world of possibility ahead of them.

    So, whether you’re a parent, teacher, or mentor, know that the work you’re doing is powerful. Every small act of kindness, every moment of patience, is like a drop in the bucket of resilience. Kids may not always show it right away, but they’re soaking up every bit of support you give them.

    The Bottom Line

    Stress can wreak havoc on a child’s nervous system, but with the right support, kids can heal. You don’t need to be perfect—just present. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a listening ear. And in time, you’ll see these kids begin to bloom, growing stronger and more resilient than ever before. Your role in their lives is nothing short of transformative.

    So, keep showing up, keep believing in their ability to heal, and remember: resilience is real, and you’re a big part of making it happen.

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    Rethinking Discipline: Building Resilience Through Restorative Practices

    As educators, we’ve all had those moments when we’re at our wits’ end when a student disrupts the learning. It’s tempting to reach for the nearest behavior chart or send them to the principal’s office. After all, that’s how it’s been done for years, right? But what if there’s a better way—a way that doesn’t just stop the disruption in the moment but helps that student grow and learn in the long run?

    Let’s face it: traditional discipline methods often miss the mark. Detentions, suspensions, color-coded charts, and point systems might seem like quick fixes, but they don’t address the underlying issues. Sometimes, they do more harm than good, especially for students who are already dealing with difficult situations outside of school.

    So, what’s the alternative? Use a resilience-focused approach by implementing restorative practices—a kinder, more effective way to handle discipline that focuses on building connections, teaching empathy, and helping students learn from their mistakes.

    Why Traditional Discipline Falls Short

    Let’s think about it: when we “punish” a student for misbehaving or making a poor choice, what are we teaching them? That making mistakes leads to shame or isolation? That they’re “bad” for having a rough day? These messages don’t help our students; they make them feel worse. If we’re being honest with ourselves, that approach doesn’t work for us either when we make a mistake! And for kids who’ve experienced trauma, punitive measures can be especially damaging.

    Traditional discipline often prioritizes control over care, focusing on compliance rather than understanding. We might get short-term results, but they’re only temporary, and we’re missing out on an opportunity to truly help our students grow. Plus, let’s be honest—these methods can make us feel like we’re constantly playing the role of “disciplinarian,” which isn’t why most of us became educators in the first place. How exhausting that can be!

    The Power of Restorative Practices

    Restorative practices turn discipline on its head. Instead of asking, “How do I punish this behavior?” we ask, “What is happening or has happened to this student?” “What universal needs are not being met?” “How do I help this student learn and grow from this experience?” It’s a subtle shift, a true mindset shift, but it makes all the difference.

    Imagine this: A student disrupts class in a desperate attempt to meet their need for belonging by doing anything to make their peers laugh. Instead of reaching for the behavior chart, you take a breath, acknowledge their presence in the class, remind them of the agreed-upon norms for the class during learning time, and invite them to chat with you. During that chat (maybe before the class period ends or perhaps later that day during lunch), you ask what’s going on and listen—really listen—to their perspective. Maybe they’re feeling frustrated about something outside of school, feeling left out, or maybe they didn’t realize how their actions affected others. Together, you figure out a way to make things right.

    This approach isn’t about letting kids off the hook. It’s about holding them accountable in a way that’s supportive rather than punitive. It teaches them problem-solving skills, empathy, and responsibility—skills that will serve them far beyond the classroom.

    Making the Shift: Small Steps, Big Impact

    Shifting from punitive discipline to a restorative approach might sound like a significant change, but it doesn’t have to happen overnight. Here are a few simple, effective strategies to get started:

    1. Get Curious About Who Your Students Are: Building strong relationships is the foundation of restorative practices. Take the time to learn about your students—their interests, challenges, and what makes them tick. Students are more likely to engage positively when they feel seen and valued.
    2. Create a Calming Space: Instead of a traditional time-out spot, designate a calm space in your classroom where students can go to regroup when they’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s a space for them to cool down and reflect, not to feel isolated or punished. This space is helpful for all students across all grade levels. Actually, it’s even great in a staff lounge for adults, too! Have fun and be creative with what to name it.
    3. Hold Restorative Circles: Restorative circles are a great way to build community and address conflicts in a supportive environment. They allow students to voice their feelings, listen to others, and work together to find solutions. And remember, they take practice!
    4. Teach Problem-Solving: Instead of handing down consequences or providing them with what you believe is the “right” thing to do, involve students in the process of figuring out how to make things right. Guide them through identifying the problem, understanding its impact, and devising a plan to repair the harm.
    5. Reflect on Your Approach: Take a moment to consider the discipline strategies you currently use. Are they genuinely helping your students learn and grow? If not, don’t be afraid to make changes. We’re all learning and evolving as educators, and trying something new is okay.

    A New Way Forward

    Rethinking discipline isn’t about letting go of structure or accountability—it’s about creating an environment where every student feels safe, supported, and capable of making better choices. By embracing restorative practices, we’re not just managing behavior; we’re nurturing resilience and building a stronger school community.

    So, let’s take a step back from those old-school discipline methods and try something different. Our students deserve a chance to learn from their mistakes without feeling ashamed or excluded. And we, as educators, deserve the satisfaction of knowing that we’re genuinely helping our students grow into the best versions of themselves.

    With a little patience, compassion, and a willingness to rethink how we approach discipline, we can create schools that aren’t just places of learning but spaces of healing and growth. Let’s make it happen—one conversation, one connection, and one restorative practice at a time.

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    Transforming PBIS with the Circle of Courage

    Close your eyes for just a moment and picture this: a school where every staff and student steps into a world of warmth and possibility, feeling truly seen and ready to thrive—this is the magic that happens when we weave Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) with a trauma-informed approach. As educators and educational leaders, our role is pivotal in fostering resilience, connection, and strength. With this vision in mind, let’s explore how we can enhance PBIS to align more with the Circle of Courage philosophy, thus embracing a trauma-informed lens.

    The Circle of Courage: A Beacon of Hope

    At the heart of this approach is the Circle of Courage, a framework rooted in every child’s four universal needs: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. This philosophy provides a rich tapestry on which we can weave the principles of PBIS, transforming our schools into sanctuaries of support and growth.

    PBIS and Trauma-Informed Care: A Natural Harmony

    Positive Behavior Interventions and Supports (PBIS) already incorporates elements that resonate with trauma-informed practices. PBIS emphasizes creating a safe and predictable environment, which aligns seamlessly with the need for Belonging. By establishing clear expectations and consistent routines, PBIS nurtures a sense of safety, a cornerstone for all children, especially any child who has faced trauma.

    Furthermore, PBIS’s focus on teaching and reinforcing positive behaviors dovetails with the Circle of Courage’s emphasis on Mastery. When we teach students the skills they need to succeed, we’re not just imparting knowledge but fostering resilience and confidence.

    Strategies to Enhance PBIS with a Trauma-Informed Lens

    While PBIS is inherently supportive, there are several strategies we can adopt to make it even more aligned with the Circle of Courage, thus enhancing its trauma-informed nature:

    1. Cultivate a Deep Sense of Belonging

    The cornerstone of a trauma-informed PBIS approach is creating an environment where every student feels genuinely welcomed and valued. This means going beyond superficial gestures and embedding belonging into the fabric of daily interactions. Celebrate individual and collective achievements, create inclusive spaces where every voice is heard, and engage families as partners in this journey.

    → Inspiration to Ignite: Consider implementing “Belonging Circles,” where students and staff share stories and celebrate one another’s contributions. These moments not only build relationships but also reinforce that every member of the school community has a unique place and purpose.

    2. Foster Mastery through Strengths-Based Feedback

    Trauma-informed PBIS should focus on recognizing and building upon each student’s strengths. Implement a feedback system that highlights what students are doing well and provides opportunities for them to demonstrate their talents. Rather than merely correcting misbehavior, offer constructive guidance that empowers students to grow and achieve mastery in various areas.

    → Inspiration to Ignite: In practice, this could look like using “Strengths Spotlights,” where teachers regularly acknowledge and showcase student strengths in the classroom. This not only boosts individual confidence but also reinforces the notion that everyone has valuable contributions to make. (Hint: staff can also do this to acknowledge one another!)

    3. Encourage Independence with Compassion

    Independence is a vital component of the Circle of Courage, but it must be approached with sensitivity, particularly for students who have experienced trauma. Provide opportunities for students to make choices and take responsibility in a supportive environment. Empower them to set personal goals and reflect on their progress, while offering a safety net of support and encouragement.

    → Inspiration to Ignite: Implement “Choice Boards” in your classroom where students can select activities or projects that align with their interests and strengths. This approach fosters a sense of agency and self-direction while maintaining a supportive framework.

    4. Promote Generosity through Community Building

    Generosity, the final element of the Circle of Courage, can be deeply interwoven with PBIS by creating opportunities for students to engage in acts of kindness and service. Encourage collaborative projects, peer mentoring, and community service initiatives that allow students to give back and make a positive impact.

    → Inspiration to Ignite: Organize “Generosity Days” where students participate in acts of kindness within the school or the broader community. These experiences not only build empathy but also reinforce the value of contributing to the well-being of others.

    5. Creating a Culture of Resilience

    By enhancing PBIS with a trauma-informed lens, we’re not just improving a system but nurturing a culture of resilience, strength, and hope. Every interaction, every strategy, and every practice becomes a stepping stone towards building a more supportive and empowering environment for our students.

    As educators and leaders, let us embrace this journey with open hearts and unwavering commitment. Let us infuse our PBIS practices with the warmth of compassion, the clarity of purpose, and the strength of resilience. Together, we can create a thriving educational ecosystem where every student feels they truly belong, can master their challenges, and are empowered to make a difference.

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    Designing Trauma-Informed Classrooms: Creating Safe and Supportive Learning Environments

    Picture this: you walk into a classroom that feels like a warm hug, where every corner whispers, “You belong here.” The walls aren’t just covered with posters but with reminders that every child is seen, heard, and supported. This is the heart of a trauma-informed classroom—a space where students learn, heal, and grow. Let’s dive into how you can create such a sanctuary, starting with practical tips on classroom layout, sensory considerations, and fostering a sense of safety and predictability.

    Classroom Layout: A Space for Every Emotion

    Think of your classroom layout as a roadmap to emotional safety. Every inch of your space can either invite calm or stir chaos. Start by creating distinct areas that serve different purposes. A cozy corner with soft pillows and dim lighting can become a retreat for students who need a break from the hustle and bustle—a place to self-regulate without feeling singled out. Add a few fidget tools and sensory objects for those who need a bit more to manage their emotions.

    Consider arranging desks in clusters to promote collaboration, but also ensure there’s space for solo work. This arrangement offers flexibility, acknowledging that some students thrive in groups while others need solitude to focus. Don’t underestimate the power of natural light and plants, either. They’re not just for aesthetics; they help reduce stress and boost mood, making your classroom feel like a breath of fresh air—literally!

    Sensory Considerations: Less is More (Except When It Isn’t)

    When it comes to sensory inputs, classrooms can be a double-edged sword. Bright colors and bustling bulletin boards can be exciting but can also overwhelm students sensitive to sensory stimuli. Opt for a color palette that soothes—think soft blues, greens, and neutral tones. Consider using sound-absorbing materials like rugs or curtains to muffle the often chaotic classroom noise from the buzz of engaging learning taking place.

    But sensory considerations aren’t just about reducing stimuli; sometimes, it’s about providing the ‘right’ kind. Incorporate sensory-friendly tools like weighted blankets, noise-canceling headphones, or stress balls. Have a variety of options available so students can choose what works best for them as they continue to learn more about their own sensory needs. These minor adjustments can make a world of difference for a student trying to navigate both the lesson and their sensory world.

    Safety and Predictability: The Pillars of Trust

    Predictability isn’t just a preference in a trauma-informed classroom—it’s a lifeline. For students who have experienced trauma or toxic stress, unpredictability can trigger anxiety, making it difficult for them to focus on learning as their minds are consumed with the wonderings of ‘what ifs’ that could happen. Remember, stressed brains can’t learn! Establishing routines and clear expectations helps create a sense of safety. A visual schedule that outlines the day’s activities can be a game-changer for these students. They’ll know what’s coming next, and that little bit of knowledge can be incredibly reassuring while simultaneously developing a strong sense of independence and autonomy.

    Consistency in your responses is equally important. Students should know what to expect from you, whether they’re having a great day or a challenging one. When they trust that you’ll be fair and steady, even when things get tough, they’ll feel safe enough to take risks and make mistakes—a crucial part of learning. Co-creating agreed-upon classroom norms and implementing them with fidelity is a proactive, universal support for all students!

    Ready-to-Use Ideas for the First Day of School: Simple, Affordable, and Effective

    Starting the school year with a trauma-informed mindset doesn’t have to be costly or time-consuming. Here are some easy-to-implement ideas that will set the tone for a safe and supportive learning environment from day one:

    These small, affordable steps can make a big difference in how your classroom feels from the first day. They’re simple to implement but incredibly powerful in creating a trauma-informed environment where all students feel safe, supported, and ready to learn.

    Create a Welcome Board: Set up a simple bulletin board at the entrance of your classroom with a “Welcome” message and space for students to add their names or a small picture of something they love. This immediately tells students that they belong in this space.

    Personalize Desk Tags: Instead of pre-made name tags, provide materials for students to decorate their own. Let them choose colors, add drawings, or write a word that describes them. This simple activity gives students a sense of ownership over their space.

    Establish a Calm Down Corner: Designate a small area of your classroom as a “Calm Down Corner.” Stock it with soft pillows, a few sensory toys like stress balls, and a visual aid with calming techniques. You can easily create this space using items from a dollar store or even things you already have at home.

    Daily Check-In Station: Set up a check-in station where students can indicate how they feel as they enter the classroom. Use something as simple as colored sticky notes or an emoji chart. This will give you a quick snapshot of your students’ emotional states and help them feel acknowledged.

    Classroom Agreement Poster: On the first day, collaborate with your students to create a classroom agreement. Instead of a list of rules, ask them what they need to feel safe and supported. Write down their ideas on a large poster and have everyone sign it. This empowers students to take part in creating a positive classroom culture.

    Sensory-Friendly Classroom Decorations: Use soft colors and limit clutter to keep decorations simple and sensory-friendly. If you’re on a budget, you can create calming wall displays using materials like construction paper or fabric remnants. Consider making a “quiet wall” with little to no decoration to give students a visual break.

    Routine Reminders: On the first day, introduce simple visual cues that remind students of the classroom routine. Use hand signals, visual schedules, or chimes to signal transitions. These cues can be made with items like a bell or printed cards—affordable but powerful tools for creating predictability.

    Introduce a Class Plant: Bring a tiny plant into the classroom and introduce it as the “class plant” everyone will take care of. This is an inexpensive way to add some green to your space and foster a sense of community and shared responsibility.

    Gratitude Jar: Start a classroom gratitude jar. Provide slips of paper where students can write something they’re thankful for each day. At the end of the week, take a moment to read a few aloud. This simple practice encourages positivity and reflection, setting a warm tone for the year.

    Mindful Moment to Start the Day: Begin each day with a short, guided, mindful moment. Start with a deep breathing exercise or a brief stretch. These exercises require no materials and just a few minutes of your time, and they set a calm, focused tone for the rest of the day.

    Universal Support for All Students: Resilience at the Core

    Here’s the beauty of a trauma-informed approach: it benefits every student, not just those who’ve experienced trauma. By designing a classroom that prioritizes emotional safety, you’re fostering resilience in all your students. You’re teaching them that it’s okay to ask for help, to take breaks, and to care for themselves and others.

    As you transform your classroom, remember this: you’re not just rearranging desks and picking out paint colors. You’re building a community—a place where students feel safe enough to be themselves and brave enough to learn. And that, dear educators, is the true magic of teaching. So, roll up your sleeves, grab that staple gun, and turn your classroom into the safe haven every student deserves. Your students are ready to thrive; they just need the right environment to bloom. And who better to create it than you?

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    Five Ways to Create Trauma-Sensitive Spaces for Young Learners

    Hello, amazing educators! Are you ready to create a classroom that feels like a warm hug? As early childhood teachers, you hold the magic wand that can transform a child’s world. Embracing the philosophy of Starr Commonwealth’s 10 Steps to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School, let’s explore practical, fun, and inspiring ways to make your learning space a haven of safety, love, and growth.

    1. Establish Trust and Cultivate Compassionate Relationships

    Think of your classroom as a cozy nest where trust and compassion grow. Greet each little one with a cheerful “Good morning!” and a smile. Use visual schedules to help kids know what to expect next—this can be as simple as a picture board showing snack time, storytime, and playtime. Consistency is key!

    Become the friendly detective who uncovers each child’s unique story. Show genuine interest in their lives—remembering their pet’s name can make you a superhero in their eyes.

    🌟Spark of Inspiration: Start each day with a circle time where everyone shares something they’re excited about. Keep a “Getting to Know You” notebook where you jot down fun facts about each child. Refer to it often to personalize your interactions.

    2. Understand Trauma and Create a Positive Physical Environment

    Knowledge is your superpower! Learn about trauma’s effects on a child’s brain and body so you can spot the signs and respond with empathy rather than frustration. Having a curious mindset about what each little learner has experienced or is currently experiencing empowers you to be open and responsive rather than reactive when difficulties arise.

    Your classroom should be as inviting as a favorite storybook to support every developing mind. Your thoughtful design choices, such as soft lighting, cozy reading nooks with bean bags, and sensory-friendly corners with calming tools like stress balls and noise-canceling headphones, have a profound impact. This atmosphere promotes safety and healing, which allows the imagination to explore for every child, thanks to your influence!

    🌟Spark of Inspiration: Continue investing in your learning journey about trauma and resilience. Share what you learn with your colleagues over a fun lunch-and-learn session. Transform a corner into a “Calm Down Cove” with soft pillows, stuffed animals, and a basket of sensory toys for kids to retreat when they need a break.

    3. Implement Caring Discipline and Promote Emotional Literacy

    Ditch the time-outs and bring in the “time-ins.” Focus on understanding why a child acts out rather than punishing the behavior. Let’s make this the year where we default to natural and logical consequences to help meet the needs of our children. Equip your little learners with the communication skills they need to express their big feelings. Use emotion cards, storytelling, and role-playing to teach them about different emotions.

    🌟Spark of Inspiration: When a child is upset, have a “Peaceful Place” where they can sit and talk about their emotions with you. Play a game where kids pick a card with a face showing an emotion and then act it out. This makes learning about feelings fun and interactive while promoting play.

    4. Foster Social Connections and Empower Student Voice

    Foster a classroom community where everyone feels like they belong. Encourage teamwork and buddy systems to help kids build friendships and support each other. Let your kiddos be the captains of their little ships. Give them choices throughout the day to help them feel in control and valued.

    🌟Spark of Inspiration: Pair up kids for a “Buddy Reading” session where they take turns reading to each other. Allow students to choose their morning activity from a few options like coloring, building blocks, or quiet reading time. This small choice can make a big difference in their engagement.

    5. Integrate Mindfulness and Collaborate with Families

    Introduce mindfulness as a magical tool for self-regulation. Simple practices like deep breathing and intentional, guided movements can help kids manage stress and stay calm. Build a bridge between home and school. Keep open lines of communication with caregivers and involve them in classroom activities and decisions. Send home resources families can engage in together to promote a healing environment at home, too!

    🌟Spark of Inspiration:Start the day with a short “Mindful Moment”—have the kids close their eyes, take deep breaths, and listen to calming music for a few minutes. Host a monthly “Family Fun Night” where parents and children can participate in arts and crafts or storytelling activities. Activities like this strengthen the school community and reinforce the support network for the children.

    An Invitation to Transform Lives

    Dear educators, you are the heart and soul of your classrooms. By prioritizing trauma-sensitive practices, which involve understanding the impact of trauma on children’s lives and adjusting your approach to meet their needs, you are meeting your students’ universal needs and empowering them to overcome challenges and reach their full potential. Let’s embark on this journey together, fostering environments where every child feels seen, heard, and cherished. Your dedication to creating trauma-sensitive environments will leave a lasting impact, shaping the future one child at a time. Thank you for your commitment, passion, and unwavering belief in the power of education to transform lives.

    So, roll up your sleeves, put on your biggest smile, and make every classroom a beacon of hope and healing. Together, we can create a world where every child flourishes, no matter their starting point. Let’s sprinkle some magic in our classrooms and watch our students soar!

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    Nurturing Resilience Through Play in Early Childhood

    “Children need the freedom and time to play. Play is
    not a luxury. Play is a necessity.”

    Kay Redfield Jamison

    Imagine a garden where every child is a budding flower, each needing care and attention to blossom fully. Throughout the early childhood journey, we often find ourselves navigating the delicate task of fostering resilience in our young learners. Resilience, that crucial capacity to bounce back from adversity, is a cornerstone for a fulfilling life with universal hope, boundless love, and limitless success. The magic ingredient to fostering this resilience? Play.

    The Power of Play: More Than Just Fun

    Play is often dismissed as a frivolous activity, merely a break from the “real” learning. However, research paints a different picture. By shifting our mindset, we can recognize that play is a fundamental way for children to explore themselves and the world around them. Deprived of play, children risk losing their imagination and autonomy. Through play, the seeds of critical social, emotional, and cognitive skills are planted, ready to be nurtured throughout their lives.

    The Trauma-Informed Lens

    A trauma-informed approach recognizes that many children come to us with invisible backpacks filled with stress, anxiety, and adverse experiences impacting their growth and development. One of the most powerful protective factors for fostering resilience and promoting healing is the presence of at least one caring adult who loves them irrationally and unconditionally. Wow, that’s powerful! By creating safe, nurturing, and playful environments, we can help children unpack these burdens, fostering a sense of security and belonging. This foundation, supported by a trusted, loving relationship, is vital for resilience.

    Building Authentic Relationships

    At the heart of resilience lies the power of authentic relationships. As we all do, even the youngest children need to feel seen, heard, and valued. This sense of belonging and connection is the foundation of resilience. Here are some practical strategies to foster these relationships with our little ones:

    • Be Present and Attentive: Show genuine interest in each child’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Active listening and eye contact go a long way in making a child feel valued.
    • Create Consistent Routines: Predictability provides a sense of security. Consistent routines help children feel safe and understand what to expect, reducing anxiety and increasing confidence.
    • Celebrate Individual Strengths: Each child is unique. Celebrate their strengths and achievements, no matter how small. This builds self-esteem and a positive self-concept.

    Empowering Autonomy Through Play

    Empowering children to make choices and take control of their play fosters independence and self-confidence. Here’s how to start:

    • Offer Choices Whenever Possible: Provide a variety of play activities and let children choose what interests them. This autonomy in decision-making boosts their confidence and sense of control.
    • Encourage Problem-Solving: Allow children to encounter challenges during play and observe them finding solutions, simply offering support through guided facilitation rather than intervening. This builds critical thinking and resilience.
    • Promote Risk-Taking in a Safe Environment: Encourage children to take calculated risks in play. This could be trying a new activity or exploring new roles in pretend play. Ensuring a safe environment allows them to experiment and learn from failures without fear.

    Creating environments where every child feels included, capable, and joyful is crucial for fostering resilience because these environments help children develop a strong sense of self-worth and belonging. When children feel accepted and valued, they are more likely to take risks, persevere through challenges, and recover from setbacks. Here are a few ideas to incorporate into your child’s experiences to nurture resilience through play:

    • Sensory Exploration Stations: Create sensory bins or exploration stations with materials like rice, beans, fabric scraps, or natural objects (smooth stones, pinecones). Allow children to explore textures, colors, and shapes freely. This encourages sensory development and fosters a sense of curiosity and discovery.
    • Practical Life Activities: Introduce simple, age-appropriate tasks such as pouring water from a small pitcher into a cup, transferring objects between containers, or sorting shapes or colors. These activities promote fine motor skills, concentration, and independence.
    • Nature Walks and Outdoor Exploration: Take children on nature walks where they can explore natural surroundings, touch leaves, feel different textures, and observe insects or birds. Spending time outdoors supports sensory development, physical activity, and a connection to the natural world.
    • Music and Movement Activities: Engage children in music and movement activities such as singing songs with hand movements, dancing to music, or playing simple instruments like shakers or bells. Music and movement support language development, coordination, and emotional expression.
    • Quiet Reading and Storytelling:
      Create a cozy reading corner with age-appropriate books and soft cushions or rugs. Read aloud to children, using expressive voices and gestures. Storytelling helps develop language skills, imagination, and a sense of comfort and security.

    These sensory-based activities are designed to be child-led, promoting independence, exploration, and learning through hands-on experiences while having fun! Incorporating trauma-informed practices involves creating a safe and supportive environment where children feel secure and valued, allowing them to explore and learn at their own pace.

    Embracing the Journey

    As early childhood professionals, we teach, guide, support, and inspire. Embrace the journey with a playful heart, and watch your young learners grow into resilient, confident, and joyful individuals. Remember, the seeds of resilience are planted in the rich soil of play, nurtured by genuine connections, and cultivated through empowering experiences.

    In the words of Fred Rogers, “Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is the work of childhood.” Let’s embrace this philosophy and create a world where every child has the opportunity to thrive. Happy playing!

    Ready to make a significant impact on young lives? Equip yourself with the essential skills to support and heal early childhood trauma. Enroll in Starr Commonwealth’s Trauma-Informed Certification for Early Childhood today and be the catalyst for change in your community. Learn more at https://starr.org/trauma-certification-early-childhood/.

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    Five Ways to Foster Resilience

    As professionals dedicated to working with youth, we are entrusted with a profound responsibility and a unique privilege: to shape and influence the lives of the young people we encounter. The most critical protective factor for increasing a child’s resilience is ensuring they believe they have at least one adult who loves them irrationally and unconditionally. This can be achieved by authentically connecting with children in a way that feels natural to them.

    Every interaction with a child is an opportunity to foster resilience, build trust, and nurture a sense of belonging. Through the Circle of Courage principles and a trauma-informed approach, we can ensure that every child feels loved, valued, and cared for, exactly as they are and who they hope to be.

    The Circle of Courage: A Foundation for Resilience

    The Circle of Courage outlines four essential components that contribute to a child’s sense of belonging and overall well-being: Belonging, Mastery, Independence, and Generosity. Integrating these principles into our daily interactions creates an environment where children can thrive, even in adversity.

    1. Belonging: Cultivating Connections and Community

    The cornerstone of resilience is a strong sense of belonging. Children need to feel that they are part of a community that values and accepts them. As professionals, we can foster this by:

    • Proactively Responding to Bids for Attention: Children often fulfill their need for attention through their behavior, whether it’s positive or negative. By recognizing and responding to these bids in real-time, we affirm their worth and show them that they are seen and heard. A smile, a kind word, or a moment of undivided attention can make a world of difference.
    • Creating Inclusive Environments: Ensure that every child feels welcomed and included. Celebrate diversity and make a conscious effort to understand each child’s unique background and experiences. This helps build a community where every child feels they belong.

    2. Mastery: Encouraging Growth and Achievement

    Children need opportunities to learn, grow, and achieve. When we help them build skills and celebrate their successes, we empower them to take on new challenges confidently.

    • Setting Achievable Goals: Work alongside children to set realistic and attainable goals. Celebrate their progress, no matter how small, and provide positive reinforcement to encourage continued effort and persistence.
    • Offering Support and Resources: Provide the tools and resources children need to succeed. This might include tutoring, mentorship, or access to extracurricular activities that align with their interests and talents.

    3. Independence: Empowering Self-Agency and Choice

    Children need to feel that they have control over their lives and the ability to make choices. By fostering independence, we help them develop a sense of responsibility and self-efficacy.

    • Encouraging Decision-Making: Involve children in decisions that affect them. This can be as simple as allowing them to choose their activities or as significant as involving them in developing their own support plans.
    • Respecting Individuality: Recognize and honor each child’s unique strengths, interests, and needs. Encourage them to explore their passions and support them in pursuing their own paths.

    4. Generosity: Instilling a Sense of Purpose and Connection

    Helping children understand the value of giving back and contributing to their community fosters a sense of purpose and connection.

    • Modeling Generosity: Show children what it means to be generous through your own actions. Volunteer together, engage in community service or random acts of kindness, and discuss the importance of helping others.
    • Creating Opportunities for Contribution: Provide children with opportunities to contribute to their community through small acts of kindness or larger community projects. This helps them see their potential to make a positive impact.

    Joyful Engagement: The Heart of Trauma-Informed Care

    A resilience-focused approach requires us to meet each child with empathy, patience, and joy. By embracing every interaction as an opportunity to uplift and support, we can transform the lives of the children we serve. Here are some practical ways to infuse joy and care into our daily interactions:

    • Be Present: Give children your full attention. Listen actively and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.
    • Celebrate Uniqueness: Acknowledge and celebrate what makes each child unique. Encourage them to express themselves and validate their experiences.
    • Foster Positive Relationships: Build strong, trusting relationships with the children you work with. Show them that they can rely on you for support and guidance.
    • Maintain a Positive Outlook: Approach challenges with a positive attitude and a problem-solving mindset. Be the calm that helps children see obstacles as opportunities for growth and learning.
    • Authentic Connection: Make every effort to connect with each child in a manner that resonates with them. Understand their language, their interests, and their needs. Show them that your care and love are unwavering and unconditional.

    By incorporating these practices into our work, we can create environments where children feel safe, valued, and empowered. Every interaction is a chance to build resilience, and by embracing this opportunity, we can make a lasting impact on the lives of the young people we serve. Let’s commit to making every moment count, nurturing resilience, and ensuring every child knows they are loved and cared for exactly as they are.

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    How to Decrease Trauma Symptoms and Reactions of Anxiety

    Healing from Within

    We know that trauma is a profound and often distressing experience that can profoundly impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. The journey from trauma to healing is intricate, involving a complex interplay between the mind and body. Recognizing this connection is vital to fostering effective healing and recovery.

    Understanding Trauma and Its Symptoms

    Trauma can stem from a single overwhelming event or a series of adverse experiences such as accidents, natural disasters, violence, or sustained abuse. The symptoms of trauma can vary but often include:

    • Intrusive memories: Recurrent, involuntary memories or flashbacks of the traumatic event.
    • Avoidance: Steering clear of reminders of the trauma, whether people, places, or activities.
    • Negative changes in thinking and mood: Persistent feelings of hopelessness, guilt, or detachment from others.
    • Alterations in arousal and reactivity: Hypervigilance, exaggerated startle response, and difficulty sleeping.

    These symptoms illustrate how trauma is not just a psychological experience but a profound bodily one. The body’s stress response is activated during trauma. Without proper resolution, this state of high alert can persist, contributing to ongoing anxiety and distress.

    Anxiety as a Reaction to Trauma

    Anxiety is a common reaction to trauma, manifesting as a heightened sense of fear, worry, and unease. This reaction is your body’s way of staying on guard against potential threats. When this state of heightened alertness becomes chronic, it can lead to ongoing difficulties.

    From a resilience-focused perspective, anxiety can be seen as both a challenge and an opportunity. While it signals underlying distress, it also indicates that your body and mind are communicating about unprocessed trauma. Because we can not manage what we are unaware of, understanding and addressing these signals our bodies attempt to communicate is crucial for healing.

    The Mind-Body Connection in Healing

    The path to healing from trauma and its associated anxiety involves recognizing and nurturing the mind-body connection. Trauma is stored not just in our memories but also in our bodies. Therefore, effective healing practices must address both aspects. Here are some strategies to consider on your healing journey:

    1. Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become aware of your bodily sensations and thoughts and connect to them without judgment. By cultivating a sense of present-moment awareness, you can begin to process and release stored trauma.
    2. Breathwork: Conscious breathing exercises can regulate the nervous system, reducing symptoms of anxiety and helping you feel more grounded and centered during moments of dysregulation.
    3. Restoring Resilience: Building resilience involves developing skills to manage stress and bounce back from adversity. This includes fostering social connections, practicing self-care, creating a positive outlook, and seeking support as needed.

    Healing Anxiety Reactions Through Sensory Interventions

    Treating anxiety rooted in trauma through sensory interventions offers a powerful approach to healing and restoring resilience. Sensory interventions engage the body’s senses to process and release trauma, calming the nervous system and reducing anxiety. Techniques such as:

    • Aromatherapy: Using calming scents like lavender to evoke a sense of peace.
    • Grounding Exercises: Engaging in tactile sensations, such as holding a comforting object, to help you reconnect with your body and the present moment.
    • Structured Sensory Interventions: Activities like art or music interaction allow for the expression and processing of trauma in non-verbal ways, facilitating emotional release and recovery.

    By incorporating these sensory interventions, you can gradually re-establish a sense of safety and resilience. Reconnecting your mind and body transforms anxiety into a pathway for healing. Building resilience is more than just coping with stress; it’s about thriving in the face of adversity. By integrating practices that honor the mind-body connection, you can develop greater emotional and physical resilience. This holistic approach not only addresses the symptoms of trauma and anxiety but also empowers you to reclaim your sense of well-being and purpose.

    Ready to enhance your skills in trauma-informed care? Become a Certified Trauma and Resilience Specialist to deepen your understanding of trauma’s impact on children and gain practical tools for effective support. Our certification equips professionals like social workers, therapists, healthcare providers, and others working with children to broaden their expertise in trauma-informed practices.

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    Understanding Stress: Empowering Resilience through Mindfulness

    Throughout the beautiful journey of the human experience, stress emerges as a multifaceted phenomenon, weaving its threads through the fabric of our lives in various forms. From the everyday pressures of work and relationships to the deeper, more enduring effects of things like adverse childhood experiences, stress manifests in different ways, each with its own unique impact on our mental and physical health.

    It’s crucial to recognize the diversity of stress and its effects as we navigate our journey toward resilience. Everyday stressors, such as traffic jams or looming deadlines, can trigger our body’s natural fight-or-flight response, leading to temporary feelings of tension and anxiety. These stressors can often be helpful for us to leverage our body’s natural hormone and chemical response to overcome the obstacle in front of us with gusto. On the other hand, toxic stress, often stemming from prolonged exposure to adverse experiences, often stemming from childhood, can have profound and lasting effects on our overall wellbeing.

    However, amidst the complexities of stress, we possess a powerful tool: autonomy. We have the power to choose how we respond to stress, whether it’s by feeling overwhelmed and defeated or by proactively implementing strategies to mitigate its effects.

    Mindfulness serves as a beacon of empowerment in this regard. By cultivating awareness, compassion, and presence, we can navigate the ebb and flow of stress with grace and resilience. Rather than feeling helpless in the face of life’s challenges, we can reclaim agency over our mental and emotional wellbeing.

    Research has shown that mindfulness practices can significantly reduce the adverse effects of stress on our mental and physical health. By integrating simple daily practices into our lives, we can take a proactive approach to mental wellness, mitigating the impact of stress before it takes its toll.

    So, what can we do to cultivate mindfulness in our daily lives? Here are some practical strategies to get started:

    • Mindful Breathing: Take a few moments each day to focus on your breath, allowing it to ground you in the present moment. Notice the sensations of each inhale and exhale, and let them anchor you in a sense of calm and centeredness. With each inhale, acknowledge the sensations your body is experiencing and validate your feelings. With each exhale, give your body permission to release it and find an inner calmness.
    • Body Scan Meditation: Set aside time to scan your body from head to toe, tuning in to any areas of tension or discomfort. With each breath, invite relaxation to flow into those areas, releasing stress and promoting a sense of ease.
    • Mindful Movement: Engage in gentle movement practices such as yoga, walking, or stretching, paying attention to the sensations in your body as you move. Let each movement be a meditation in motion, connecting mind, body, and breath.
    • Gratitude Practice: Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, no matter how small. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can shift your perspective and foster a sense of joy and contentment, even in the face of adversity.
    • Mindful Eating: Slow down and savor each bite of your meals, paying attention to the flavors, textures, and sensations as you eat. Eating mindfully not only enhances your enjoyment of food but also promotes digestive health and overall well-being.

    By embracing mindfulness as a proactive approach to mental wellness, we can navigate life’s challenges with resilience and strength. Let us empower ourselves to take control of our well-being, one mindful moment at a time.

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    Prioritizing Mental Wellness in Education: A Trauma-Informed Approach to Empower Teachers and Students

    As we embrace Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s crucial to reflect on the invaluable role educators play in shaping the emotional and social well-being of our communities. Now more than ever, the importance of prioritizing mental wellness in schools cannot be overstated. At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in the power of a trauma-informed approach to education, one that champions the social and emotional well-being of every individual within the school community.

    Educators are the unsung heroes who impart knowledge and provide a nurturing environment where students can thrive emotionally and academically. However, to effectively support our students, we must first support our educators. They are the heartbeat of our schools, and their well-being is paramount to creating safe and supportive learning environments.

    Incorporating trauma-informed practices into schools is not just about understanding the impact trauma has on one’s ability to learn; it’s about fostering a culture of empathy, understanding, and resilience. It’s about recognizing that every individual brings their own unique experiences to the classroom and creating a safe space where they feel valued and heard; a space where every individual feels like they belong simply by showing up as their most authentic selves.

    So, how can we empower educators to prioritize mental wellness for themselves and their students? It starts with embracing a strengths-based approach—one that celebrates the resilience and potential within each person. Here are five effective strategies educators can implement today to prioritize student mental wellness in their learning environments from a trauma-informed approach:

    1. Create a Safe and Supportive Environment: Foster a sense of safety and belonging in the classroom by establishing clear expectations for behavior and providing consistent routines that are co-created between the teacher and students in the room. Create physical spaces that feel welcoming and comfortable, and encourage open communication where students feel safe to express their thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment.
    2. Practice Mindfulness and Self-Regulation: Incorporate mindfulness exercises and self-regulation techniques into daily routines to help students manage stress and regulate their emotions. Teach breathing exercises, guided meditation, or simple yoga poses to help students develop awareness of their thoughts and feelings, promoting emotional regulation and resilience.

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    1. Promote Positive Relationships: Build positive relationships with students based on trust, respect, and empathy. Take the time to get to know each student individually, show genuine interest in their well-being, and provide opportunities for meaningful connection. Recognize and celebrate their individual strengths and accomplishments daily, fostering a sense of belonging and worthiness.
    2. Teach Coping Skills: Equip students with practical coping skills to manage adversity and navigate challenging situations. Teach problem-solving strategies, effective communication skills, and stress management techniques to empower students to respond adaptively to stressors and build resilience. Encourage self-reflection and goal-setting to promote personal growth and development.
    3. Provide Access to Support Services: Ensure students have access to appropriate support services and resources to address their mental health needs. Collaborate with school counselors, social workers, and other mental health professionals to provide interventions and support tailored to individual student needs. Offer psychoeducation to students and families about mental health and available resources, reducing stigma and promoting help-seeking behavior.

    As we navigate the complexities of education, let us remember the profound impact that a trauma-informed approach can have on the well-being of our students and educators alike. Let us celebrate the resilience and strength within each member of our school community, and let us continue to prioritize mental wellness as we shape the future together.

    This Mental Health Awareness Month, let us recommit ourselves to creating schools where every individual feels seen, heard, and valued. Together, we can build a brighter, more resilient future for our students and educators alike.

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    Cultivating Resilience: A Blueprint for Educators

    In the bustling corridors of our schools, amidst the laughter and the learning, there exists a silent yet powerful force: resilience. The inner strength that propels our students forward, even in the face of adversity. As educators, we have the privilege and the responsibility to nurture this resilience, to foster environments where every child can thrive. Today, let’s explore how we can put this into action within our learning environments.

    Step 1: Embrace Social-Emotional Learning (SEL) Skills

    • Integrate SEL into your curriculum: Infuse lessons with opportunities for students to explore and develop their emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and relationship-building skills.
    • Model SEL in action: Be intentional about demonstrating empathy, active listening, and conflict resolution in your interactions with students and colleagues.
    • Provide SEL resources: Equip students with tools and resources—such as mindfulness exercises, emotion regulation strategies, and problem-solving techniques—to navigate challenges and build resilience.

    Step 2: Foster a Sense of Belonging and Inclusion

    • Create a welcoming environment: Set the tone for inclusivity by decorating your classroom with diverse representations and affirming messages that celebrate the uniqueness of each student. Remember to greet each student by name upon their arrival to set an immediate warm tone each day!
    • Promote student voice and agency: Empower students to contribute their ideas, opinions, and perspectives to classroom discussions and decision-making processes.
    • Establish supportive relationships: Cultivate trusting relationships with your students by showing genuine interest in their well-being, offering encouragement and praise, and providing opportunities for one-on-one check-ins.

    Step 3: Provide Access to Mental Health Support Resources

    • Offer counseling services: Partner with school counselors or mental health professionals to provide confidential support and resources for students experiencing emotional distress or mental health challenges as needed.
    • Implement mindfulness practices: Integrate mindfulness activities, such as deep breathing exercises, guided movement, or calming music into your daily routine to help students manage stress and enhance their well-being.
    • Collaborate with community organizations: Forge partnerships with local mental health agencies, nonprofit organizations, or youth centers to expand access to mental health services and support networks for students and families while reducing the stigma of accessing these types of supports.

    Step 4: Reflect, Adapt, and Grow

    • Regularly assess student needs: Use informal check-ins, surveys, or classroom circle discussions to gather student feedback about their social-emotional well-being and identify areas for growth.
    • Reflect on your practices: Take time to reflect on your teaching strategies, classroom management techniques, and interactions with students to identify opportunities for improvement and refine your approach.
    • Stay informed and connected: Stay up to date on the latest research, best practices, and professional development opportunities related to trauma-informed care, restorative practices, and student well-being. Remember to be curious and apply a strengths-based mindset throughout your daily routines to help put your learning into practice.

    By following these steps, we can create learning environments that foster academic achievement and nurture every student’s resilience and well-being. Let’s embark on this journey of cultivating resilience, one lesson, one interaction, and one heart at a time.

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    Cultivating Belonging: Navigating Exclusion with Restorative and Resilience-Focused Approach to Discipline

    Hello, fellow educators and guardians of compassionate learning! Today, we embark on a transformative journey towards redefining disciplinary practices through the lens of restorative justice and resilience-focused mindset. Prepare to be inspired as we delve into a realm where exclusion, as a last resort in response to behavior, is reframed as an opportunity for connection, growth, and healing.

    At Starr Commonwealth, we recognize the profound impact of trauma on young minds and the urgency of cultivating safe, nurturing environments within our educational spaces. It’s time to bid farewell to punitive measures that fracture relationships and breed resentment and, instead, embrace a mindset centered on restoration and reconnection.

    Imagine this scenario: a student grappling with challenges beyond their control acts out in a way that disrupts the classroom environment. This might trigger an immediate exclusion in traditional settings, perpetuating a cycle of disengagement and isolation. But what if we paused, took a collective breath, and approached the situation with empathy and understanding?

    Enter restorative discipline—a proactive and holistic approach rooted in the principles of healing and accountability. It begins with nurturing a culture of belonging and empowerment, where every voice is valued, and every behavior is viewed as an opportunity for growth.

    Before exclusion becomes the default response, let’s explore the power of staying connected. This means reaching out to the student and their family, not with judgment or blame, but with genuine curiosity and support. It means engaging in restorative conversations that foster empathy, reflection, and mutual understanding.

    In addition to maintaining connection, consider implementing restorative circles within your classroom or school community. These circles provide a structured space for dialogue, allowing participants to share their perspectives, express their feelings, and work collaboratively toward resolution. By embracing restorative circles, you create a sense of collective responsibility and empower students to become active participants in their own growth and development. This, in turn, serves as a proactive and universal approach to prevent behaviors that are hurtful to the learning environment!

    Furthermore, let’s not overlook the critical role of reintegration meetings. Within the system of education, we understand that sometimes exclusionary practices are deemed necessary, especially in ensuring the maintenance of a safe learning environment for both staff and students. As such, when removing a student from their learning environment is deemed necessary, the need for a reintegration meeting upon their return to school is critical! These gatherings bring together all parties involved in the incident that took place, creating a sacred space for healing and reconciliation. Here, relationships are reaffirmed, harm is acknowledged, and plans for moving forward are collaboratively devised. This is where the real work of accountability, learning from mistakes, and learning empathy takes place.

    But the journey doesn’t end there. Restorative discipline isn’t just a reactive measure; it’s a way of life. By adopting the Circle of Courage philosophy, we equip ourselves with a framework that honors the innate resilience and potential of every student. Start with universal approaches that promote belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity. And for those in need of additional support, offer targeted interventions that address underlying needs and teach essential skills while we simultaneously work to fulfill any unmet needs that exist.

    So, dear educators, let us embark on this transformative journey together. Let us reclaim discipline as an act of love, healing, and empowerment. As we navigate the challenges ahead, let us remember the profound impact we have on shaping the hearts and minds of the next generation.

    Together, we can create a world where every child feels seen, heard, and valued. Let’s make it happen, one restorative connection at a time.

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    Sparking Joy: Transformative Time-In Strategies for Resilience-Focused Learning Spaces

    In the vibrant realm of shaping young minds, where every moment holds the potential for transformation, we often encounter challenges that disrupt the journey of growth and learning. However, amidst these moments lies an opportunity to transform behaviors and lives. At Starr Commonwealth, we believe in the power of joy, resilience, and trauma-informed care to create safe and supportive classrooms where every student can thrive. Join us on a journey to explore practical time-in strategies designed to nurture resilience, foster connection, and empower both you and your students.

    Embracing Time-In Strategies

    As trauma-responsive educators, we firmly believe in the stark contrast between time-in strategies, which nurture a student’s sense of belonging and resilience, and exclusionary practices that jeopardize their connection to the school community. By embracing time-in approaches, we prioritize building supportive relationships and fostering a culture where every student feels valued, respected, and empowered to thrive.

    Time-in strategies offer a beacon of hope, guiding us toward meaningful connections and transformative moments in the classroom. Instead of resorting to punitive measures, time-in strategies invite students into a space of reflection, growth, and restoration.

    Practical and Proactive Strategies

    1. Mindful Moments: Begin each day with a mindful moment, inviting students to center themselves through deep breathing or gentle stretches. These mindful moments can include no movement, small movements, or large movements depending on what the student’s body needs to achieve regulation. This sets a positive tone for the day and cultivates emotional regulation skills.
    2. Emotion Check-Ins: Create a safe space for students to express their emotions through check-in circles or journaling exercises. Encourage active listening and validation of each other’s experiences, fostering empathy and a sense of belonging.
    3. Calm Corners: Designate a cozy corner in the classroom equipped with calming activities such as coloring books, sensory bottles, or soft pillows. This provides students with a refuge to self-regulate and recharge during moments of distress.
    4. Strength-Based Affirmations: Integrate strength-based affirmations into daily routines, acknowledging each student’s unique talents and contributions. Celebrate their resilience and growth, fostering a culture of positivity and self-empowerment.
    5. Restorative Circles: Engage in restorative circles to address conflicts or challenges within the classroom community. Facilitate open dialogue, active listening, and collaborative problem-solving, promoting accountability and reconciliation.

    Responding to ‘Disruptive’ Behavior

    When faced with behaviors that are disruptive to the learning environment, it’s essential to approach them with empathy and a trauma-informed lens. First and foremost, we must always remember to maintain our curious mindset, being inquisitive about what the child is attempting to communicate to us. What need has not been met for that child that they are seeking to get met in the best way they know how? Instead of reacting impulsively, consider the underlying needs or triggers behind the behavior. Here are some strategies to respond effectively:

    • Stay Calm: Maintain a calm demeanor and avoid escalating the situation. Take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts before responding.
    • Validate Feelings: Acknowledge the student’s emotions and validate their experiences. Let them know you’re here to support and help them navigate through challenges.
    • Offer Choices: Provide the student with options to regain control and autonomy. Offer alternative activities or ways to address their needs within the classroom environment.
    • Reconnect: Focus on rebuilding the connection with the student through positive interactions and reaffirmation of their strengths. Emphasize that mistakes are opportunities for growth and learning.

    Embrace the Journey

    As you embark on implementing these time-in strategies, remember that change takes time and patience. Embrace the process with an open heart, knowing that each small step you take has the potential to make a profound difference in the lives of your students.

    Trust in the resilience of your students and yourself. Together, let’s create classrooms where joy, compassion, and learning flourish hand in hand. Let’s cultivate a culture of connection and empowerment, one time-in strategy at a time.

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    Resilience I Spy

    Finding the Circle of Courage in Action

    Start the New Year with a focus on resilience by teaching your students about the Circle of Courage. Then, challenge them to eye-spy the resilience model’s components in action. 

    Circle of Courage: A Model of Resilience

    This resilience model is easy to teach students of all ages.

    “We all have four universal needs. When these needs are met, we feel our best. But we will not feel our best if even one of the four universal needs is unmet. When even one is missing, we might feel sad, frustrated, worried, or angry. Let me tell you about the four universal needs. 

    The first one is Belonging – we feel good when we feel like we belong. This can be at school with friends or at home with our families. We feel connected to other people when we feel a sense of belonging. 

    The next universal need is Mastery. We feel good when we can accomplish and are good at something – this can be like solving a math problem, learning a new skill while playing a sport, or drawing a picture that makes us proud. 

    Independence is the third universal need. This need is met when we control our emotions and behavior. This doesn’t mean we don’t get upset – it just means if we get upset, we know what to do to help ourselves feel better, so we don’t lose our temper or misbehave. 

    The last universal need is generosity. We get this need met when we feel helpful and valuable to others. 

    To review, we all need to feel like we belong or are connected to others, are good at something, can stay in control of our emotions and behavior even when we are upset, and feel like we are valuable to other people.“

    Offer your students an I Spy Challenge

    As a fun way to start the new year, I am challenging you to a game of eye-spy. In this game, I want you to try to notice your classmates and me when we are getting any one or more of our universal needs met or helping another person obtain one of their needs.  

    Whenever you notice the Circle of Courage in action, you can raise your hand and say, “Eye-Spy”. Then, you can tell us what you saw. For example, when a classmate greets another student when they enter the room by saying, hello, they are making that person feel like they belong. If a student helps another student learn how to solve a tricky math problem, they demonstrate mastery. When a student asks for a break instead of yelling or getting angry, they are showing us independence. And, lastly, if I ask a student to bring something down to the office for me, they are being generous. 

    Ask students to give you more examples. You can add the examples to a whiteboard, so they are easy for students to reference. Then, start the challenge. You might want to have one or two students keep track of how many universal needs in action are spotted by using a tally for each.  You can play along too. Set a goal for the class for a total number of universal needs spotted during the day. Reinforce the importance of all students getting their universal needs met to feel their best. When all students are aware of others and strive to help meet their needs, the overall classroom culture and climate will improve. 

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    Calming Corners: How to Implement in your Classroom

    In the bustling world of education, where students and teachers are constantly navigating through a whirlwind of learning activities, introducing a calming corner can be an effective solution for many student needs. As reported in Starr’s Resilient Schools Project whitepaper, this is paramount to learning. While trying to individualize the instruction and social emotional supports for every student, the universal approach to creating a safe space for all students to learn is easily overlooked, but is truly the essential component of a resilience focused classroom.  

    The Importance of Calming Corners

    The modern classroom is a dynamic space filled with diverse personalities, learning styles, and energy levels. While excitement and engagement are integral to the learning process, moments of stress, anxiety, or overstimulation can also arise; having a dedicated space where students an retreat to find peace and regain their calmness is essential. This is where ‘Calming Corners’ come into play, not just as a physical space but as a transformative approach to classroom management and student well-being. ‘Calming Corners’ serve as dedicated spaces where students can take a moment away from the day’s demands, offering a retreat to regain composure and recenter their thoughts and emotions. 

    The Benefits of Calming Corners

    Children process a vast amount of sensory information daily. For some, this can be overwhelming, leading to sensory overload and emotional outbursts. Calming Corners provides a sensory-friendly area that helps students filter out the chaos and focus on regaining their emotional balance. The sensory benefits are countless but include: 

    • Visual Calm: Soft lighting and muted colors can reduce visual stimulation.  
    • Auditory Relief: Quiet spaces or the use of headphones can dampen the overwhelming noise of a busy classroom.  
    • Tactile Engagement: Access to stress balls or soft textures can offer comfort and grounding.  
    • Mindfulness Activities: ‘Time-in’ time is a great opportunity for students to do some breathing or movement to return to the center.  
    • Proprioceptive Input: Cozy furniture or weighted blankets can provide pressure that is calming to many children.  

    Designing an Effective Calming Corner

    Creating the perfect calming corner for your classroom doesn’t require a large budget or an expansive space. One of the best starting points to planning out a Calming Corner for your students is to include them in the process! Consider adding questions about what helps them feel peaceful, what type of objects help them focus, what colors make them feel calm, etc., during your next Circle Meeting. This involvement fosters a sense of ownership and ensures that the space resonates with the unique needs of the class. Here are some additional ideas and tools to help get you started:  

    • Selecting the Right Location: Choose a quiet, low-traffic area within the classroom. Ideally, the calming corner should be easily accessible but not in the midst of the main learning space. 
    • Creating a Cozy & Private Atmosphere: Use soft cushions, blankets of different weights and texture, and rugs to make the space inviting. Consider incorporating elements of nature, such as plants or nature-themed artwork, to evoke a sense of tranquility. Using bookshelves or room dividers is helpful to provide a sense of seclusion without complete isolation.  
    • Incorporating Sensory Tools – Provide a variety of sensory tools that support the students’ sensory systems.  
      • Visual: lava lamps, liquid timers, or calming jars  
      • Tactile: such as stress balls, fidget spinners, playdough or textured items.  
      • Auditory: headphones with calming music or nature sounds or noise canceling head phones 
      • Olfactory: a diffuser with calming scents such as lavender, peppermint candies to smell or eat, essential oil-infused rice bins or pillows 
      • These tools can engage different senses and help students channel excess energy or tension. 
    • Encourage Emotional Literacy – Introduce mindfulness activities, such as guided breathing exercises, calming music, or feelings charts. These visuals help children to identify and articulate their emotions while also providing them with step-by-step guides of how to practice these new skills. All of these resources can aid in relaxation and promote mindfulness. 
    • Personalization and Student Involvement – Incorporate art supplies to encourage expression through drawing or coloring, offering books about feelings can offer both comfort and learning. 
    • Maintain the Space – Keeping the area tidy and inviting on a regular basis will ensure it stays organized, warm, and inviting. Regularly rotating out the tools and resources will help to maintain the student’s interest. 

    Calming Corners are more than just a space; they are a testament to the evolving understanding of children’s emotional needs in an educational setting. In the ever-evolving education landscape, incorporating calming corners represents a thoughtful and proactive approach to student well-being. By acknowledging the diverse emotional needs of students and providing them with a dedicated space to navigate their feelings, educators can create a more holistic and supportive learning environment. As the saying goes, stressed brains can’t learn, and in the calm corners of our classrooms, students can find the balance needed to thrive academically and emotionally. 

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    How to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School | Foster Connections

    Foster Connections

    Students who feel connected to their school are also more likely to have better academic achievement, better school attendance, and stay in school longer.
     

    How can you connect to your students?

    One of the best ways to connect with your students is having classroom meetings. These meetings not only allows you to connect with students, but also allows the students to connect with each other and build community within the classroom.
     
    How can you implement a classroom meeting?
     
    Step 1: Form a shape (circle, square). Teacher and students discuss, decide, and practice:

    • Floor or chairs
    • Where, how do you get there?
    • Who do you sit by?
    • What does it look like?
    • What does it sound like?
    Step 2: Introduce a talking piece. This talking piece helps regulate communication between students. Whoever has this piece is allowed to talk. Talking pieces may be a toy, a stick, a stone, or another small object.

    Step 3: Practice using various topics to create proactive classroom meetings:

    • Get to Know You and Greetings
    • Who Am I
    • Compliments and Appreciations
    Below is a video of education professionals like yourself explaining the topics they talk about at their classroom meetings:
     

    10 Steps Book Cover

    For more implementation on how to foster connections in the classroom, check out Starr’s 
    10 Steps to Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient School!

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    How can you Create a Trauma-Informed Resilient Classroom or School?

    Step 1:  Focus on Student Resilience

    What is student resilience?

    Student Resilience is the ability to achieve positive outcomes—mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually despite adversity.

    To focus on student resilience, start by creating a set core of values and beliefs about the children you serve.  The Circle of Courage is a model of positive youth development based on the universal principle to be emotionally healthy, all youth need a sense of belonging, mastery, independence, and generosity.

    Circle of Courage


    What does this look like in a school?

    Belonging at school is when every student believes they are valued, seen, heard, and cared for.

    Mastery at school is when every student believes they can achieve despite their challenges.

    Independence at school is when every student believes they have the power to make decisions that will impact their own lives.

    Generosity at school is when every student believes they have a purpose for their lives that can positively contribute to the world.

    Click here for a resilience activity to help connect more with your students.

    Looking to learn more about how to do this in your classroom or across your building for all students? Reach out to Starr Commonwealth today for a personalized consultation about our training and consulting services to help ensure every child learns in an environment where they can flourish!

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    The Helper’s Charge to Recharge: Doing and Becoming Our Best

    Recently a teenage client asked me a question that threw me, unexpectedly. (Over the years, I’ve amassed a considerable anthology of examples on what makes them famous for this gift, so it’s not an easy thing to do these days!)

    I attended an engaging group session on characteristics of community and racial trauma, after which the group’s therapist allotted time for a “Q and A” between her adolescent clients and me, their guest. One member asked me, “How do you deal with trauma?”

    I started to summarize the vast nature of trauma, and the equally vast approaches to treating it – then asked him for an example of the type of trauma he was referring to. He repeated his question, “No – how do you deal with trauma?”

    “How do I?” I asked, taken aback.

    “Yes,” he replied. “You hear about other people’s trauma every day, so how do you deal with it?”

    I was struck by the sophistication of his question, especially when I realized what he was really asking. He wasn’t asking me about my trauma, or how I’m impacted by other people’s trauma. He was asking me about my resilience! I paused to evaluate why I felt so caught off guard, and was reminded: As helpers, this is something we don’t discuss often enough.

    I started listing some of my self-care practices: yoga, meditation, playing in an ensemble, spending time with loved ones and reflective consulting with supervisors. (Heads nodded as they recognized some of these as the very techniques they’re encouraged to adopt.) I summed up by echoing their therapist’s message on the universal requirement for dealing with trauma: “Just like you, I don’t do it alone.”

    [Re]charging toward resilience.   

    The helper bears significant weight in leading this complicated, and often painful, journey with clients. Sensory-based interventions assist us with helping clients access, activate, integrate and heal their body, mind and spirit – and the therapeutic relationship navigates this path, as we work to know our client’s trauma as they know it. The interventions offered through Starr Commonwealth (Zero to Three: Trauma Interventions, SITCAP®, Mind Body Skills, Expressive Arts Therapy, etc.) provide the tools to treat the psychophysiology of child trauma with activities that are:

    • relationship-based and experiential
    • adaptive to myriad stages of child development
    • inherently designed to foster empathic attunement within the therapeutic relationship

    The attunement we establish with the client can put us closer in touch with our own vulnerability, as we become proximate to theirs – while also providing the opportunity to connect with our own resiliency, as we help them build theirs. In doing so, we charge toward the horizon of resiliency, as our clients reclaim their power from a place of wholeness.

    What charges the charge?

    We know that self-care is essential to maintaining health and wellness, and defending against the perils of secondary traumatic stress and vicarious trauma. Part of maintaining personal well-being includes solitary space to reflect. Whether on our yoga mat, steeped in a hot bath, sprawled on the masseuse’s table, napping, walking, running or cycling to achieve that meditative hum in perpetual motion, physical care is essential to a healthy mind, body and spirit. But how much of our self care are we doing alone?

    A barrage of solitary self-care routines do not make a complete self-care practice.

    Without relationship, connection and support in spaces where reflective processing occurs, our self-care practices leave us… alone. Staying healthy, staving off symptoms of secondary traumatic stress and avoiding compassion fatigue are all critical aims, of course. But, the act of being reflective within a relationship is critical, whether through individual or group supervision/consultation. Our dear friend, Dr. Jeree Pawl, PhD, offers us a wise navigational compass toward the parallel process, in The Platinum Rule:

    “Do unto others as you would have others do unto others.”

    We draw upon on the tenets of Polyvagal and Attachment Theories to provide sensory-based, integrated approaches to healing the individual and interpersonal wounds of trauma. We engage the fields of the brain and nervous systems to help our clients heal and achieve resiliency – and how we restore our own depleted systems informs our capacity to do so. As helpers, it’s our charge to sustain and advance this capacity. We require a space where we’re held with what we hold, seen with what we see, and can be shown what has not yet been revealed while reflecting on our own. Maintaining a reflective practice in a relationship helps elevate our ability to hold that crucial space for clients through the parallel process. Thinking about self-care as a means of advancing our efficacy as helpers prompts us to consider it as a key to simultaneously putting ourselves and our clients first. When we take better care of us, we take better care of them.

    Pawl, J. H., & St John, M. (1998). How You Are Is as Important as What You Do… in Making a Positive Difference for Infants, Toddlers and Their Families. Zero to Three, 734 15th Street, NW, Suite 1000, Washington, DC 20005-1013